sharl4real Posted May 22, 2011 Share Posted May 22, 2011 Well, we've been 2geda for a 5mnths now but the last month hasnt been easy. First the communication between us began reducing, coming from his side though cos i tried to call him as much as i could, he on the contrary, would sometimes be very unavailable, when i confronted him about that he said, i should bare with him, because he was stressed out but promised it was going to get better, but it didnt, somedays he's phone will completely be turned out. The thing is being in a distant relationship, i kinda trusted him and didnt want to think of any other reasons for his absences. But ive really been nagging about him not playing his part in the relationship and his reply would be 'it will get better' . Last week we had a lame fight because he texted me and i didnt reply, but it was a misunderstanding cos i actually replied but he didnt get it, so instead i yelled back at him for accusing me forcely, so he just used an escape strategy and said he was gonna call me back. He hasnt called till 2day, he's phone has been turned off the whole week, it rang yesterday but he wouldnt pick my calls. I'm not really sure what to do, let him be and move on or just let the storm calm till when he's ready to talk to me Link to post Share on other sites
sirens_song Posted May 23, 2011 Share Posted May 23, 2011 I would move on, but that's just me. Long distance relationships are difficult, period. The only thing you have to keep your relationship going is communication. It sounds as if you two have a terrible time with communicating, which is why everything is going to crap. You have confronted him and expressed your unhappiness in regards to his lack of effort. He isn't fixing the problem. It may seem like a hard thing to do because you have feelings for him, but believe me, you will probably be happier if you move on. I used to think that I'd never find anyone again while dating a boyfriend that I was "almost happy with", but I turned out to be wrong every time. There are MILLIONS of people out there that are right for you, there isn't just one. Move on, life is too short to be unhappy. Link to post Share on other sites
creighton0123 Posted May 24, 2011 Share Posted May 24, 2011 In a long distance relationship, you really can't afford to fight and argue as you would in a local relationship. You had a fight because he texted you, you responded, and he didn't get the response? Is that really a fight worth having or a "shrug and move on" moment? If you two can't settle and compromise on the level and type of communication, it is going to be very difficult for you to work as a long distance couple. My best advice is this: Just because you can communicate doesn't mean you need to. If you both have access to a computer and internet connection, invest in a webcam, get an account for just the two of you, and enable it for auto-accept on video calls. Replacing phone chat with video is an amazing tool for LDR couples. Just having the video open, both ends on mute, and being able to see your partner while you're doing other things is amazing. What is your time difference like and do you have any plan for ending the long distance aspect of the relationship? Don't forget: There are so many other methods of communication aside from phone and text messaging. Link to post Share on other sites
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