t Posted April 14, 2004 Share Posted April 14, 2004 Hi, My honey told me that she doesn't have the same feelings for me anymore a while ago. I should have seen that one coming, but I was blind with love. Anyway, I have been in pain even since. First, I asked her why, then I begged. Of course, that didn't work. But from the beginning I knew somehow we would work things out. She was not consistent with her reasons, and told me she didn't know where we are going. I decided to be strong myself. After a few weeks of minimal contact, she seems to be eager to talk to me. Last Sunday she called me while I was enjoying myself with friends that she knows. I told her I was kind of busy, and asked her to call back in 40 minutes. It was already late, so she never called me back. I think she expected me to call her back since that's the way it always worked. We are in Long Distance, she told me it's cheaper to call her (hehe, a very good one). Then today, I got her e-mail apologizing for not calling me that night, because she fell asleep. Also she called me last night too, but I left my cell phone in my office. So here I am, not sure if I should reply to her email, or in fact what I want to say to her. Any advice is appreiated! -t Link to post Share on other sites
ger2004 Posted April 14, 2004 Share Posted April 14, 2004 Hi i'm in the exact same position, she told me she didn't know where thing's were going, that she was confused and needed her time and space. I'm not a very strong person and normally when a girlfriend breaks up with me i'm like texting and calling almost everyday and i know now this was just boasting there ego and pushing them further and further away. So i read lost in chgo's lost guide to no contact which is posted on this board (you should read it) and decided to follow it's advise for my present girlfriend that broke up with me ten weeks ago. I think it could be working, because i have'nt contacted her at all, but have always replied. She contacted me at least once a week every week for the first seven week's and i was like this is cool she's doing all the running now. But then it stopped nothing for three and a half weeks. I thought oh no she's gone, she's stopped caring, she think's i'm not interested anymore. Then yesterday when i was almost on the end of my rope she got in touch again. What i'm trying to say here mate is don't give up, i beleive this no contact policy could be the best way, maybe i'm wrong, but at least i can say to my self she dumped me, yet she is doing all the running and it's up to me wether i want to take her back. Which i know i willl i love her so much. No contact..........................................hope i've helped Link to post Share on other sites
t Posted April 15, 2004 Share Posted April 15, 2004 I wonder when would be a good time to reconcile though. Maybe we need to push them a little bit, saying "hey, both of us know I would do anything to work this out. But a relationship takes two people's effort. And I need to move on with my life. The past few weeks(months) have been the most painful time in my life. So if you want, let's talk and work things slowly back to normal. Otherwise....". Btw, I read lost in chgo's post. But today I read a great post saying that "what's lost has already been lost", and if there is still love, you won't lose it anyways by being firm. I like that attitude. It's very positive. I am not afraid now, even though I would still sacrifice everything I have for her to say "she loves me". Thanks for your reply! -t Link to post Share on other sites
ger2004 Posted April 15, 2004 Share Posted April 15, 2004 listen if you want to p.m. feel free, i think our situation has a lot in common and maybe we could come up with some plan of action. Beleive me i know how bad your hurting, i feel the same, but you have to try and get on with your life in the mean time. its hard i know but it does get a little easier you will start to have good days and bad day's rather then just bad days. Take care Link to post Share on other sites
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