mrs red jax Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 My ex and I have been dating for about 1 1/2 {yr?}, but we broke up about a month ago because of me putting drama in his life. Don't get me wrong, he deserved it, but not in front of his family. Since then, there has been a lot of distance between us because he said i hurt him. We have been sleeping together, and also lunch and breakfast dates, but he is distant from me and my kids. I have been feeling like he has been talking to someone else because he has been acting very funny. I have the cell phone records. He has been talking to someone, and she has the same name as me. I busted him, and he did not have anything to say, so I took him home and blocked his numbers out. The next day he called the cell trying to talk to me. Anyway, he says he is not talking to the girl anymore but i don't know what to believe. I know that he loves me, and i feel that the family is trying to keep us apart, but i also know he has a choice in what he wants to do. What should I do???? {Oh, there is also a 9 year age difference. I'm older than him.} Link to post Share on other sites
morrigan Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 What was all the drama about? The chances of successfully reconciling depends on why you two broke up in the first place, if you've both been honest about your mistakes, and are communicating with eachother. That doesn't sound like the current situation. What you have now with him is not a relationship. Ask your ex right out if he is seeing someone else (since you are both broke up, you each have the right to see whom you want). Ask him why he was hurt by you. He needs to explain the actions that caused all of the drama you mentioned. If it was an affair, he needs to admit to it and stop seeing this woman. You should not have to forcibly prevent him from seeing her. If you want to get back with him, tell him this is what you want, but he needs to be honest with you as well. You both would need to stop seeing other people, and if there are problems with (his?) family, he needs to discuss those issues with them. I don't know why he is keeping his distance, either he thinks that is what you want, a way to punish you, or he is just stringing you along. If he really wants to get back with you, he should be attempting to contact you and talk, not just have sex. It's up to you to decide whether or not you can trust him. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 Originally posted by morrigan What was all the drama about? The chances of successfully reconciling depends on why you two broke up in the first place I agree with Morrigan. It depends on WHY you blew up. What led to that point? Were you at least justified in your feelings and did it TOO have something to do with him possibly cheating? You have to look at the pattern of things and be honest with yourself about if he is cheating on you. I don't KNOW that the age gap would make a difference.....but it CAN leave you feeling more vulnerable. It sounds as though perhaps he's decided to move on. Whether this is based on the imput from his family is irrelevant. The end result remains the same. Search your own heart to decide if this is a relationship even worth persuing and trying to fix. Some are....some aren't. Link to post Share on other sites
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