bcharchar80 Posted May 30, 2011 Share Posted May 30, 2011 Hi everyone! So my wife and I have been together for two years. In about January both my wife and I started working opposite schedules at work, we were both under a lot of stress and didnt spend too much time together. We were also buying a house which definitely didnt make me a happier person because of all the crap we had to go through to get the house. I also found out I have a heart problem which made me worry a lot. For the most part our relationship has been solid and happy up until about three months ago... Since our emotional connection had diminished, My wife had an emotional affair with a co worker. She says she is over it, and realized it was a stupid crush... I believe her for the most part, she no longer talks to her co worker outside of work anymore and is trying to get a promotion at another store. She said she does want us to work... We have been trying to work on thigs, but it seems like we are getting worse and worse. She doesn't know if she is happy with our relationship... 50% of her feels like she needs to be on her own, and 50% of her feels she wants to make things work with me...she says that she has very little of the "in love" feeling for me but it is growing little each day, but then KAPOOT, she is back in a funk and doesnt know what she wants... I've tried leaving a couple times but she wants me to stay. Ive tried giving her tons of attention, she backs off. Ive backed off and she asks me why? day before yesterday we have one of the funnest romantic nights in the past 6 months, then the next day she wakes up unhappy but doesnt know why, she just knows she is unhappy with us. we went to a therapist once last week, which she said she is most likely going this week but after yesterday now she doesnt see the use for it! This emotional rollercoaster is completely draining me and I'm ready to give up. Any advice would be great. Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
John Michael Kane Posted May 30, 2011 Share Posted May 30, 2011 Hi everyone! So my wife and I have been together for two years. In about January both my wife and I started working opposite schedules at work, we were both under a lot of stress and didnt spend too much time together. We were also buying a house which definitely didnt make me a happier person because of all the crap we had to go through to get the house. I also found out I have a heart problem which made me worry a lot. For the most part our relationship has been solid and happy up until about three months ago... Since our emotional connection had diminished, My wife had an emotional affair with a co worker. She says she is over it, and realized it was a stupid crush... I believe her for the most part, she no longer talks to her co worker outside of work anymore and is trying to get a promotion at another store. She said she does want us to work... We have been trying to work on thigs, but it seems like we are getting worse and worse. She doesn't know if she is happy with our relationship... 50% of her feels like she needs to be on her own, and 50% of her feels she wants to make things work with me...she says that she has very little of the "in love" feeling for me but it is growing little each day, but then KAPOOT, she is back in a funk and doesnt know what she wants... I've tried leaving a couple times but she wants me to stay. Ive tried giving her tons of attention, she backs off. Ive backed off and she asks me why? day before yesterday we have one of the funnest romantic nights in the past 6 months, then the next day she wakes up unhappy but doesnt know why, she just knows she is unhappy with us. we went to a therapist once last week, which she said she is most likely going this week but after yesterday now she doesnt see the use for it! This emotional rollercoaster is completely draining me and I'm ready to give up. Any advice would be great. Thanks! How about you switch things up? Let her go. She wants to cheat and run off at her selfish filthy mouth talking about how she doesn't love you with her hands on her hips, tell her don't let the door smash her ankles on the way out. Abusing you and you have a heart problem? Let her go. Link to post Share on other sites
seibert253 Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 (edited) You and your W should strongly consider MC. Two reasons: 1. Help you and you W heal from her infidelity. 2. Help you and your W understand each other more deeply, then it's easier to connect. Oh BTW, how sure are you that her A is over? Just because she said so doesn't necessarily mean it's true. After all, cheaters lie, and liers cheat. Is she an open book to you? Do you have access to email, cellphone, etc? If you don't, and have no real proof that her A is over, judging by her actions she it seems she probably is still involved. If not, she still has feelings for the OM. Women cannot just turn off that emotional connection. MC can help that unhealthy emotional connection to fade. Edited May 31, 2011 by seibert253 Link to post Share on other sites
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