Should i not look for a Job till i become a good Speaker?

[quietGuy13]

Most jobs want good speakers.. And i can't help it that NOW i'm not a good speaker（and yes i'm early 30s). So nobody's gonna ever want me in their company. In fact i proved it already 2 times two different companies, ready to hire me but they didn't want me once they discovered i'm not good enough of a speaker.

 

Should i spend like 5 years to get some training and therapy to imrpvoe my speech.. before i even try to get a job?

 

But that's unrealistic too. So what should i do?

 

I'm so stuck .

[TaraMaiden]

That's a pile or crock.

'Most jobs' don't want or need, good speakers'....

Why go for jobs where you need to be a good speaker?

 

Still, yeah. Speech therapy in projection and enunciation would help.

[TheLawmaker]

Did you know that Brad Pitt used to be extremely shy?

Did you know that Carly Simon suffers from extreme stage fright, and that's why she doesn't give many live concerts or appear in public very often?

 

It didn't stop them from living their lives, or making great movies and music.

 

OP, I am a poor public speaker. However, I have many other assets. Not very many people are born being great public speakers; they have to learn. But that doesn't mean they can't live their life along the way.

[Feelin Frisky]

Do not procrastinate over this. Fight it--fight through it. There are no guaranties that your five-year sojourn into speech therapy will pay that much of a dividend. Do you perhaps have social anxiety? If so that can be treated much more expeditiously. I used to get nervous before public speaking. My way to deal with it was to go first as much as possible in any social setting in my job. It made me look like a go getter even though really I just didn't want to wait around obsessing about how I'll be perceived. But along the way I took an SSRI anti-depressant for major depression brought on by my break up and fond that the medicine almost entirely cured "the butterflies" in my gut around public speaking.

 

At one time I also did some training videos and needed a narrator. Since I didn't yet have the company's approval and was trying to sell them on funding my video training idea I had to do the narrations myself. I got a friend with pro recording gear to tape me. When I listened back I was rather taken aback by my NY accent. I then went to voice-over workshop to learn what to fix to not sound like a New Yawka as much. Try facing your problem by speaking up ASAP to not give yourself time to obsess, think about medication if you have recurrent social anxiety, and it's possible to learn pretty quickly how to improve your speech without committing to years of speech therapy. Don't bother with speech therapy unless you suffer from serious impediments like stuttering, lisping etc. Good l-l-l-luck.

[Taramere]

Most jobs want good speakers.. And i can't help it that NOW i'm not a good speaker（and yes i'm early 30s). So nobody's gonna ever want me in their company. In fact i proved it already 2 times two different companies, ready to hire me but they didn't want me once they discovered i'm not good enough of a speaker.

 

Should i spend like 5 years to get some training and therapy to improve my speech.. before i even try to get a job?

 

But that's unrealistic too. So what should i do?

 

I'm so stuck .

 

What kind of speech problem is it that you have, quietGuy? Is it a problem that emerges in specific situations (eg when you're nervous), or an ongoing thing?

[RecordProducer]

Most jobs want good speakers.

Huh?! Not driving a truck, fixing cars, working in a lab, as a nurse, an engineer, mathematician, ... the list goes on and on. Unless you want to be a TV host/reporter, a college professor, or a trial lawyer, you probably won't need to speak too fluently and eloquently for most jobs. Even if you stutter or have a heavy accent or your English is bad, you could still get a job. We all have skills and flaws and we adjust the careers we choose accordingly.

And i can't help it that NOW i'm not a good speaker

Of course you can! But you need more help in the attitude department. Nonetheless, you should take a course in improving your speech as well as self-confidence. Find Dale Carnegie's books, they are really helpful.

 

 

So nobody's gonna ever want me in their company. In fact i proved it already 2 times two different companies, ready to hire me but they didn't want me once they discovered i'm not good enough of a speaker.

Are you looking for excuses to NOT work?

 

Should i spend like 5 years to get some training and therapy to imrpvoe my speech.. before i even try to get a job?

 

Hm... it does sound like you don't want to work. I sure hope you can afford to be a parasite for five years in your mid-30s.

 

I'm so stuck.

No, you're not. Not at all.

[Tres]

Most jobs want good speakers.. And i can't help it that NOW i'm not a good speaker（and yes i'm early 30s). So nobody's gonna ever want me in their company. In fact i proved it already 2 times two different companies, ready to hire me but they didn't want me once they discovered i'm not good enough of a speaker.

 

Should i spend like 5 years to get some training and therapy to imrpvoe my speech.. before i even try to get a job?

 

But that's unrealistic too. So what should i do?

 

I'm so stuck .

 

It depends on your education and type of job you are looking for?

It also depends on what kind of defect of speaking you have.