Country_Girl Posted May 22, 2011 Share Posted May 22, 2011 I'm tired of this. My Ex has played the whole "I miss you, I love you" game for the last 3 months, been separated for 5 months. He called today and I finally wanted to put an end to it, told him I was seeing someone. I didn't say it to hurt him, but I am tired of the random phone calls in the middle of the night that go nowhere. Go figure, now he's interested in me again... Link to post Share on other sites
homebrew Posted May 22, 2011 Share Posted May 22, 2011 (edited) Most Exes come back because... 1. Drama 2. Ego 3. Safety net 4. Lonely 5. Sex 6. Want what they can't have 7. Challenge 8. Bored 9. etc. Other Exes come back because... 1. They realized they made a mistake. 2. They grew up. 3. They really did miss you. 4. They want what you want now. 5. Never met or felt the same about someone as they did you. 6. etc. The difficult part for most dumpee's... determining which group their Ex is currently in. Edited May 22, 2011 by homebrew Link to post Share on other sites
dng Posted May 22, 2011 Share Posted May 22, 2011 The difficult part for most dumpee's... determining which group their Ex is currently in. Currently being the operative word. I find the situation changes all the time. Whenever I was getting strong signals for a possible reconciliation I would wait a few days to a few weeks to be certain she meant it and ooops, whenever we talked later, the situation had changed yet again. Best go NC forever, now that I know better. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted May 22, 2011 Share Posted May 22, 2011 Currently being the operative word. I find the situation changes all the time. Whenever I was getting strong signals for a possible reconciliation I would wait a few days to a few weeks to be certain she meant it and ooops, whenever we talked later, the situation had changed yet again. Best go NC forever, now that I know better. From my own experience unfortunately I'd have to agree with dng. Their opinion seems to change depending on their mood. Link to post Share on other sites
bonpaw2008 Posted May 22, 2011 Share Posted May 22, 2011 Yes I hate to be cynical but I have to agree with dng. Mine has pulled that kind of stuff before, saying he missed me, he messed up, etc. As soon as he reeled me back in he either told me that he never said those things or that he didn't mean it like that. WTF? I told him after the third time he tried this that I needed to see how he was actually going to change the situation, how this whole "running away" thing wasn't going to happen again. He said "oh, what needs to change? I thought you were finally going to be ok with the way that I want things to be". Just selfish and stupid. Anyway, if they were able to break up with you once they will do it again. Link to post Share on other sites
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