redemption1 Posted May 28, 2011 Share Posted May 28, 2011 I need to hear it from you guys. I have no one in my life that is going thru what I am. Voice me your thoughts on my situation and tell me the hard truth. Tell me what you think is going on in her mind. I am a 25yr old male Married for 4 years, but she field on me 2 months ago 3 daugthers- 5yr, 3yr, 9months. Used to live in a home as a family I'll make this short. She accused me of having EA with women because she received a call from a women whose husband was my friend at that time. He was cheating. His wife called mine to announce that we were both cheating. Anyways, it was a mess full of lies. A month later, without me knowing she moved out and took everything from our house. I was left with a TV and couch. I later found out where she had moved to. Our relationship was okay, as friends tho. I even helped her move her furniture. I moved back with my parents and we decided to have some time off. This was a bad idea. This was in december. And of course, I would go sleep over, we were intimate but still had our fights during these times. But during this time she began to explore other things. She got a smartphone, a facebook account, starting going out with friends, parties, dinners and so on. This is what hurt our chances. She started talking to old friends and guys began to ask her out. Knowing that she was married, they did not care. This bothered and angered me and shortly she filed for divorce. Then, she was dating a old school friend. THIS IS WHAT I CAN'T FIGURE OUT.... Okay, so she has an apartment, 3 kids, a husband and a boyfriend of 1 month. She says shes not physically attracted to this guy(im not surprised), but that he's very kind and sweet and she cares for him alot. She says she still loves me but wants to move on without me. We havn't had sex in over 4 months. She says that will not happen again. BUT there have been 3 occasions where we get intimate. I pleasure her and she gets off. I like it, yea, but I feel used. I never thought I would say that. We also kiss and I grab her breast and we mess around. At the same time shes also kissing her BF. She PROMISED he hasn't even touched her sexually. Only kissing. I believe her. She has me over sometimes and we watch movies as a family. She asks favors from me which are all okay. She loves me, I know she does. But when I leave I know she'll txt and call him. She goes out with him and he's been at her apartment til' 2am! She says they watch movies and sometimes take naps. ??? . She still changes clothes in front of me when i come over. I tell her and we both agree that "it feels like the old times", when I come over and we're a family. I ask her then why not have it back? She says because Ive hurt her too much. And guess what? She broke up with her BF two days ago BUT plans to get back together once the divorce is final. She feels unfaithful to her boyfriend! WTF!?!?! How can you feel unfaithful to your BF when youre cheating on your husband with him. Sometimes she rejects when I try to kiss her because she feels dishonest to him Well, now he's out of the picture until we get divorced. I dont care about getting divorced- I want my 4 ladies back. She says: I was controlling, never let her go out, no facebook, no parties with friends, no family gatherings, i was verbally abusive, i would go out too much and party and drink with my friends, I had girls numbers on my phones, I was conversing with other women, "I wasn't there". ...and she's right for the most part BUT I was never unfaithful to her since the day I met her. What's funny is that now that i'm single, I NO LONGER DO THESE THINGS! Why!?! Now that I can, I don't! I stay at home, workout and work...that's all. My only interest is my family now. So guys, tell me my wife's mentallity? What does she want? What is she looking for? Is this temporary? Does marriage counseling work? Should I suggest it? Should i beg? Should I walk away even tho there still something strong there? FOR EVERYONES INPUT, THANK YOU IN ADVANCED!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author redemption1 Posted May 29, 2011 Author Share Posted May 29, 2011 She is blaming you for the breakup because the truth is she wants to go out and be single. Stop chasing her. She is blaming you for her selfishness. Fight fire with fire So get a GF and start showing my "going seperate way"? Link to post Share on other sites
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