Andymack Posted May 24, 2011 Share Posted May 24, 2011 Anybody know? I've heard that most rebound relationships tend to fail early on and I was wondering whether or not there was a particular reason for it? Is it too much too soon? Not enough connection? Filling a void? Just curious as to why they don't seem to last... Link to post Share on other sites
Eeyore79 Posted May 24, 2011 Share Posted May 24, 2011 I think they fail because the person is more interested in filling a gap in their lives than in having a relationship with that individual. This isn't always the case however; some relationships work out and some don't. Link to post Share on other sites
sun_moon Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 I wonder as well. Yeah my ex is seeing someone and I think it's been well over a month going on two months. I wonder why some people just HAVE to run to someone else? Link to post Share on other sites
guitarxkid Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 I wonder as well. Yeah my ex is seeing someone and I think it's been well over a month going on two months. I wonder why some people just HAVE to run to someone else? my ex has been with her rebound (kind of) for about 4 months now... basically **** them, i'll be pissed if they last longer than me and my ex's initial relationship Link to post Share on other sites
Jdw_Icequeen Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 There are a few reasons people get into rebounds.. 1. It may look like a rebound to you but they have been eyeing this person for a while maybe even flirting.. 2. People use rebound relationships as a comfort blanket to boost their egos and so they don't have to think about you. 3. They feel like they are missing out on somthing in the datinging world also part of the G.I.G.S... Why don't rebounds usuallly work out.. Normally it wasn't just one persons fault in the breakup. They carry the same emotional bagage they did from the first relationship into the second. Not only that but alot of them still have feelings for the ex. The combination of the fact they haven't worked on themselves and their own issues and they still usually have feelings for their exes, as in they haven't properly put their exs behind them the BU and probably didn't really get proper closuer themselves. It usually ends up in failure.. Does this happen all the time no.. Some "rebounds" last a longtime, that dosen't mean it wasn't a rebound. It just means it developed into somthing more then a rebound. However just because your ex still has feelings for you dosen't mean they will come back after their rebounds that is always the important thing to remember. Don't think just because they realize this rebound is a mistake or even have several rebounds, means they will ever come back.. I hope this is somehow helpful.. Link to post Share on other sites
Kilty Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 Personally - i am starting to believe that the term "rebound relationship" is just something that has been made up to make the ex feel better. Im not saying there is no such thing but the description of a classic rebound case only applies to a small amount of people. My ex rebuffed the guy she is with now when he asked her out whilst we were still together (im giving him the benefit of the doubt that he didnt know she was in a relatonship - although it doesnt matter a jot now) As soon as we fell out and after she tried to reconcile with me without success she went out with him - and is getting married to him within a year or so of our break up. That suggests she wanted me over this guy but once they were a couple i was completetely out the picture and sincerely doubt she gives me and our 2 year relationship a second thought. I believe that there are more insecure/needy people out there that need to be with someone/anyone and they are not that particularly bothered with who it is. If their new relationship fails it's possible they will then think of their last partner but if not then they wont. And as there are more failed relationships than successful ones i think its just coincidence. Maybe im just being nieve and spent too long wondering what the feck was going on in her head as the guy is not a patch on me but still ...... Link to post Share on other sites
sun_moon Posted May 27, 2011 Share Posted May 27, 2011 I wish i didn't care but i do, stupid man! I know What you said is true jdw_icequeen and ive had those thoughts doesn't make the situation any less painful, feeling relplaced. I know that even when the rebound or relationship fails, it really doesn't mean anything to me and him, i know it's over and will not return. I just really wanted and apology, some kind of remorse, or something without his pride, and taking ownership to his mistakes in the relationship. I want him to suffer like I'm suffering with the relationship being over, why does he get to be ok and I don't? Feels like im doing all the hard work of the post breakup and dealing with this **** and misery while he's out being a couple and not giving his past relatiobship or me a second thought, it's just painful..... Who knows I'm in NC and will be. Link to post Share on other sites
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