landr Posted May 21, 2011 Share Posted May 21, 2011 I really need to get some things off my chest, and see what you all think... I'm going through a lot of serious changes in my life right now, and as a result I feel like I do not want to see my family next month ...My father who lives in Australia is coming to the states (I'm in the U.S.) with his girlfriend. My younger brother is planning on coming into town for a few days to coincide with our father's trip. I have an older sister who lives nearby as well. So, basically, it would be a family reunion of sorts. One leg of the reunion will involve driving a few hours away to visit with some other relatives, too. Here's the thing, I'm going through so much personally in my life right now, going through a lot of serious psychological growth, and I feel like I need major distance from my family. I know it sounds terrible, but I don't want to see them. The timing couldn't be worse. On top of all the stuff I'm going through, there are residual funky family dynamics that I absolutely do not want to revisit. Yes, I love my family, but it's just all too much for me right now. I've got to figure out a way to get out of being part of this reunion. By the way, I've always been the "accommodating" one in the family, going along with everyone else's plans. Not anymore, I can't take that role right now in my life. I did see my father last year and I have seen my siblings within the last week (for one) and 4 months (the other). I don't want to be in one room with all of us. It's like things revert back to un-evolved dynamics and there's usually always tension of some kind. HOW can I get out of this reunion? They will be shocked because they think I don't ever have my own plans and things, like I'm just always 'goin with the crowd'. But I'm going to get out of this one way or another. It truly is for a good reason. Please help with some ideas... Link to post Share on other sites
Author landr Posted May 21, 2011 Author Share Posted May 21, 2011 PLEASE help I need ideas Link to post Share on other sites
pilotDXB Posted June 2, 2011 Share Posted June 2, 2011 Quite often (short of a catastrophic case of family dysfunctionality) there are some irritants when it comes to putting an entire family into one room - i've experienced it myself. Sometimes you just have to roll with the tide on these things. Or, invent a "business trip". Link to post Share on other sites
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