boyfriend wont come to visit dying grandfather

[braveschick]

Me and my boyfriend have been together 2 years. We live together and i help raise his 2 kids. Since day one i have been there for him n the kids, his ex is a piece of crap and hardly has anything to do with them. Ive been playing mommy(more than he plays daddy).

 

My grandfather is dying of cancer and he has very little time left( 2 wks per medical staff) and i had plans to visit him and asked him to come, and he wonts to bring the kids and i said thats fine but they are young and a hospital and the way my grandfather looks these days isnt good for them. My grandfather wants them to come cause he has never met them (we live 3 hours away). When i asked him to come he wanted to make it a mini vaction and take the kids somewhere fun (they are leaving in 2 wks for the summer to go to their grandparents) i was like no, this isnt a vacay, and im greaving so much. and his response was well may i should stay i want to spend as much time with the kids as i can, plus i never even met ur grandfather. I was completely hurt and blown away by this. My family has done soooo much. B4 he and his kids met my mom and grandmother they sent money, xmas gifts and bday gifts to them and him! he knows how close i am to my grandfather, and this hurts. im like the kids will be gone less than 2 months but my grandfather is leaving me forever and he wants to meet u! When i asked did he think he could make it to the funeral he said he doubts it cause he cant take off of work, when ive seen him call in over stupid stuff several times. I was only gonna spend a few hours in my home town, so it wasnt like we were gonna be gone all day. But i feel like him watching the disney channel with his kids is more important than being by my side and meeting the rest of my family. I dont know if im being selfish...but i really dont care. i feel like i have always been there for him and his kids always putting my self last to make them happy, and i never ask for anything in return, but when i do i get shut down. we are supposed to be getting married but i dont think i can because i have accepted his family and considered them my family but it is clear he doesnt feel the same.