Gentlegirl Posted May 28, 2011 Share Posted May 28, 2011 (edited) Hello all you lovely people, I just feel terrific today, in fact most of this week. I have had 5 and a half months NC. This is the first week I have felt half way normal. I have little idea of what I said or did in the post affair fall out. I know I was feeling like everything was spinning out of control. Old posts would tell me but it's not the time to look back right now. NOw it seems there is going to be a life after the affair. Nothing different has happened except I am recovering. I have my confidence back and my self esteem. It was a perfect autumn day here in Sydney . I took my two small dogs for a very long walk in the sun, noticed things I haven't noticed for ages and life felt BLOODY BONZA (Australian for the JOy of life). Gentlegirl Edited May 28, 2011 by Gentlegirl spelling error Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted May 28, 2011 Share Posted May 28, 2011 A song for you: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h8tuTSi6Sck Link to post Share on other sites
myname Posted May 28, 2011 Share Posted May 28, 2011 That's great news gg, really glad to hear you're feeling so good. Enjoy your weekend. Link to post Share on other sites
Breezy Trousers Posted May 28, 2011 Share Posted May 28, 2011 Gentle, it's odd that you write this. This week, as I read a couple of your posts, I thought, "Gentle sounds very solid and grounded -- almost like a different person." It's not that you weren't before. It's just that the downside of love fog is, indeed, a fog which covers that truth about ourselves. NC seems to restore things. I'm really happy for you. Enjoy! Link to post Share on other sites
SunsetRed Posted May 28, 2011 Share Posted May 28, 2011 GREAT news, Gentlegirl! I logged on to post exactly the same thing you did. I feel triumphantly FREE! I'm just totally free from him. I'm also not angsting so much about finding someone new to replace him. I suppose all the forcing myself to date again was just about trying to move on from him. Now I really have moved on I dont need to worry about anything, I can just relax and let life take its course. I can say with 100% honesty now, I DONT want him back and if he came back I'd tell him I'mnot interested. I was so afraid Id be stuck in a horrible, depressed feeling forever and now Im free. Life is so great! Link to post Share on other sites
Amour7 Posted May 28, 2011 Share Posted May 28, 2011 Hello all you lovely people, I just feel terrific today, in fact most of this week. I have had 5 and a half months NC. This is the first week I have felt half way normal. I have little idea of what I said or did in the post affair fall out. I know I was feeling like everything was spinning out of control. Old posts would tell me but it's not the time to look back right now. NOw it seems there is going to be a life after the affair. Nothing different has happened except I am recovering. I have my confidence back and my self esteem. It was a perfect autumn day here in Sydney . I took my two small dogs for a very long walk in the sun, noticed things I haven't noticed for ages and life felt BLOODY BONZA (Australian for the JOy of life). Gentlegirl GREAT news, Gentlegirl! I logged on to post exactly the same thing you did. I feel triumphantly FREE! I'm just totally free from him. I'm also not angsting so much about finding someone new to replace him. I suppose all the forcing myself to date again was just about trying to move on from him. Now I really have moved on I dont need to worry about anything, I can just relax and let life take its course. I can say with 100% honesty now, I DONT want him back and if he came back I'd tell him I'mnot interested. I was so afraid Id be stuck in a horrible, depressed feeling forever and now Im free. Life is so great! Gentle and Sunset, Thank you so much for posting! I am very happy for you, and your success makes me feel hopeful for myself. I am 10 days NC after a D day where he dumped me. I tried ending it and LC and NC several times before, but this time is it. I have cut off his ability to contact me and I am feeling freer (even if my emotions and thoughts are still all over the place.) Gentle, I am going to look at the calendar and try to imagine feeling so great 5 months from now! I am excited at the thought. Sunset, how long did it take for you? Peace and continued happiness to you, ladies. Link to post Share on other sites
BB07 Posted May 28, 2011 Share Posted May 28, 2011 GG and Sunset...........this news makes my day! I'm so happy for you both! Link to post Share on other sites
26pointblue Posted May 28, 2011 Share Posted May 28, 2011 I'm so happy for you GentleGirl. :-) I am not nearly as far out with NC as you are & I have days of feeling great & days of feeling just awful. I can't wait to reach that place where I just feel peaceful & like I've put it behind me. I know that the only way to get there is to maintain NC, so every time I think of contacting xMM, I tell myself, no, you've come so far & can only get to where you're going if you keep it up! Your post inspires me, thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
waytogo Posted May 28, 2011 Share Posted May 28, 2011 You are in a great place GentleG. I'm so happy for you. Keep breathing that refreshing air and loving those dogs. Sounds like you found your freedom from the situation. I feel energized just reading your post. Best to you! Link to post Share on other sites
Bluebelle38 Posted May 28, 2011 Share Posted May 28, 2011 Great stuff, Gentlegirl It is a wonderful feeling getting to that point where you know that things get better - and they will only continue to. There may well still be the odd up and down moment, but you are on your way PS. Am originally a Sydney girl too, but live on the other side of the world now! Link to post Share on other sites
fooled once Posted May 29, 2011 Share Posted May 29, 2011 Great post! Glad you are feeling so good! Link to post Share on other sites
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