Emissary Posted May 27, 2011 Share Posted May 27, 2011 So I'm the 3rd party here, I have no involvement with the infidelity at hand. But theres this girl I was lusting after for quite a while, I knew for a while that she was fooling around with a married man, but I hadn't any idea how far she had really gone until recently. She knew of my feelings for her, but recently she still saw fit to clarify her relationships to me, as a sort of conversation thing, I was already trying to get over her by this point so I just rolled with it. I found out she is indeed having regular sex with a married man, and that's not all, he's not the first, there have been at least two other MARRIED MEN she has had sex with. Along with that she clarified that single men are a turnoff for her, and that she once broke off a developing relationship with a guy because he wasn't seeing somebody else. Our other co-workers seem to take this sort of news quite lightly, even joking around calling her a homewrecker, and you should hear her defenses. You can't wreck what's already broken, I'm improving things, I'm doing her(The wife) a favour by sleeping with him, and she's serious. I'm horrified, and I'm disgusted by her, a week ago I thought it was going to be impossible to start getting over her, but once I heard all of that, straight from her mouth with such self-righteousness, I'm honestly scared of her, I'm not sure if she's a human being now. She's told me many times she doesn't ever want to get married, and I think she's hesitant about having a serious relationship. So her reponse to this, is to go and sleep with men who already have a girl in their life. I understand that people who cheat on their partners are not always completely to blame and have their own circumstances, but it's rarely the correct action, to prey on weakened relationships to satisfy your own ends, I think she's a monster. I also acknowledge that a part of what I've written here is out of jealousy and bitterness, but most of it is disgust. Oh and want the real kicker? She's 21 years old...3 or more married men at 21 years of age....yeah. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emissary Posted May 27, 2011 Author Share Posted May 27, 2011 (edited) I didn't know, I said I knew she was fooling around with a married guy, and honestly the way it sounded at first I thought she hadn't actually done anything with the guy, that he was just friendly with her and was a one-sided interest. Her having a reason for doing all of this doesn't really have a ton to do with it, the fact being she is actively seeking men who are already in relationships, these aren't some sort of side relationships that happened by her mistake. I'm horrified by the glimpse I got into her inner workings, not of the infidelity, though that many affairs at her age is still scary. Also I already said that I know a part of this topic stems from jealousy, so good job picking out the obvious. Edited May 27, 2011 by Emissary Link to post Share on other sites
OldOnTheInside Posted May 27, 2011 Share Posted May 27, 2011 I wonder what kind of skeletons she has hiding in her closet, speculation is always fun... One funny thing to note is that you will probably turn into cocaine to this girl if you ever get married. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted May 27, 2011 Share Posted May 27, 2011 You can't wreck what's already broken, I'm improving things, I'm doing her(The wife) a favour by sleeping with him, and she's serious. Well I agree with the first part to an extent. I don't believe she is the homewrecker... the MARRIED MEN are the homewreckers. They are wrecking their OWN homes by having affairs. They choose to do it after all; she does not have any powers of mind control and she does not hold a gun to their head (I assume!). The rest of these statements are BS, obviously. So while she may be a nasty piece of work, she's not the nastiest out there. The married men are worse. Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted May 27, 2011 Share Posted May 27, 2011 Lucky you're out of it before you got any further in. Link to post Share on other sites
greengoddess Posted May 27, 2011 Share Posted May 27, 2011 Honestly you just have to feel sorry for someone like that. Something devastating must have happened in her background to ake her behave this way. Link to post Share on other sites
dale_gribble Posted June 8, 2011 Share Posted June 8, 2011 So, are you here because she won't "give it up" to YOU, and want to dish the details to us. Yeah, she's a homewrecker. There are unscrupulous people out ther... or didn't you know. You need to find another fixation, dude. She's playing on your feelings for her, and throuwing it in your face that you're "never gonna get it," well unless you're married. Link to post Share on other sites
StoneCold Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 (edited) You can't wreck what's already broken, I'm improving things, I'm doing her(The wife) a favour by sleeping with him, and she's serious. Well assuming from her quote that shes screwing with married men who are already in a wrecked marriage..... I would agree with her Further, you'd be surprised how many wives there are out there that may not even care because they dont want to have sex with their husband. They are far more interested in knowing that the guy stays living up to his financial responsibilities to the household and in being left to their own devices rather than argue and being haranged for sex by a frustrated man they no longer are attracted to (for whatever reason) and in turn no longer want to f*ck....I'm not saying this is the case every time...but beleive me there are couples out there like that Now I dont know the whole story with all the details..... but you need to understand that many marriages out there are not like what you see on TV.... Now you can have your own beliefs as to what marriage is supposed to be; thats your prerogative. But you cant afford to be this naive when it comes to the very real possibilities that are out there for many because you may end up getting married to someone like that....someone that either: A) doesnt see marriage the same way you do... or B) once saw marriage the same way you do but somewhere along the line they changed.. oh yeah....when it comes to you.... shes a cat and your like a ball of yarn to her...you arent her cat nip, thats for sure...at least not until you get married Edited June 9, 2011 by StoneCold Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 Plain and simple - single women who fu_k married men = home-wrecker = common whore = sociopath. No justifications or validations will change that fact. And yes, the married men that participate in that behaviour are filthy swamp scum as well. No amount of justification will change that fact. Same thing applies to single men that f_ck married women. They are wife sniping, scumbags.The women in that case are also dirty swamp scum. Married people who go outside of their own marriage to f_c_ other married people are lower than shark poo on the ocean floor. Those people can never be trusted. Plain and simple. Crude but effective. IMHO Well said! OP I think your girl has major insecurity problems. She can only feel good when she is hurting someone else. That's pretty sick. Her being only 21 years old, she will have sicko MM lining up to screw her. You should just be happy that you found all this out before getting involved with her. She has a sad life ahead of her if she keeps it up. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 Well said! OP I think your girl has major insecurity problems. She can only feel good when she is hurting someone else. That's pretty sick. Her being only 21 years old, she will have sicko MM lining up to screw her. You should just be happy that you found all this out before getting involved with her. She has a sad life ahead of her if she keeps it up. Unfortunately, there are people like that in this world. They feel they are higher up on the "food chain" if they put someone else in a position they feel is beneath them. Link to post Share on other sites
nyrias Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 Well I agree with the first part to an extent. I don't believe she is the homewrecker... the MARRIED MEN are the homewreckers. They are wrecking their OWN homes by having affairs. They choose to do it after all; she does not have any powers of mind control and she does not hold a gun to their head (I assume!). The rest of these statements are BS, obviously. So while she may be a nasty piece of work, she's not the nastiest out there. The married men are worse. It takes TWO to have an affair. It is perfectly reasonable to label BOTH as homewreckers. They are not mutually exclusive. Link to post Share on other sites
nyrias Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 Unfortunately, there are people like that in this world. They feel they are higher up on the "food chain" if they put someone else in a position they feel is beneath them. She should be an interesting subject to be studied. I wonder how common is this? Link to post Share on other sites
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