stopthemadness Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 Hi all, most you know my story.If you dont, My last post was" Out of no where he made contact".Ok soo the first week of this month he left me a message. Well last week he left 2 messages on my phone asking me to call him. In one of the messages he said he was having medical problems and he wanted to talk to me (ya he went there). And last week he also left me an email(he used a different email address, cause I had blocked his)The email just said . I know you dont want to hear from me but Hi anyway. I stayed strong!! I didnt respond to anything. Although It did make me think of him a little more then usual, I was fine. Am not gona lie.I kinda saw it comming. I knew that if i just kept ingnoring him he'd come to my door at some point. But I kept N/C for me, to protect my heart. I was gona keep no contact as long as I could. Soo yesterday afternoon, ya..he came to my door. He talked to my daughter. Said he just wanted to say hi to me and tell me he was sorry for how he treated me. (i could hear him talking, I was hiding in the hall way) My daughter pretented to come ask me if i wanted to talk to him. I said no, He broke up with me months ago, so No I dont wanta talk!! Well after he drove off. We started talking about how bad he looked. So i broke down and called him on the phone. He said he was sorry for everything. I told him, I forgive you for everything!!(if felt good to say that) We chatted for a bit about both our kids. I told him no, we cant be friends. What i told him was "I dont know how to be your friend" so No after this we wont talk anymore. He said he understood. But last nite when i checked my emails. There was one from him. It said" Iam so sorry I told you to go away". Cause see thats what I told him. I said look you told me to goway and I did. Now am gone.. I dont know if he'll ever try to contact me again? But its ok..Am ok..Its over and now hopefully we can both move on. It feels really good to forgive him. I feel like a weight is lifted off my shoulders. I hope he feels better too. I can honestly say I wish him well. I hope everyone on this site gets to the point where they can forgive their ex's. Would like to hear your thoughts on this....Thanks for reading this..... Link to post Share on other sites
Frank13 Posted May 27, 2011 Share Posted May 27, 2011 What if he contacts you again and says he wants you back? Do you think he wants you back or is he just sorry he told you to go away? Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted May 27, 2011 Share Posted May 27, 2011 How did this come about? I have to say a dumepr apologising is RARE. I've been in NC the whole time and have NEVER got: An apology for being dumped cruelly and in an unforgiveable way Any answers as to why my ex pulled a 180 on me An actual conversationa bout what went wrong between us. Link to post Share on other sites
Author stopthemadness Posted May 27, 2011 Author Share Posted May 27, 2011 (edited) Frank13- Thanks for responding. Does it sound to you like he wants me back? Am not sure am getten that vibe. But I know I CANT be his friend. Iam still getting over him ya know.In 2 months we will be broke up a year. Getting over him has been one of the hardest things I EVER had to do!!Dont wanta go through that pain and heart ache again. Iam hoping hes good now. Iam still sleeping at night and still feel like am healing, although I keep thinking of him all the time. Other then that am fine. Sugarkane- We have been brokeup sence July of last year. Well what he said was he wanted a "break from our relationship" I know now. That means breakup. Then by Oct he told me he wanted to date a lady he met on line!! I was devastated to say the least. That women only lasted a few months. At that point I was still talking to him.(i know dumb) Then after her came this last women he was seeing, and staying with off and on down the street from me I might add. Well i guess she didnt work out either. Thats what he told me the other day when we talked on the phone. I really didnt wanta hear it and he really didnt wanta take the conversation there either so we didnt. Before the other day I had been total N/C for 4 months. Me and him had been 2gether for 8 1/2 years off and on. After this last breakup I started seeing a therapist. I just knew I couldnt keep doing this anymore. I saw my therapist for 7 months learned alot of coping skills. She moved away 2 weeks ago. But like I told her, the hard parts over am good now. Do I miss him? Ya. Do I think of him? um yes. Do I wanta get back with him? NO . Looking back, i would say he had the G.I.G thing going on. But this lady is done. But I do hope he starts feeling better he didnt look like he was doing so good. Last thing he told me was"you got my cell and my email if you wanta talk to me" I told him to take care and we hung up. You guys are men, does it sound to you like he just wanted to say he was sorry? Maybe he is really sorry for being so harsh with me before we stopped talking in Jan? I dont know his heart. But I know mine!! And am stronger now. But i do wish him well. Yours thoughts on this guys...thanks for responding Edited May 27, 2011 by stopthemadness Link to post Share on other sites
0hpenelope Posted May 28, 2011 Share Posted May 28, 2011 I see someone who's greatly improved herself, stop! No anger, no resentment... worked through all of that ugliness and now it's up, up and away from here! I hope things improve for him, too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author stopthemadness Posted May 28, 2011 Author Share Posted May 28, 2011 Hi,Ohpen I do feel soo much better then I used too. He looked bad although I only saw him through the window. I hope now that we can both move on. But honestly 2day I miss my therapist. I really hope that he leaves me alone now.......... Link to post Share on other sites
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