hernan Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 If anybody's there who could help me. my wife and i are married for 7 years. in the 3rd year of our marriage, my wife felt one day that she lose that lovd from me and all she has is friendship, companionship. we hardly have sexual contact as we are both working and she wanted to be pregnant after 3 years. my son now is 3years old. last of oct. my wife got an encounter with a man who is ideal to her. she make love with that person i discovered it after 6 months. she said she still loves me, but she is confused right now as that guy she feels something as well. what will i do to win her back to erase that feeling that guy has given her. my wife is a stewardess. i want to restore our relationship as i really love her. Link to post Share on other sites
ThisGirlNameKD Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 What can you do to win her back? Ask her. Usually when people have affairs, it's because there's something in the relationship they're not getting. We don't know what it is she is not getting. Only she knows that. It maybe romance, passion, a sympathetic ear....we just don't know. Ask her if she's willing to make things right between you two, and ask her what could you do to make things better. Link to post Share on other sites
morrigan Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 Be honest with her. Tell her you love her and want to save your marriage. Insist that you both attend marital counseling together. It sounds like there were problems before the affair started, however, the affair is the catalyst for you both. She needs to end the affair with this man now if she is truly committed to your marriage. She needs to be honest about what she wants--a marriage with you, or a full relationship with this other man. It's not right to drag anybody along with false hopes. If she is unwilling to end the affair or to go to counseling, there is really not a lot you can do. You can stay with her and attempt to tolerate the situation, or you may finally become upset enough to get a divorce. I wish you the best. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 I think it all depends on if she wants to save it as much as you do. All you can do is wait until she gets beyond the 'confused' stage in order to know what she really wants to do. It all depends on her feelings for this other man, her feelings for you and how much the marriage means to her. You can tell her how YOU feel, and I'm assuming you've done that.....and the rest depends on her response. This must be a painful time for you. I'm sorry you are having to go through it. Unfortunately, you have do play the 'time' game and see where the end result lies. Link to post Share on other sites
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