Patient Posted May 27, 2011 Share Posted May 27, 2011 Hello I recently had a daughter 5 months ago. My daughter's dad and I are still together but we aren't living together right now due to financial issues we're both having so I basically take care of my daughter by myself and have been since she's been born. He comes to see her maybe once or twice a week for a few hours and buys her diapers and wipes and a few outfits every now and then but he doesn't take her sometimes to give me a break and on his free time he goes with his friends the majority of the time and gets drunk instead of spending it with me and his daughter.Im extremely frustrated I've tried to talk to him and he doesnt listen or nothing changes or he says im complaining too much. I want to leave him and put him on child support but Im trying to do whats right for my daughter. He's very immature and im tired of crying and being frustrated and really dealing with him...am I overreacting or am I right and what should i do...SOMEONE HELP ME PLEASE!!! Link to post Share on other sites
vsmini Posted May 27, 2011 Share Posted May 27, 2011 This man has a child and he will not take his share of responsibility. He's going off and getting drunk with friends? I know this is no easy task and easier said than done but if my mother had been in this same position - as her daughter I would have wanted her to get out and leave the guy. Make him pay child support or make the state make him. He isn't helping either way and you're taking care of this little girl by yourself anyway. What's best for your daughter is that she's around someone who loves her and takes responsibility for her. Having a father that goes off, neglects the child and gets drunk is not going to do that baby any good. I'd want my mother to stand up and not take any sh*t from some man that can't meet the challenge that having a family presents. Sorry - this guy has to go. Link to post Share on other sites
Glinda Posted May 29, 2011 Share Posted May 29, 2011 Unfortunately, you should consider this one's contribution to parenthood that of the sperm donor and move on. Try for CS, but good luck getting him to pay. Link to post Share on other sites
confusedak Posted May 30, 2011 Share Posted May 30, 2011 Yeah I can see where your coming from on wanting to stay with him and have your daughter have her father in her life but. Him making you upset makes the baby upset, baby knows when your sad they can feel it to. I myself am a mother to a 8 mont old. And Stressing over this guy isnt good for you and the baby. This is just what I WOULD do.. I would not talk to him for a bit and see if he still trys to contact you and see your daughter.. If its still bare minimum then I think that you should sit him down and talk to him straight up tell him you dont want him in your life if hes not going to be responsible, grow up and become a father. Becuase every guy can be a dad but it takes a real man to be a father. It takes two to bring a child in this world, and both should take care of the child. And I hope you the best of luck!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Mauschen Posted June 1, 2011 Share Posted June 1, 2011 I agree - this man needs to support his child financially. File for child support. I know it is scary, but it is the right thing to do. If he gets upset with you, tell him that he can either pay child support and continue to live his life as he has been living it, or he can have you and his child together (as a family). Only those two choices are acceptable for your child. Link to post Share on other sites
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