In luv w/a muslim Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 my boy friend has now told me he has an attraction with my mom he doesnt want to break up with me he wants me and my mom to share him he has only seen her 3 times in his life. and i love my mom to death but shes not exactly attractive........ and my mom doesnt even trust my bf let alone want to be with him and she doesnt like to date out of her own race and shes happily married with four kids but he keeps saying he wants to get to know my mom. and have both of us and i keep telling him he has no chance with her and i told him to stop ..... but he continues to say well wut if i ask your step dad if i could take me and my mom to dinner and i told him .... that my mom doesnt see him like that she doesnt even trust him cuz he dumped me for the first time on christmas for another girl cpl months later we got back together and my parents are only letting me be with him cuz it wut makes me happy....... and dumping him is outta the question i wont leave him.. help me ..... (((((( my bf is muslim by the way. im wite)))))) do you think it could be some sort of test or is he serious? Link to post Share on other sites
ThisGirlNameKD Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 I don't know how many guys would joke over and over again about wanting to hit their girlfriend's mother. I take it this guy is serious. Unfortunately, the only way to make it stop is to leave his behind. He's disrepectful to your mother and he doesn't honor the relationship she has with her husband. Neither does he respect you if he's talking about having a threesome with you and your mother. Link to post Share on other sites
reasontosigh Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 Take away his Fountains Of Wayne CD. Does your mom or stepdad know about this, by the way? Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 It's funny in the song because the kid's like 8. I don't know an awful lot about Islam, but I doubt this is sanctioned. It's possible that he was joking, but not likely. Either way, don't attempt to 'share him', simply break it off and find someone who isn't interested in your mother. You say that dumping him is out of the question, but you don't deserve to be helped until you help yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
capitald Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 The only thing I could say, is this guy for real? Hmm, it just sounds like a bad idea. How the hell would that even get into his head. This guy has a very small sense of his boundaries, he thinks all the world is just an extension of himself and that everyone is part of the immature masturabation session fantasy world going on inside his head. This guy is not pyschologically healthy. Link to post Share on other sites
Crys0369 Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 reasontosigh Take away his Fountains Of Wayne CD. Hahaha... Gross! If leaving him is "out of the question" then it looks like you're screwed. Why would you want to be with someone so hot for your mom anyway? Sorry girl but that's no good. Anyhoo, ask him how he'd feel if you were askin' him all about his dad... Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 When I was 15, a guy asked me out who had a super crush on my Mom. He admitted it to me during our first date. (My Mom was a high school teacher.) My Dad thought he was a pimply faced dweeb, my Mom thought he was creepy and I quit dating him after the first month. I don't know what to say about this guy. It depends on his age and how serious he is. He's either immature or nutty..... Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 You may want to watch this. Don't drink anything during your viewing. http://www.ebaumsworld.com/homebase.html Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 LMAO Kev!!!! Talk about 'payback SUCKS'!!! Link to post Share on other sites
chrissy4534624 Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 OH MY GOD GET RID OF THIS FRIGGEN RETART RIGHT NOW. ARE YOU INSANE? LET SOME GUY TALK ABOUT MY MOTHER LIKE THAT AND I WOULD PUT A STEEL TOE BOOT UP HIS ASS SO QUICK. When you said "wants to be with" you MEANT sexually right? He said he wants you both together sexually? I hope I'm not confusing your post because that is friggen gross seriously. It's disrespectful and unacceptable! If he wants you both together he probably wants some of your friends to bang him too.. dump the freak and find a decent guy because that is just wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 NORMALLY, I would agree with you Chrissy. But again....young men CAN develop crushes on older women and not mean it as perverted as it sounds. Again, it depends on his age and level of maturity. Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 Read your own post again. Did you do it? Read it again. Now read it one more time. Do you really want to put up with this guy? He sounds a bit wrong in the head, don't you agree? I think it's time to change your policy on not dumping him — Leave him. Link to post Share on other sites
i dream of a muslim Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 Originally posted by faux Read your own post again. Did you do it? Read it again. Now read it one more time. Do you really want to put up with this guy? He sounds a bit wrong in the head, don't you agree? I think it's time to change your policy on not dumping him — Leave him. see the thing is i cant live with out him. ive tried breaking up with him i told him hes a sick sadistic freak....... that needs to grow some balls not even an hour later im calling him and telling him im sorry and we go back out he wants me as a gf but hes just attracted to her he thinks shes cute and has a nice smile..... and he says when me and him get married that my mom can live with us wen my step dad dies and well be one happy family... he put me through so much crap. and paine. but wen this **** doesnt go on we r as happy as ever..... and i know it will probably blow over. but wut puzzles me as that the love and the great unexplainable sex we have could come between a lil sick crush he has on my mom........he said he wants kids withme and a kid with her if she moves in with us wen my step dad dies. she be like in her 70's or 80's wen that happens eeeeew....... ----Natalee Link to post Share on other sites
i dream of a muslim Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 hes18 and im almost 17 and we do so much $#!+ i do every thing for him (((sexually that i thought i would never do and im making his fantasy come true...)))))))) so i dont see what hes missing hes got some 1 who loves him takes all his $#!+.... but then he does this crap.. im about to go crawl in a little ball in my corner and rock back in forth while huming the gilligans island theme song to my self im going in sane....... ----Natalee Link to post Share on other sites
chrissy4534624 Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 arabess - agreed... if hes really young i can understand, like a crush on a teacher.... i dream of a muslim- DID U SAY HE WANTS TO LIVE WITH U WHEN YOUR STEP DAD DIES? IS YOUR STEP DAD SICK? IF NOT YOUR DUDE HAS TO GO, IF HES HAVING FANTASIES ABOUT LIVING WITH U AND UR MOM AND UR STEP DADS OUTTA THE PICTURE HE IS A FRIGGEEN SICKO AND U ARE JUST STUPID TO STAY WITH HIM. I DONT CARE HOW MUCH U "CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT HIM" ...HIS WISH FOR UR STEPDAD TO BE GONE SO HE CAN HAVE U BOTH IS SICK AND TWISTED AND WHO KNOWS WHAT ELSE HES GOT GOING IN THAT LITTLE MIND OF HIS HOW OLD IS HE? Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 Originally posted by i dream of a muslim hes18 and im almost 17 and we do so much $#!+ i do every thing for him (((sexually that i thought i would never do and im making his fantasy come true...)))))))) so i dont see what hes missing hes got some 1 who loves him takes all his $#!+.... but then he does this crap.. im about to go crawl in a little ball in my corner and rock back in forth while huming the gilligans island theme song to my self im going in sane....... ----Natalee If he is making you miserable....why do you continue to put up with it???? That's not love....it's a strange co-dependence. It makes no sense. If he was 19....I WOULD be offended at him having 'sexual thoughts' about my Mom. That's CREEPY as hell. Link to post Share on other sites
i dream of a muslim Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 Originally posted by Arabess If he is making you miserable....why do you continue to put up with it???? That's not love....it's a strange co-dependence. It makes no sense. If he was 19....I WOULD be offended at him having 'sexual thoughts' about my Mom. That's CREEPY as hell. you guys dont get it tho it will litterally kill me if i break up withhim. i stopped eating for days ata time im still going through therapy from after he broke up with me that 1 time. all my grades have literally droped to all failing grades. well they were wen we broke up but wen we got back to gether i gained back 5 lb. b4 i lost 25lb in 3 weeks...... now i way back to 105lb. now with this **** is scaring me again....... Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 You can't live without a guy who disrespects you and your Mom???? I doubt this is a 'food problem' with you. I think you are reacting like that to somehow let him know you are willing to give yourself to his subservient wierd views. You aren't a female slave....and weren't created to be one. If you think becoming one will make you more acceptable to this guy....you are WRONG! He didn't look for a woman and a harem under a camel tent....this is AMERICA.....we don't share our Mom's and starve ourselves for a GUY! You are 17 years old. If I were your parents....you would never see him again while you went through some serious therapy. This is ridiculous. You don't NEED his affections to be able to 'sustain' yourself with food. This is potentially very harmful to you and is just full of silly drama. Link to post Share on other sites
i dream of a muslim Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 Originally posted by Arabess You can't live without a guy who disrespects you and your Mom???? I doubt this is a 'food problem' with you. I think you are reacting like that to somehow let him know you are willing to give yourself to his subservient wierd views. You aren't a female slave....and weren't created to be one. If you think becoming one will make you more acceptable to this guy....you are WRONG! He didn't look for a woman and a harem under a camel tent....this is AMERICA.....we don't share our Mom's and starve ourselves for a GUY! You are 17 years old. If I were your parents....you would never see him again while you went through some serious therapy. This is ridiculous. You don't NEED his affections to be able to 'sustain' yourself with food. This is potentially very harmful to you and is just full of silly drama. i just cant leave him. im not trying to be a female slave . to become more exceptable. all im saying is that i dont see why he has this weird sick fantasy wen im giving him wut he wants. im doing this stuff cuz i want to to not just for him for me 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Crys0369 Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 I've gone through the whole "not eatting" thing after a break up. ITS NORMAL. And believe it or not, you get over it. What's NOT normal is him saying "I want to have a child with you and one with your mom when she's 70". C'mon. You don't need all of us to tell you just how discusting that is...YOURE YOUNG. And once you leave, you're gonna look back in a little while or so and realize just how stupid it was to be with him at all... Link to post Share on other sites
i dream of a muslim Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 Originally posted by Crys0369 I've gone through the whole "not eatting" thing after a break up. ITS NORMAL. And believe it or not, you get over it. What's NOT normal is him saying "I want to have a child with you and one with your mom when she's 70". C'mon. You don't need all of us to tell you just how discusting that is...YOURE YOUNG. And once you leave, you're gonna look back in a little while or so and realize just how stupid it was to be with him at all... hes not saying wen shes 70.... i said that by the time my step dad dies shell be that age Link to post Share on other sites
Crys0369 Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 Same thing. It's not a matter of how old she'll be when you're step dad dies. It's a matter of he said HE WANTS A CHILD WITH YOU AND WITH HER... Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 You are starving yourself for a GUY......WHY??????????????? He would only be going back to you out of fear that you would starve yourself to the point of dying. That does NOT give you love.....it only offers you pity. Second thought....maybe he isn't interested in your Mom at all. Maybe he's just trying to get you to dislike him enough so he can move on without all this guilt you are throwing on him. Your reactions are WRONG. You are trying to force your way with your parents and with this guy. This will not come back as a positive thing for you. You don't FORCE your way in love and life by threatening to starve yourself. It is very manipulative and will NEVER win his respect or his love. Link to post Share on other sites
ThisGirlNameKD Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 Let me hip you to alittle reality: Just because you're doing everything sexually to him that he wants and he could possibly think of does not mean he will not leave you or want someone else. Okay, he wants all kinds of sex, but he does not want it all with you. He's cheated on you once, and now he's talking about wanting to have a baby by you and your mother. This guy does not love you. In fact, you have not given a reason for him to love you and treat you right because you don't love yourself. He's just walking over you because you allow him to. Sex don't keep nobody hanging on but those who depend on it. He's not depending on you for sex even if you are doing everything he wants and even if the sex is incredible. He could have incredible sex with someone else. I think he's making that message loud and clear to you, and you're ignoring it hoping and wishing that he would change and be so into you. It ain't gonna happen. You have an unhealthy dependency on this guy. You might want to consider losing him and building up your self-esteem. That's the only way you're gonna find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. He's not gonna do it. Link to post Share on other sites
i dream of a muslim Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 Originally posted by Arabess You are starving yourself for a GUY......WHY??????????????? He would only be going back to you out of fear that you would starve yourself to the point of dying. That does NOT give you love.....it only offers you pity. Second thought....maybe he isn't interested in your Mom at all. Maybe he's just trying to get you to dislike him enough so he can move on without all this guilt you are throwing on him. Your reactions are WRONG. You are trying to force your way with your parents and with this guy. This will not come back as a positive thing for you. You don't FORCE your way in love and life by threatening to starve yourself. It is very manipulative and will NEVER win his respect or his love. not starving my self for him i just didnt feel like eating and after a whil it got to the point were i would skip meals to even skip a cpl of days of eating.... i was just to upset to eat Link to post Share on other sites
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