PurpleReign Posted May 23, 2011 Share Posted May 23, 2011 My ex and I have been basically going back and forth for many months now. He's hot, then cold. Looks like we're getting back to where we used to be and then I don't hear from him for a while. Without going into all of the background details, I texted him a question on a Tuesday and didn't hear anything from him. He went out of town that Saturday and was due back that next Tuesday and, lo and behold, sent me a text the minute he got back in to the state we live in. Thing is, it was a stupid question not in any way related to us. Having not heard from him for a solid week, I ignored it. About an hour later he sent another text. All it said was, "OK". Knew he was pissed because I am respectful when people text me and try to text back as soon as is possible. Later than evening, two more texts. I ignored both. The next day he sent another text regarding a subject I'm sure he just KNEW I'd be unable to not respond to. He was wrong. I must admit, it feels really good that I've been able to ignore these stupid texts that only serve the purpose of stringing me along. I mean, seriously, just because we have the technology to text and such, what is so hard about picking up the dang phone to actually use it as a phone???? I also must admit, I am sad that me not contacting him will end any ties we have, however minuscule..... Link to post Share on other sites
Frank13 Posted May 23, 2011 Share Posted May 23, 2011 Do you ever actually get back togther again and then he leaves again? For some reason when I read your message it almost sounds like this works for you. In other words, I see so much pain on these boards from people who are struggling between no contact and getting back togther and they seem miserable. Maybe going back and forth solves the issue, and perhaps allows the relationship to fade away slowly without the shock and pain which normally happens. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PurpleReign Posted June 22, 2011 Author Share Posted June 22, 2011 No, we're not actually back together. We'll hang out, or go out, and he'll make comments that make me think he is moving toward us being back together, but then he kinda disappears. Sometimes I think it does make it easier to move on, but other times I feel like someone is ripping a band aid from my arm.... and, as bad as it hurts, the quicker you get it over with, the better. I just want to find the right person for me and I find it hard to get in the right frame of mind. Just when I've resigned myself to the fact that he's moved completely on and won't contact me again, he does. I've tried ignoring them, but he just keeps doing it. I know I do have the option of never responding, but what can I do to seriously make him go away for good??? I feel I can't find what I need with him liable to make contact at what could be the worst possible time. Any advice??? Link to post Share on other sites
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