Lustymama Posted April 14, 2004 Share Posted April 14, 2004 Hello, I am new here. I have a MAJOR issue. There is a man at work that I have been eyeing for quite sometime. I know he has liked me too, as I could see by the way he looks at me. Anyhow, I wasn't sure if he was married or not, so, I emailed him to let him know I thought he was cute, and to find if he was. Well, turns out he is. And, I told him that sucks for me, but maybe we can have lunch sometime as friends. I really don't know how it started, but the emails started to get more and more intense. We started talking about sex, etc. I haven't had sex in 3 years and I'm ready for it RIGHT this minute. It's terrible. Anyhow, he is suggesting that we "meet" etc. I can't tell you how much I desire this man. I feel so guilty as he's married, but I just want to pounce on him. The chemistry and tension between us is so thick you could cut a knife with it. You can see by the way we are together that each of us just wants to rip each others clothes off. I don't know what I'm going to do. I'm torn between doing the right thing, by just walking away, or just to give in 1 time to a one night stand. My friend suggested I just do it, as I'm single. I have nothing to lose. I don't know tho... Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted April 14, 2004 Share Posted April 14, 2004 What will you do if you fall in love with him?????? Link to post Share on other sites
Pookette Posted April 14, 2004 Share Posted April 14, 2004 Oh, just don't do it. Really. Find someone else who you can have chemistry and tension with. You'll feel like poo after it's all said and done. And if you give in one time for a one night stand, there will be another one night stand with him. And another. Put yourself in his wife's shoes. How would you feel if you were the wife and found out your husband was cheating on you? What if it drives her to commit suicide? Extreme example, but it could happen. Link to post Share on other sites
Girlie Posted April 14, 2004 Share Posted April 14, 2004 I'm with Pookette. This guy may be the hottest man alive, but he's married...think of the wife and walk away. I've never been married...but I have been cheated on. Do NOT do this to this other woman. And honestly, don't to it for yourself, too. It may be just attraction now, but you could very well end up falling for him and that is a dead end. Link to post Share on other sites
onthemend Posted April 14, 2004 Share Posted April 14, 2004 Really, read through all these posts. The evidence is there right in front of you. As one who has been there, all I can say is that no matter how much you think you will be in control of the situation - you won't. You will probably fall in love then your life will be taken over, and there will be nothing but abject misery for as long as it takes until you decide you can't take any more and want to get out. There is also the little (!) issue of his wife and family. You probably don't care that he is married now, but you will do later on. You must think of her - I wish I had 2 and a half years ago. Don't do it. Link to post Share on other sites
overseas2004 Posted April 14, 2004 Share Posted April 14, 2004 What is wrong with all you people. I think she should go for it... I mean there is chemistry.... Gosh don't you all know how important that is.... Hopefully she will fall in love with him too. And then she gets the GRAND PRIZE... She gets to listen to the following: I cant leave because she is sick or because I have kids. I am not having sex with her. We sleep in different rooms. Oh we have soooo many problems... I think I will get divorced but I cant do it now. I love you so much. He will sleep at home every night. And you will sleep alone. Since you are in love you wont allow anyone else in your life. Years will pass and he will still be promising you that he will leave. You will know in your heart that it is just an old fantasy but somewhere you will still store hope like a squirrel for the winter. So knock yourself out if that is what you want.... All for the sake of chemistry. Like so what? Link to post Share on other sites
morrigan Posted April 14, 2004 Share Posted April 14, 2004 You can't have a full relationship with this man. You will never get a committment from him. He won't concern himself with your feelings, should you unfortunately fall in love with him. And I have personally never been interested in being some man's piece of a** on the sly because he's too much of a coward to divorce his wife. Walk away and find a sexy single guy whose clothes you can rip off. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted April 14, 2004 Share Posted April 14, 2004 Go buy yourself a really good vibrator and a couple dozen male skin mags. There are far smarter things you can do to deal with horniness than intruding on someone's marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lustymama Posted April 14, 2004 Author Share Posted April 14, 2004 Look, all of you don't really know me. I'm an honestly kind and good person. I too have been cheated on. Yes, that's right. I know what the right thing to do is, it's to leave this situation well enough alone. I thought alot about it last night, and as much as the temptation was overwhelming, I'm not going to go there. I wouldn't want to ruin anyone's relationship, and I think I deserve alot better than that. BTW, I have a vibrator, so, that's not really the problem. If you've been celibate for 3 years then you would understand, it's more than sex that I miss, it's the intimacy shared with another. Anyhow, I have waited all this time to have sex again with someone, I'm not going to throw myself away on someone who isn't a special person to share it with. Link to post Share on other sites
morrigan Posted April 14, 2004 Share Posted April 14, 2004 Lustymama, I don't think anyone on here believes you're a bad person, but a lot of good, smart people on LS have made the mistake of getting involved with a MM/MW. It casued them a lot of pain. Everyone has made mistakes that they regret. I think you deserve a guy who only wants to be with you, not some loser who probably has cheated on his wife before. Link to post Share on other sites
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