Feeling really low. Like there's really no purpose in life.

[Caligurl755]

I'm 18 and I have no idea what to do. I'm not one to complain, because I know I have it a lot better than so many people but lately I've been feeling pretty terrible. I've been really upset and stressed lately, which causes me to have no motivation whatsoever, so nothing gets done. I don't really have a home, my mother lives in NY (i can't go live with her, she wants me to get my own place) and my father doesn't want me living with him, so I stay with my brother for now, but that's his place and I know he doesn't want me living there permanently. I really need to find my own place, but I have no money for that. It's hard getting a job, and no ones gotten back to me. On top of having no set home and no money, I dropped out of school. I'm scheduled to take my GED in July, but that's 2 months from now. I don't have my license, not even my permit because I never have anyone to take me. Another thing is that I really don't have any friends anymore, they're all graduating soon and doing different things. Whenever I ask someone if they want to do something, they're usually busy or I can't get a ride or money to go hang out. Also, I gained a lot of weight within the year, which makes me feel pretty crappy about myself. I miss how things used to be. I used to be so active and happy and full of life. But now I don't do anything. I feel like I have nothing and no one. And I constantly think about how pointless life really seems to me. Sometimes I really just want out. I don't know what to do. I feel like everyone but me is doing things and having a good time and living their lives. I feel like I'm all alone yet there's so much around me. Has anyone ever felt this way? What should I do?

[PrettyLady1]

I think the best thing to do is realize the situation that your in which you have because you've listed everything that is going wrong or not right and make a plan for it to get better. Sounds lame but it works. You basically have to be okay with your situation at the moment until you slowly start turning things around. So tackle a few things at the same time but start picking one thing that you dont like and figure out how your going to make it better. The good thing is you already have an appointment to take your GED. Now make sure your prepared for it so you can get that over with. Dont stress to much on the friends part. Right now is the time to focus on yourself and get things on track. There will always be new people to meet later on. Cut down on the calories and try a little exercise a few times a week. The other night i just put the music on in my room and started dancing and jumping around and i really worked out my calves and got my heart pumping. As far as a job if your not planning on going to college get a job that will give you enough wages to make it on your own. Try to find a job that pays hourly and commission. That would so help you out. When you feel like theres no one there for you remember you still have yourself. You can do more for yourself than anyone can do for you.

[yoonie16]

PrettyLady couldn't have said it any better. You know what you have to do, so now all you have to do is just do it! It's really difficult to know which is the biggest priority, but money seems to always be the biggest issue. How many places did you apply to and where? Try to apply for ANYTHING, seriously. I know how hard it is to find a job in California right now (assuming that's where you're from). Do whatever job you have to do to make some money and then work on your GED. Take the bus to work or hopefully you find a job somewhere close. Getting your license will only pressure you to buy a car which will just add to your expenses. Not saying you shouldn't get it, just understand what comes with it.

 

Also, try to find a friend who can support you through this tough time. Having a support system, even emotionally, will greatly motivate you. I can guarantee you not everyone you know is living a great life. Do you're best to reconnect and things will fall into place

[oldguy]

I'm curious, what happened to cause you to quit school, gain weight & move in with your brother within the past year? Did you parents recently divorce or something else?

[Teknoe]

Cali, have you read Rick Warren's Purpose Driven Life?

 

First thing that popped into my mind when I read your topic title. Just a suggestion. Check out if your local library has a copy.