Should i end it?

[abimael567]

Me and my girlfriend 19(her) and 21(me) have been going out going on 4 months already..

 

We live 45mns away and wee see eachother 2 times a month but we talk like 24/7 every day and night we communicate very well she is amazing very sweet and thats what i love about her i gave her my unconditional trust since the very beginning we have planned many things together...

 

Problem?

 

She doesnt want to tell her parents that we are going out because she is scared that they may seperate us

we met on facebook she told her mom and her mom doesnt like that and according to my girlfriend her mom has a bad inpression of me

so we go out behind her parents backs.

 

2months ago i caught her flirting with a guy(her neighbor) on facebook i told her about it and she admitted she was and i felt betrayed i could not believe it because i never expected that kind of stuff from her we talked about it and i forgave her...

 

 

 

To be honest ever since than i havent trust her i even tell her i dont trust her and ive told her that. Two days ago she went to prom i couldnt go because i had no money for the tuxedo and didnt have a way to get there. well she went i was cool with it however days before that she asked me if she could go to th beach with her friends i said no (realistically i know i cant force her to do anything or keep her from doing things i just wanted to see her reaction or what she would do) well after prom she texted me and told me she was going home already than she texted me saying she and her friends went out to eat it was 12am later at 5 in the morning she sent me a text saying she got home for some reason i knew she went to the beach she didnt tell me about it nor did i even though i had a real strong feeling she went. yesterday in argument she told me she went to the beach.

 

weeks before she told me a guy kept calling her and trying to get with her and he would call every now and than and she would tell me that she will tell him that she is not interested and blew him off i asked her about him and she said they almost went out but they didnt. for some reason i had a feeling that there was more to it. well yesterday in a huge argument she told me that she had sex with that guy 2 years ago so she lied to me...

 

after 2 times of trying to meet her parents so i could make things right with them so they could let her go out with me even though she told me she wanted to the first day i was gonna go to her house she said her dad was working and her mom went out to eat so i didnt meet them the second time she told me they were mad and we ended up pickin her up at the movies and came to my house and did it.

 

she also might be pregant from me i dont trust her i dont believe what she says and i always feel she is lying to me what should i do?

[creighton0123]

I am going to be blunt:

 

The two of you are playing mad and crazy games with each other. You attempted to control her to see her reaction and you lost, thus pushing her further away.

 

You are worried about her friends, her interactions, her past, her parents, etc. etc. etc.

 

It seems like you are worrying and don't trust her so much that you're not having any form of mature, adult relationship.

 

Now you're in a situation where she may be pregnant. If so, I can say that it is most likely your child. So much of this seems like you don't believe her. You can't trust her. You want to control her.

 

This is absolutely no way to have a relationship, whether local or long distance. If she is not pregnant, I would say that the two of you should separate, learn from this relationship enough to not repeat the mistakes you're making now with someone down the road.