daisy love Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 Well well well ALL YOU NAYSAYERS! Last week my love bought a home here in The City. Last week my love served his wife with DIVORCE PAPERS! This week all of you that CRAPPED all over me and our love and said he'd NEVER EVER LEAVE can ____ it! Sometimes they REALLY DO LEAVE! Link to post Share on other sites
bittersweet memories Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 Well well well ALL YOU NAYSAYERS! Last week my love bought a home here in The City. Last week my love served his wife with DIVORCE PAPERS! This week all of you that CRAPPED all over me and our love and said he'd NEVER EVER LEAVE can ____ it! Sometimes they REALLY DO LEAVE! Bought you a home and served his wife with divorce papers the same week? ah..hummm...sure Link to post Share on other sites
Author daisy love Posted May 31, 2011 Author Share Posted May 31, 2011 Yeah yeah yeah how typical. Please brush up on your reading comprehension before posting! I said he purchased a home. Where did I say he purchased it for me? Jealous much? Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 And because you are so secure in your relationship, you came on an internet forum of strangers to say..."boo yah" Speaks volumes about you and your story. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 I'm taking it the new home he bought is marital property then ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author daisy love Posted May 31, 2011 Author Share Posted May 31, 2011 I'm taking it the new home he bought is marital property then ? So what! He's leaving her the house in LA. It's worth more and it's what she wants. Did you guys expect him to live on the streets? Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 So what! He's leaving her the house in LA. It's worth more and it's what she wants. Did you guys expect him to live on the streets? Well.....too easy.:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 So what! He's leaving her the house in LA. It's worth more and it's what she wants. Did you guys expect him to live on the streets? I think in CA they don't call it leaving her the house.. they call it 50/50 split. Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 daisy - congrats. And for the naysayers, you know your relationship and that should be good enough. Don't worry about others, its easy to sit around and judge others, actually getting out and living life is a whole other ball of wax. Good luck with your future! From experience the Separation/Divorce stage is still a bumpy ride so hang on. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 So what! He's leaving her the house in LA. It's worth more and it's what she wants. Did you guys expect him to live on the streets? Honestly.. are you sure he is leaving her.. because buying a house before the divorce is final isn't exactly an easy thing to do.. There will be a order put in place upon the filing that limits spending or buying on both parties.. I also think any lawyer would also advice against him buying the home unless it was post separation or divorce.. It sounds to me that they are trying out a separation before the divorce... Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 AC - many states require a seperation prior to divorce so one can be synomous with the other. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 AC - many states require a seperation prior to divorce so one can be synomous with the other. Many do.. but to buy a house before the separation and or court rulings isn't exactly something a lawyer would advise. Not sure about CA.. in my state it is 31 days of separation. oh.. and I'm not being a Nay Sayer.. just wondering about the OP's motive for such a posting when it seems she doesn't have the whole picture yet.. Link to post Share on other sites
Rose1977 Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 Daisy, please be careful. If he is being honest with you I am very happy for you, I know this is what you have been waiting for. All property has to be divided in a divorce. You have described the wife as so money hungry that MM has to hide assets from her. I am just asking you to think this through before you get hurt PLEASE. If he has spent all this time hiding assets from her - WHY would he buy another one while still married? Someone will have to buy someone out... even if she WANTS the LA house - all assets must be divided. Not being a naysayer, just asking you to think things through and make sure you have all the facts before making major life decisions. Link to post Share on other sites
Rose1977 Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 BTW, do people really say boo ya IRL? I must be old. Link to post Share on other sites
Angelina527 Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 I'll never cheer someone on when they're apart of the destruction of a family. Also, if you marry a man who cheats on his wife, you will be married to a man who cheats on his wife. Sadly, I know this first hand. Yes, my husband really did leave, but I've paid the price for the pain I helped cause to his first wife...I got a taste of my own medicine. So will you, except I'm sure your taste will be worse than mine. At least I felt some guilt and compassion. Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 BTW, do people really say boo ya IRL? I must be old. My children don't even say it anymore...they must be old too. Link to post Share on other sites
Rose1977 Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 My children don't even say it anymore...they must be old too. We're all old. And bitter apparantly. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 (edited) I'm taking it the new home he bought is marital property then ? So what! He's leaving her the house in LA. It's worth more and it's what she wants. Did you guys expect him to live on the streets? I think in CA they don't call it leaving her the house.. they call it 50/50 split. it is his W property too - since they are still married. maybe he's telling her he's interested in a vacation home? even IF they divorce - he's still going to have to have his W sign off on the deed to the home he's buying now - and she may NOT do that - and he can't say anything about it if she doesn't sign off on it. she will be part owner in the house he's buying. i'm SURE he's not TOTALLY gifting her the LA home... that would be stupid of him - the law in CA says 50% of the home is his. why DIDN'T he put the new house in YOUR name? if he's SO set on being with you - this could be his way of showing you he intends to include you. since he's buying it now - he may never put the property in your name alongside of his name. and the divorce papers - did he show you the filed copy? the day she was served, does it show it? either way - he's still not divorced until the court says it's final - i wanted mine over with and it was our assets that held it all up - took almost 4 years to finalize it all... and split things up - anything can happen in the interim. so don't bank on it all until it's a done deal... stranger things have happened around here. it's all a bunch of smoke he's blowing around - at least it will look that way until his divorce is FINAL... so don't count on it. sit back and wait - be cautious- i'd hate to see you get hurt by expecting too much from his promises. Edited May 31, 2011 by 2sunny Link to post Share on other sites
OldOnTheInside Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 This is an entertaining read... You're a good troll. Or somebody that needs to go on medication. Either way, kudos to you daisy. Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 I have no idea what "boo ya" means (I assume it's an Americanism) but I'm glad things seem to be resolving themselves, Daisy. I hope things work out as you want them to. Link to post Share on other sites
swimmingfreely Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 Well well well ALL YOU NAYSAYERS! Last week my love bought a home here in The City. Last week my love served his wife with DIVORCE PAPERS! This week all of you that CRAPPED all over me and our love and said he'd NEVER EVER LEAVE can ____ it! Sometimes they REALLY DO LEAVE! It does happen!! Good luck !! Link to post Share on other sites
swimmingfreely Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 Hi, I am new on here. I'm kinda confused. I thought everyone would be happy for Daisy. ?? Seems like everyone is sure that this is not going to work out for her. I think we should try to be more supportive, am I wrong ? Link to post Share on other sites
bigmomma1974 Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 I think it is sad that any one person would get involved with a married person. It is unfair to everyone involved, especially if there are kids involved. As for support some people can't give support to the OW/OM because it hits close to home. I am trying to have an open mind but it is hard to when someone cheats on someone. It is hurtful emotionally and mentally. Link to post Share on other sites
greengoddess Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 Hi, I am new on here. I'm kinda confused. I thought everyone would be happy for Daisy. ?? Seems like everyone is sure that this is not going to work out for her. I think we should try to be more supportive, am I wrong ? It's the fear factor. We've seen too many people hurt. Scenario I see playing out. False hope. His family lives on the west coast. He does business on the east coast. He's making daisy believe he is leaving and she is the only one while he lives two lives. Tells his wife he needs a place to stay here while doing business. Then wife is fine, thinks it's work while he stays with daisy, when he travels back to his family daisy is fine. She thinks he is going to the west coast for business. The man is happy. Has a love on each coast taking care of his every need. I would be really really careful daisy. I don't trust this and don't want to see you hurt. Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 Hi, I am new on here. I'm kinda confused. I thought everyone would be happy for Daisy. ?? Seems like everyone is sure that this is not going to work out for her. I think we should try to be more supportive, am I wrong ? You are wrong. You do your thing. And each of us will do ours...okaaay? Link to post Share on other sites
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