Rello55 Posted May 20, 2011 Share Posted May 20, 2011 (edited) While back in January my ex of 3yrs left me for someone else and like anybody else i was really hurt and couldnt deal with the lose at all! i was talking to her everyday tryna convince her that what she was doing wasnt right but i realized that did nothing but pushed her away so i went into LC (Limited Contact) and it seemed like it was working. I asked her if she missed me and she said yes it was obvious at that moment because she would send me a text very often talking about one of the memories we had when me and her was 2gether (reminiscing about the past) she did it so often that it really annoyed me and i asked her to stop doing that cause her doing that made it an obvious outcome which was her leaving that new guy and trying to patch things up with me so after i told her to stop i went into complete NC its almost had ben 2months now idk what to do it doesnt seem like this NC contact thing isnt working just because of how she's acting like nothing is bothering her (I'm assuming all of this because of her FB page) I really need some advice from someone that was in the same situation or someone that knew a person in this situation i want her to miss me and come begging me to take her back! p.s I have heard the move on story and all the things that are easily said then done so i dont really want to hear those things just helpful advice thanx Edited May 20, 2011 by Rello55 Link to post Share on other sites
bonpaw2008 Posted May 20, 2011 Share Posted May 20, 2011 K - not sure what kind of advice beside move on you are expecting. First off, if you are stalking her FB page you are not on NC. Stop it, she is not part of your life anymore, she broke up with you, and you asked her to not contact you. You have been doing great, this whole journey is a freaking roller coaster full of ups and downs. You will be better tomorrow or next week or next month. You won't even think about her for a whole day. And then you will hear a stupid song that will crumble you and you have to start all over again. But each time you crumble the pieces seem bigger and easier to put back together. Good luck dude, you got this! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rello55 Posted May 20, 2011 Author Share Posted May 20, 2011 No im not stalking her page she is still my friend on FB and i see her statuses and stuff like that and i know its way easier for me now i dont even think about her like that i dont think u understand but thanx im doing way better though Link to post Share on other sites
bonpaw2008 Posted May 20, 2011 Share Posted May 20, 2011 I get exactly what you mean. You are trying to use NC to make her miss you and want you back. Please read the links in my signature. NC is about you, this girl broke up with you and is with someone else. I get that you don't want to move on, I get that you want her back but that isn't happening. NC means no FB, no texting, no drive-bys. NC is for you to figure out what you want to do with the rest of your life, not for focusing on her and every word she types. If she comes back and wants to get back together, NC will help you have a clear head, decide if you even want to take someone back that left you for someone else. I hope you get it, purgatory sucks Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rello55 Posted May 20, 2011 Author Share Posted May 20, 2011 Yeah i realized that too and my head is clearing i am better trust me i am n yes i did want her back and wanted her to miss me but i also realized me talking to her doesnt help me it only benefits her so NC helps both ways to me i just been focusing on me alot improving myself just for myself n i just deactivated my FB and evrything so im on a good path Link to post Share on other sites
bonpaw2008 Posted May 20, 2011 Share Posted May 20, 2011 GREAT - sorry if I was harsh...and FB was created by Satan to bring people that you haven't talked to in 20 years back in your life (when there was a reason you didn't talk to them in the first place!) and to tempt you into dissecting every word, every friend request, every link to try to figure out what someone is feeling. Best wishes Link to post Share on other sites
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