13 years of with the Wife and now she tells me?

[Chi townD]

if that phone is listed under our account, you should be able to call your phone carrier and request a break down over the last few months to be sent to you. I would also hide a voice activated recorder in her car somewhere, you can pretty much pick these up at any electronic stores. But, more than likely, any conversations you pick up can't be used in court. However, it can give you some answer you are looking for.

 

And if you do find something. NEVER.....EVER reveal your sources. Never let her know HOW you found out.

 

If you can't find her phone, then she's probably guarding it (which isn't a good sign.)

[reboot]

Time to lawyer up.

[coolheadal]

if that phone is listed under our account, you should be able to call your phone carrier and request a break down over the last few months to be sent to you. I would also hide a voice activated recorder in her car somewhere, you can pretty much pick these up at any electronic stores. But, more than likely, any conversations you pick up can't be used in court. However, it can give you some answer you are looking for.

 

And if you do find something. NEVER.....EVER reveal your sources. Never let her know HOW you found out.

 

If you can't find her phone, then she's probably guarding it (which isn't a good sign.)

 

Yes strange where is this cell phone hiding and it never rings. She's always texting on it. Drives one up the wall. But in all I have all our pictures off the walls. She finally got one late Sunday then on Monday she was here off. Got mad at me for taking down our pictures. So what if I did! She wants to end things.

 

So this is the final break-down.. She wants to give the house back to the bank she wants her own apt. She'll take one of the two dogs I'll take the other one back with me to my other home I own. She doesn't want to go through another winter snow clean-up (she really didn't help clean the snow) Rents for her new apt is from 950 to 1050 a month good luck with that!

 

She wants to stay friends well I am nice we can. But I am no way coming back to this town ever again.

 

An no matter what she does not want to live with me again and keeps on telling me it's not my fault it's her's. She has no other man in her life just girl friends she's chilling with.

 

We have started to divide up the stuff around the house. That's pretty much it for now.

 

Still I see she's trying to get me to do things for her but I told her get off you blank and do it yourself as she tells me the same why can't she do it. Until everything is settled she's have to live with me for now. She doesn't want to live with her parents or friends. I am sure they have rules and she doesn't like to follow them.

 

Once I pack-up my stuff get the truck here connect my other car to it I am gone finish! See ya later if ever!

[Steen719]

Good Lord, I feel for you. You know what? Good riddance! I know you do not believe it, but there are many wonderful women out there who do not cheat on their husbands. Many of the women I know do not and I have never cheated on mine. Sorry to say, he did not repay that to me, but that is another story.

You will be so much happier once you are through with this and have some time behind you. You will be great!

[coolheadal]

Good Lord, I feel for you. You know what? Good riddance! I know you do not believe it, but there are many wonderful women out there who do not cheat on their husbands. Many of the women I know do not and I have never cheated on mine. Sorry to say, he did not repay that to me, but that is another story.

You will be so much happier once you are through with this and have some time behind you. You will be great!

 

Yes many women out there too with issues like her. I have to be much careful next time. This is going to drag out for two more months being friends. I won't do much for her though and clean her dirty cloths that she just dumps around the house. I just put it in one pile and the our two dogs have made a bed out of it.

 

Today was the first time I left the house without the wedding band on, it felt weird to me, like something was missing. She's still wearing her two rings, like nothing is wrong. She's acting weird to me since I came to agreement. Like now she's floating around me.

 

She got boxes from work to help with her move. But we have plenty of boxes here she just needs to go through them and see what she doesn't want. She's messy. I had got her and build a closet organizer last year. So she could take care of the MBR closet. The wife hasn't done anything just dump all her new store purchases of un-open bags pile up in there.

 

Never ending story...

[coolheadal]

I feel trapped now! Today the door bell rings and it was the postman. I am not accepting any certified letter for her. She hasn't paid the Mortgage and won't do it. That's on her. I have my own house in my name this one was on her anyway. I had the townhouse up here but she didn't like it so we got this house that she really wanted so badly. A house she won't take care of! She never unpacked the over 300 boxes brought here from the townhouse and the only one who did was her parents! They were here a couple of times and I had to get them out and one day I lost it and had paid the price. She told me I had stepped over the line she was P-O!

 

Oh well they were coming over all the time and doing what they had wanted which was rude. So after 4-5 years here now she's ready to end everything. So now that out of the way. She told me when you get me my B-day present also tap on this too. I said what B-Day present. You don't want to stay married to me and you still want a gift for a Wife would get. I said you be lucky if you got a Friend Card because that's what you said you wanted to be now!

 

I can't believe her and she expect things like that. I am here always and she's gone out to Red Lobster and such and spending money that should be for the Mortgage and not paying it. I also remember her saying once there was a Judgement Lean on the House. I don't know what happen to that, as again was in her name. Boy what a mess she has to deal with. When I got everything I going to take and sell off my kitchen stuff stove, refrig, dishwasher and might even do the dryer too. I would like to take my HE washing machine with me cost so much why leave or sell it. I have second car to sell also.

 

She has to make payments on $40,000 SUV and if she misses a payment they'll send out the Repo Man or Women to take it away from her. I am also dropping car insurance on that for the Fall season she's covered until then. Watch how expensive that's going to be now. She'll have $1,000 rent, Car payments over $500 bucks, Car insurance over $500 bucks and life won't be so fun without me around.

 

But in all I think it's time for me to leave as I don't see any future with her and I don't want to be around her family again! I can't stand them and their rude behavior.

 

As for us we still sleep in the same KING size been in CA-KING Frame so the mattress moves around or you feet drop off or your head falls down. It's along story that one. I told her you can keep the Master Bed Room Set a set she hasn't dusted off in 4-5 years the mirror is full of dust. I use to clean it and gave up. She has clothes all over the room you can barely walk around it.

 

Who ever gets her after me is going to be in for a big surprise. You have to get Ready-Maid Service to clean up after her.

[coolheadal]

Nightmare is just half of it. Friday evening I get a call from her asking me if I want to go to the movies. This is odd she's calling from her Mothers again she doesn't show-up here for dinner. I have completely written her off that dinner list if you know what I mean.

 

She wanted to see the Hangover II movie. I really don't care for it. But that had started around 9:30pm. I told here I should be ready. But later on to make sure she didn't try to go out afterwards, I had my own game plan. So near that time I get a call from her saying I need you to pump gas into my car. I told her why don't you do it. She said I don't want too. Don't get me started with this stuff she tries to pull this when she doesn't want to spend her own money for a vehicle that uses a lot of gas.

 

I told her there was a change of plans so the movie will be X Men First Class. So that started additional 30 mins. She was fine with it. Soon she came home after that. And told me after I had to ask here did she buy the gas and fill up her tank herself. Which she did. Don't know why she has to be such a head case with me.

 

We get to the movies but I am man so I pay to get in at the cost of $10.75 a pop for Adult and if it was a 3D movie it would be $15. Way to much to see a movie today. Anyway I pay the later and turn around and the Wife was gone. What she should have said hey I going to get some popcorn no the rude wife just leaves. I hate that.

 

I have to go and tell her off in a public place for what she did. But in her mind it's "whatever". Since I had pay to get us in it was only fair she was going to pop for the popcorn and drink. Her thing is to buy one drink and share. She's still doing what her Mother had did when she was a kid. Why change now. She buys one huge tub of Popcorn, since she was paying I had added some thing to that list.

 

The experience in the Theater wasn't the same I felt odd at times. I know deep down I would like things to change and have her be the Wife I had wanted but it's not happening like that. We did have a good time watching the movie. She was nice to me though. Sometimes too nice.

 

After the movie was over it was 12:30a and she still wanted to go out. Can you believe that!

 

I got her to stay with me and wife another movie or TV. Later in the night she does that thing in bed. But frankly you have me but she has to do it her way.

There is something different about her with me in the bed and not I see she tells me "she love me" and holds me in her arms but yet when it comes to romance or body contact role play she doesn't want to do it with me. Now it's even worst. She'll tell me to get off her and then tell me a story why or it never get's told like she doesn't want to be bothered. She tells me there isn't anyone else as if there was she would have been gone sooner.

 

So what the heck she's doing? The next day we had to get up since she wanted to get that Apart where one of the dogs can live with her. No matter what she's still wants to live on her own. But what us? I shouldn't even bother with her but this is own relationship at best.

 

At 11am we go and meet with the Leasing Agent she was nice but later on I see she's lazy and don't like to do her own laundry like my Wife is they depend on their Mother's to do it. Well the only reason why I had gone is to see if she was really serious about this how it was going to work.

 

She expects me to come back to here to visit her. I told her no way you can come and visit with me. But I see the look in her eyes and it's like something shady is going on.

 

You have house already but you don't want it anymore all that money gone into this house and she wants to go back to apartment which cost more than on her own to pay. She fills out the applications for the new place and gives the girl $200 bucks to hold a it for her. Not even 20 mins at the sandwich shop she gets a text saying she didn't get approved for Credit. But she could have a second chance to get the place if she puts up $3,400 buck. Crazy!

 

Funny she acts like everything is normal but it really isn't. She get her wedding rings clean. She wears everything I got her jewelery wise. Soon after that she had taken me home that was around 2:30pm before she left to go take out her nephews she told me she won't be own tonight. There she goes again I say.

 

It's 7:50am the next morning so where the heck can she be? I still think in my gut there is someone else. She just won't tell me. The way she acts in the bed and otherwise.

 

A friend of mine told me I should ask her to keep me on her health insurance plan. I frankly wanted to get her off my car insurance. When I had told her she was going to have to take that over she had lost it. Starting saying fine your off my health insurance plan. Your going to be nasty over this situation.

 

That's all she saids to day going to be nasty or nice in this situation. But how can you be nice the way things are going. Nothing good coming from it except she's getting what she wants.

[coolheadal]

No nothing like that happen so it would be considered no bad move. She's the one trying to make contact. It's bad enough.

 

The house is in her name. My friends lawyer friend told him I have no say in this house even though I had paid out over 48,000 buck for the Mortgage which never seems to go down.

 

Townhouse is gone it's been 4 years that was in my name as everything was. Today only 1 bill is in my name and she caused them to turn off the power. As she wanted to take care of the bills as she wasn't doing it. Kept on saying whatever. I had to take charge of the affairs here. It's a shame I can't get anything back from this house.

 

I own my own home other than this one she owns and has mess up the Mortgage with the Bank. But it's not here far way like a 2 day drive. Still that's where I had wanted her and me to grow and raise kids. But she didn't like good clean good living. Oh well I was going down there to check on things so now I'll be going and not coming back. Her way was I go down and come back up. Never going to happen. That would be nuts for me to do that.

 

She doesn't want to get lawyers involved. Shoot they may give me everything but I don't want this house. the Mortgage is so high it's not worth it.

 

Right now she's taking the Master bedroom stuff and the living room stuff. I am selling the kitchen stuff is what I had pay for and taking the dinning room, SOHO and gym stuff I got also the new Washer is going. She doesn't even wash her clothes.

 

I did forget to mention after all of that what happen she had the gall to talk about what type of Birthday gift I was suppose to get her. Never going to happen.

 

My gift is that I am leaving you to give you your space!

 

Today around 2:30pm (12 hours later) she comes home. I don't think I can go through another week of this madness with here.

 

Now she's telling me she can say a bunch of money if I take both dogs with me. Again she doesn't want to take care of not even one dog. So then she would be more free.

 

Not having it! She needs to keep her agreements. But this wishy-washy mentality is dangerous.

[coolheadal]

Latest bombshell she came clean yesterday. I see not just girlfriends over that house it's men also. She still have men taking her out buying her drinks and such. That's called dating to me no matter what she saids it's just her crew. Yeah right what the heck to do you take me for. But she said you shouldn't get upset nothing happening just going out and watching TV that's all we're doing.

 

Why are you going out with them when your married to me. But you see how she thinks and this is how it is with here. And she's so worried about her birthday present from me won't be coming. She is so right it won't. My gift to you is that I gone on your birthday!

 

As I see it the bank will take this house right under her and that has nothing to do with me.

 

She was rambling on and on about how she doesn't like the house (she got) Wish it could be lifted up and moved somewhere else. (what next your mom house) This is a very nice area couldn't be better. But still not good enough for her.

 

Well good that she was able to tell there wasn't any romance in this so called marriage and to me it felt more like roomies living with each other and not the other way around.

 

Her two best girl friends told her she was making huge mistake to let me go but, I don't want to be around here after the dating nonsense is going on. Marriage should mean more to her that just wearing the rings but it doesn't seem to play out like that in her head.

 

I feel so low to the ground now after that shocker yesterday. I see it's just going to get worst each day, I need to get my head in gear and start packing and selling my stuff I am not taking to my other house I own.

 

This place was huge mistake and total disaster!

[coolheadal]

One more think I did confront her about those pictures of herself showing off boobs in naked shots like she was some sort of kinky girl on a web cam. There was a picture of a guy who was looking through his computer. What the heck was all that about. She said what's wrong doing that. I was so shocked when I first seen that last month. But she's said she has no issues about doing that either.

 

Who the heck did I marry 13 years ago this doesn't seem to be the same person! So nasty behavior to do it's feels so unreal to me.

[Steen719]

One more think I did confront her about those pictures of herself showing off boobs in naked shots like she was some sort of kinky girl on a web cam. There was a picture of a guy who was looking through his computer. What the heck was all that about. She said what's wrong doing that. I was so shocked when I first seen that last month. But she's said she has no issues about doing that either.

 

Who the heck did I marry 13 years ago this doesn't seem to be the same person! So nasty behavior to do it's feels so unreal to me.

 

I was talking to a friend of mine last night who said the very same thing. She said she just did not know who he really was and she was married to him for 12 years. He never told her that he had adopted a daughter from his second marriage and lied about how long he was married. He divorced my friend and then became ill and died a year later. That is when she discovered many things about him that she did not know. We think we know them; who are they???? It never ceases to amaze me how they think what they are doing is alright. Of course, they have somehow deluded themselves into thinking that everything they do is "normal" and that we object because we are paranoid. Holy crap!

[The Great Gazoo]

 

Who the heck did I marry 13 years ago this doesn't seem to be the same person! So nasty behavior to do it's feels so unreal to me.

 

 

I just had the same thing happen top me. Wife of 8 years seems like a completely different person.

[coolheadal]

She's so different now, as she said it" this is now and that was then!" How they have a way with words. Yesterday again she calls me up to say she's still going apartment hunting and wanted me to tag along with here as a friend. Just to get out of the house is a plus for me. Funny she told me I should meet her there where she was going. I told her no you come and pick me up. Why should she have her way?

 

So here she comes to the house low a fuel and car computer is telling her to change the oil at 15%. So she wanted to use my car I told her no. Still fighting over it I said here get in and go. While not even 1 mile from the house she said, this.. where is your GPS? Well it's not in the car duh! So I had to make a U turn and go back and grab her vehicle. Drove that to the house that was for rent. Poor excuse of a place with 3 levels. She's better off with her own house instead. Much better inside and a very nice area to live.

 

Anyway after that I had picked out a place to grab dinner. I didn't want to spend a lot on her. So one place we gone too was okay. We always go there prior. Then into the dinner she gets a text message. She tells me it's a friend. But really it's a Guy Friend. Now what the heck is so important to interrupt dinner with a text from a Guy Friend. She tells me he's married and she and him are just friends but they go out together as friends.

 

Please that's still considered dating. If I follower her saying it just like she and the guy were just watching TV and hanging out and not doing anything. Come on. Who does she take me for. Again what she's doing it coming more clearer each day.

 

I really don't even know her again. It's like she's someone mysterious, I am starting to hate her. The love from me is destroyed by her behavior and verbal abuse over this matter.

 

Again she's waiting for me to sign papers, and I'll have a lawyer look at that when I get to my other house over 1,400 miles from her!

 

As for our two dogs I guess these Town-house apartments well allow her 130lb dog just for her. Two places said okay. So that set. Now just have to get the ball rolling.

 

 

This morning she calls me up to say" hey what ya doing?" I said why? Hey you want to meet me at those townhouse apartments. I said my lower back was killing me. She said fine you can't go then! I see she wasn't interested to know how my back was nor the real purpose of the call was that she could get a free meal from me again! No more apartment hunting with her, as it's just a huge fight every time we're in the vehicle together.

Edited June 8, 2011 by coolheadal

[coolheadal]

Today was interesting she calls again and again and trying to get me to go see this new place she wants. First I tell her no, then few hours she calls again. Then again to tell me her mom is going. So they know about what's going on then. So much for keeping it quiet! Last time she called told me she got a seeing and I should go. I somehow said yes.. But later on decided to just drop it in her lap and say listen I can't go and hang her up!

 

She needs to grow-up and decided what to do. I am not there for her again and this process is a first for me and her. I always told her I was never into the Big D that everyone seem to be doing now. Now that's it's for real I have to deal with it.

 

I was so much better last year, but now with what she's got herself into she's trying to pull me into it. But in all she keeps saying "I don't want to be with you!" or "live with you again" we can friends or we can get nasty and get the lawyers involved.

[2sunny]

do not give her any money.

 

change the locks

 

cancel her credit cards

 

 

she can WORK and earn her own money and find a way to pay for herself.

 

divorce her - as quickly as you can!

[coolheadal]

do not give her any money.

 

change the locks

 

her house, it's in her name

 

cancel her credit cards

 

they're already canceled by the banks

 

she can WORK and earn her own money and find a way to pay for herself.

 

correct she just got a huge bonus and pay increase. How do I know this she had to tell one leasing agent what she brings home prior to taxes. I do the taxes and that's more than last year.

 

divorce her - as quickly as you can!

 

yes, but it will take time..

 

Thanks for answering, I going up the wall here.. Everyone I know is over 500 miles away. They're all shocked too!

Edited June 9, 2011 by coolheadal

[Tayla]

This is too unrealistic to be anything but fiction....not convinced this is a legitimate post....

Its my understanding the writer is from UK, where the term petro is more the common then "gas" for the "car"...

[coolheadal]

This is too unrealistic to be anything but fiction....not convinced this is a legitimate post....

Its my understanding the writer is from UK, where the term petro is more the common then "gas" for the "car"...

 

No I am from the USA like you are. This is true and it currently going on. I don't have to tell anyone about this. But I can't stand what's going on. This has really getting to me. This site is great I can tell you all what's going on with my life.

 

I am not good at any separation or D word. I just don't know how to handle it. I know my cousins have gone through this all they're lives. They're all divorced and mostly the other spouse has left them for all sorts of reason. I won't even call them and talk to them about this. Because all I'll hear I told you so.

 

The wife doesn't like my cousins and my cousins don't understand her. I gone to all my wife family parties and family reunions for 13 years now. There is another one coming this weekend. I won't be going to that one. Too much punch line jokes and personal comments I don't like that type of talk or jokes. To me it just a bunch of losers who just drink themselves to death. Which they do.

 

The family on her side is very close and all have the same sort of story to tell. She comes from a family of 15 and her dad is what we call a player. As for each of the kids have a different mom. Her dad and mom are married and they have 3 kids which are her and her two brothers. And these brothers are just as bad as her.

 

Why I am in this situation I always ask myself this. The wife at times can be so nice and giving. But I only wanted some one to be there for me and love me. Which she did at first. But something happen from 2006 to present day. Ever since we moved here it doesn't feel like we're married.

 

Prior to this 2000 to 2006 things had their moments but we always got around them. I miss the nights where she would be here and we would watch the CBS Evening News with Dan Rather and then watch America Top Model, Wipe Out, all the Star Trek series an etc.

 

Lately she won't watch anything with me. She told me not now maybe later. I have so much movies and shows to watch with and it started to pile up. We both use to travel all over the USA and was going to UK where my family is from. But never got to go.

 

It was her and myself who had traveled! Then she started to take her family her mom and dad. They don't have money so that means I the doormat would have to pay for them. I hated the trip to Texas that was one of the worst trips I had with them. I told myself never again. There was a trip with one of her brothers in the mini van she rented to drive to VA in the Blue Ridge Mountains. But no body would pay for gas I was stuck with the bill and not cheap either.

 

Mother-in-law is a control freak. Plus you have to watch what you say around her otherwise I would get this message from the wife saying what did you say to my mother. That also comes her dad too. Can't be friends with these people, they're so odd and do anything they want. Others like myself who have married into the family told me it's best not to go to any of the functions or just stay way. I see what they mean now.

 

So tonight like other nights she's not here. The wife. She's either at her parents or who knows. These have been some hard times for me. I hate to be alone in the house. I use to go to her parents house in the early days but that was a mistake. Today they say you don't come around and tell them you don't come around either. They say I wouldn't open the door when they ring the bell. If I am sleeping I won't. You should call ahead. But they don't so they don't come here.

 

So just me and the wife and the two dogs in this house. But not for long as we're getting close to the end of this relationship.

 

I thanks those who have help here with advise and some common experiences! But I'll need more support as gets more into it in the coming weeks. I can't stay here until August as she wants. I have to get out as soon as I can. As I don't know when the bank is going to step in as she wont' say much to me about it. Again saying it's none of my business which is rude and she should quit saying it!

 

Like a broken record!

Edited June 9, 2011 by coolheadal

[Steen719]

It is really a shame your close friends or family are 500 mikes away. I have called some friends, though. I have tried to be a good friend and I am getting it back. Every friend and my brother has said call me anytime. I don't want to overstay my welcome, though, so i post here as you do.

 

It just makes you crazy, doesn't it? I can't imagine ever, ever getting involved with anyone else again. I just can't.

 

Hang in and I hope you find some peace as you go along. That's my aim. Good words below for us:

 

"Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers." - Veronica A. Shoffstall

[coolheadal]

Your right! I don't know if I could trust any women again. Just getting to the point of the meting and finally finding that special one had taken longer than I had thought. Now what a huge let down.

 

As for the Wife she had wondered in late around 1:20am and never said hello. I was in the HO (home office). If it wasn't for the two dogs barking I wouldn't know she came in and got upstairs quickly. Later on I go up to her and say" why didn't you say hello when you got home?" She had replied DO I EVER!

 

Boy you know I do when I come home! But she's so full of it. She goes to her Moms house and tell them she's there why not with me?

 

Anyway I was in another room when I had heard her go off the deep end! I had rush out and said what's wrong? Again no reply! I had repeated the same words! What's wrong and nothing from here, just the anger in her eyes. She was ironing her white knit jacket with buttons. So she started to call me names! I said why are you saying that? Look at it not clean sure it is! Look she said? Oh that dirt and don't know how that happen. So I told her I would clean it and she just kept on slamming doors and swearing at me!

 

I had to take out some tide and clean it in the sink in the bathroom. Wash and rinse using two sinks. But it came out clean. There was only to dark spots around the neck and one arm. I don't know if she did that or it didn't get wash right or could be something she had worn and stuck in into the MBR closet. I'll never know now. So she comes out of the MBR and I said look it's all cleaned. She said that won't dry by tomorrow morning and I wanted to wear that! Yes it would I could put it into the dryer, then she said who's going take it out of the dryer an etc.

 

Boy she not going to let this go and no matter what I said she's going to tear me down. This is how she is.. Anyway I had ringed out all the excess water and hand it on a hanger on the tub shower rack.

 

When I had got up this morning she was gone and so was the white knit jacket or shirt. I guess it was dry and she iron it. But she'll never say thank you honey or dear. Nothing like that from her!

 

Today is our nephew graduation and dinner. First I was told I could go, but later on that wasn't the case. It seems he only had 6 tickets for his graduation and two dinner tickets. So going to be his mom and her parents that 3x and his dad and his two parents so that 6 total. Then the dinner his mom and the wife will attend.

 

So this means I home again for dinner by myself again! Oh joy! I'll serve myself some sirloin steak on cast iron skillet and neat salad to make it complete. The dogs will just stare and look at me to throw some food to him as the love to beg, but I have to train to sit down in the process.

 

More to come as I go through this drama daily with the wife and me!

[coolheadal]

Last night after midnight she came home. All dressed up wearing the knit blouse I had washed in the bathroom dual sinks with tide with downy to get those two spots out for her. This time was different she actually came into my HO (home office) and said:

 

Thanks you! For taking the time to do what you did for me!

 

Well that's a first! Never got thank for anything I did prior for her. This time she and taken out her cell phone to show me pictures of the nephew graduation. Since I had her camera here I got for her for Xmas. Since the cell phone was out let's look and see what other pictures she had. First she pulled the cell phone away. I said what other pictures you have there.

 

She said why? Just wanted to see? She did show me this is me, this is the dogs. My girl friends chilling. Any pictures of me in there. She said sure, and she had our Wedding picture in there! Wow!

 

I am playing it normal I not crying or looking like a sad puppy. I know my 3rd cousin called me yesterday on his cell phone. He could tell something was troubling me. He said I wasn't my happy go lucky self again. I couldn't tell me what was going on. Not yet..

 

To painful to think about it. After the wife got home she seems to act normal again very friendly but very tired working and going to the nephew function to wear you out.

[cyabye]

Anyway I was in another room when I had heard her go off the deep end! I had rush out and said what's wrong? Again no reply! I had repeated the same words! What's wrong and nothing from here, just the anger in her eyes. She was ironing her white knit jacket with buttons. So she started to call me names! I said why are you saying that? Look at it not clean sure it is! Look she said? Oh that dirt and don't know how that happen. So I told her I would clean it and she just kept on slamming doors and swearing at me!

 

I had to take out some tide and clean it in the sink in the bathroom. Wash and rinse using two sinks. But it came out clean. There was only to dark spots around the neck and one arm. I don't know if she did that or it didn't get wash right or could be something she had worn and stuck in into the MBR closet. I'll never know now. So she comes out of the MBR and I said look it's all cleaned. She said that won't dry by tomorrow morning and I wanted to wear that! Yes it would I could put it into the dryer, then she said who's going take it out of the dryer an etc.

 

Boy she not going to let this go and no matter what I said she's going to tear me down. This is how she is.. Anyway I had ringed out all the excess water and hand it on a hanger on the tub shower rack.

 

When I had got up this morning she was gone and so was the white knit jacket or shirt. I guess it was dry and she iron it. But she'll never say thank you honey or dear. Nothing like that from her!

 

WTF? I'm starting to question the validity of this post. If this post is factual, you my friend are a huge DOORMAT. Until you "grow a pair" nothing will change for you.

 

cya

[coolheadal]

WTF? I'm starting to question the validity of this post. If this post is factual, you my friend are a huge DOORMAT. Until you "grow a pair" nothing will change for you.

 

cya

 

Excuse me but what gives you the right to say that.. You don't know me and who I am. Don't like to judge others but you're completely out of line here. I am going through this rough time. I care to share my problem here. As with all who are having the same issue.

 

Someone like you don't seem to care. I who I am and I am me! I not going to change because you think I can't cut it. Maybe you have many wives and D so many times give you the right to said that statement above. I am in for a married for keeps. But the other side has to be wanting to keep it going.

 

My mistake is that she hasn't been totally honest with me. All in her family are the same way. She's just like them now don't care who they hurt just what make them happy.

 

Well I going to tell you all what happens next. You don't have to read what I post or even come back with me with your rude comments. We're all suppose to be adults here. But sometimes we all need a shoulder to cry on.

 

A man can cry if he wants too. If you don't cry then your no man or just cold and bitter person inside with no care of feelings. You'll just end up alone one day!

[cyabye]

Excuse me but what gives you the right to say that.. You don't know me and who I am. Don't like to judge others but you're completely out of line here. I am going through this rough time. I care to share my problem here. As with all who are having the same issue.

 

Someone like you don't seem to care. I who I am and I am me! I not going to change because you think I can't cut it. Maybe you have many wives and D so many times give you the right to said that statement above. I am in for a married for keeps. But the other side has to be wanting to keep it going.

 

My mistake is that she hasn't been totally honest with me. All in her family are the same way. She's just like them now don't care who they hurt just what make them happy.

 

Well I going to tell you all what happens next. You don't have to read what I post or even come back with me with your rude comments. We're all suppose to be adults here. But sometimes we all need a shoulder to cry on.

 

A man can cry if he wants too. If you don't cry then your no man or just cold and bitter person inside with no care of feelings. You'll just end up alone one day!

 

Look coolheadal. This is my opinion based off of what you posted openly on a public forum for all to see. I do not know you personaly. I do not claim to. I'm basing my opinions from your post. You might want to research the 180. As far as your rebuttal to my post, I don't wish to engage you in forum drama as I know you are hurting inside.

 

If I didn't care I would not of posted. Sometimes it takes a stern post (or multiple posts) to get the OP to "see" what's happening. You are on a roller coaster of emotions and do not have a fair advantage (using your brain and not your heart) to appropriately assess your situation with your spouse (from the information you posted).

 

And for the record, 1 wife, 1 divorce...made all the mistakes you are making. I stand by my original post. I wish you luck.

 

cya

[coolheadal]

Look coolheadal. This is my opinion based off of what you posted openly on a public forum for all to see. I do not know you personaly. I do not claim to. I'm basing my opinions from your post. You might want to research the 180. As far as your rebuttal to my post, I don't wish to engage you in forum drama as I know you are hurting inside.

 

If I didn't care I would not of posted. Sometimes it takes a stern post (or multiple posts) to get the OP to "see" what's happening. You are on a roller coaster of emotions and do not have a fair advantage (using your brain and not your heart) to appropriately assess your situation with your spouse (from the information you posted).

 

And for the record, 1 wife, 1 divorce...made all the mistakes you are making. I stand by my original post. I wish you luck.

 

cya

 

If so then you know already how it is... Growing whatever doesn't cut it. Now everyone is going to act like you or me. But in this world there are some more like me that care how things are or what they could be.