Author Zolie Posted May 28, 2011 Author Share Posted May 28, 2011 Zollie, some of my male co-workers/boss's have wives, and come lunchtime they have to "check-in" with the Mrs. Its rather the talk of the day after they get done comparing notes, sometimes they get an earful and that sets the day for moodiness. Or they get a laundry list of "honeydolist after work" . I can say as the Lady who views this on a Daily basis its humorous yet to them its almost like they are "bound" to this task. I rather feel sorry for them sometimes. Most guys at my "busy" sales place are good hearted and DO speak well of the MRS, they just consider the noon time phone call to be a "chore" rather then a moment to touch base with the love of their lives. So whilst I do GET how you have run with technology, from the other persons's perspective it may not have the appeal .....even if a set time is put into place.... I admire that you can overlook the small stuff because at the end of each day you get to have love in your heart and he you. Yeah, I get that that becomes a chore instead of a chance to talk with their loves. Fortunately I don't do that to my husband. The truth is, I do the majority of the "honey-do" tasks for us, because it is just easier for me to do it when I need it done, than to nag him about it or wait for for him to do it. Also, I have more freedom to make phones calls and/or leave work for our must do errands than he does. He actually is not allowed to leave his store when he is at work. (Side note - don't go into retail management, folks. The hours suck and you are tied to your store. And you work a lot of weekends and holidays.) Thank you for this perspective you have witnessed. It IS a reminder to treat daytime conversations with our spouses as a chance to connect rather than just a way to tell them what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Zolie Posted May 28, 2011 Author Share Posted May 28, 2011 Uh oh, I just caught myself in a contradiction. Where are the all the contradiction Nazis?! In my first post I said: "we can't go an entire day with zero communication! He doesn't GET that! But, it's not good! It's not good for our marriage, and it's not good in case of an emergency." Then two days later, in my response to carhill, I said "I can go all day and all night without talking to him just fine, when I don't have a pressing need to talk to him. In fact, until a couple of weeks ago we would sometimes go 2-3 days without talking to each other at all." LOL, there is proof positive that a woman can change her mind in a matter of two days. No wonder you poor men are so confused by us! My response to carhill was spot on. My ranting the other night was due to frustration and even though I didn't really believe we can't go an entire day with zero communication, the fact is I am perfectly okay with that. It's only when I feel the need/want to talk to him that I get upset enough to say we shouldn't be going all day without talking. LOL, if anyone is still reading, I will be surprised. I have pretty much run this one into the ground. Thanks for the discussion, everyone. I forgot how much fun this place is. Haven't been here in a long time. I don't always have time for daily discussions, but I hope to be around more often. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted May 28, 2011 Share Posted May 28, 2011 Sometimes talking it out and getting alternative viewpoints helps. Happy to read you're feeling better. Hope you and H enjoy the long holiday weekend Link to post Share on other sites
Author Zolie Posted May 28, 2011 Author Share Posted May 28, 2011 Sometimes talking it out and getting alternative viewpoints helps. Happy to read you're feeling better. Hope you and H enjoy the long holiday weekend Well, thanks! And same to you! Link to post Share on other sites
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