OldOnTheInside Posted June 1, 2011 Share Posted June 1, 2011 My question wasn't about Daisy, it was about living with the consequences of being wrong in our replies, which is worse - a nice or a mean reply? I think that you are missing my point here. People wouldn't be so "mean" if daisy wasn't blatantly effing around with the more serious posters. And IMO you're overestimating the importance of our replies. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 1, 2011 Share Posted June 1, 2011 Alls I sayin is you ppl need a REALITY CHECK if you think the married person doesn't leave. I accept there will be bumps along the road but we are getting there and we are going to do it together. Noone is disputing this fact. OF COURSE some MM leave their wives for the OW, get divorced.. But the majority do not. Your MM put a plan into action and backed up his words..NOT too many DO that, actually follow through. Get out of the affair dynamic and DATE. Take things slowly and allow him time to sort out the end of his marriage, deal with his soon to be ex wife and his inlaws, other family and loose ends, finances etc. Even though he is divorcing he still will need some time to grieve the loss (even you don't believe he should) of the life he once shared with his wife. Troll or not, you were never here on LS for help or support. You came here from day one with a huge attitude and that put people off. Instead of taking time to read other threads and reach out, help others, you jumped in and caused reaction by what you said and how you said it. Yes, many on here jumped on you but again, it's the unsincere attitude and IN YOUR FACE, SCREW YOU BITTER PEOPLE, that people didn't like. Good luck on the new life with your soon to be single "boyfriend". Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 1, 2011 Share Posted June 1, 2011 I will definiteley come back if it doesn't work out. After all get with the I told you so's you might really be sweet to me. It's cool. I said what I had to say. All of you can stick your heads back in the sand now. It won't change a thing between me and my love. I waited and so far it's been worth it! Another OW might want to wait to and never post because she knows what will happen here. It's ok with me. Ppl who believe in their love take their chances. I'm happy about this milestone and so I said so. I for one, will support you if things don't work out between you and your MM. And so will many others on here. If you truly need it, people ARE here. If you are genuine and honest when you post, people respond to that. Sorry Daisy but from day one you ruffled feathers in your first post and seemed quite proud of it, that put people off. just ppl still going on and on and on about how the married guy never leaves. Again, noone has said it never happens..It's RARE that it happens, atleast on LS. Out of 300 OW on here, possibly 10 have ended up together. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 1, 2011 Share Posted June 1, 2011 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t280521/ Daisy, read this. A poster (Anna) just posted this tonight. I hope it gives you insight and respect, for others other than you and your MM. Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted June 1, 2011 Share Posted June 1, 2011 I think that you are missing my point here. People wouldn't be so "mean" if daisy wasn't blatantly effing around with the more serious posters. And IMO you're overestimating the importance of our replies. ....or the more serious posters are effin' around with Daisy? Link to post Share on other sites
Author daisy love Posted June 1, 2011 Author Share Posted June 1, 2011 I think that you are missing my point here. People wouldn't be so "mean" if daisy wasn't blatantly effing around with the more serious posters. And IMO you're overestimating the importance of our replies.I am not effing around with anyone. Everytime I come here it's gloom and doom and I offer another perspective. I get it that some ppl don't like it but it doesn't change the facts. Link to post Share on other sites
Author daisy love Posted June 1, 2011 Author Share Posted June 1, 2011 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t280521/ Daisy, read this. A poster (Anna) just posted this tonight. I hope it gives you insight and respect, for others other than you and your MM. Yes master. Link to post Share on other sites
Ms. Red Posted June 1, 2011 Share Posted June 1, 2011 Yes master. A prime example of your attitude that is off-putting. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 1, 2011 Share Posted June 1, 2011 Yes master. Was this really necessary? I was trying to be helpful and nice but once again you proved to me that you just cannot be nice or friendly to anyone on here. The chip on your shoulder is getting bigger. Forget it, don't read the link. I doubt you'd even consider respect, let alone understand what Anna was posting. Link to post Share on other sites
BenThereDunThat Posted June 1, 2011 Share Posted June 1, 2011 A prime example of your attitude that is off-putting. In addition to the "go pound sand" message to anyone who isn't on her "side." Whatever. Truly happy (or even not so happy, but NORMAL, grown up) people do not create threads just to tell an entire group of complete strangers to eff off. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 1, 2011 Share Posted June 1, 2011 I am not effing around with anyone. Everytime I come here it's gloom and doom and I offer another perspective. I get it that some ppl don't like it but it doesn't change the facts. What perspective is that? GO FOR IT! Wait for 2,3,5, 10 years for your MM and eventually he'll be yours? Most OW who post are in PAIN and have a MM who is indecisive, plays both sides of the fence. Sorry but I am NOT going to push an OW or OM into staying in an affair if the MM/MW has no intention of ever leaving. Doom and gloom? Because people have different experiences and opinions than you? MOST on here have been through hell and back, OW/OM, BS, even MM/MW's. But, you don't see .. Ever.. For whatever your reasons are, you cannot put yourself in someone else's shoes. Link to post Share on other sites
Ms. Red Posted June 1, 2011 Share Posted June 1, 2011 In addition to the "go pound sand" message to anyone who isn't on her "side." Whatever. Truly happy (or even not so happy, but NORMAL, grown up) people do not create threads just to tell an entire group of complete strangers to eff off. Exactly. I'm usually one to congratulate someone when they post the news that the first post has. But, I'm really not in the mood with this poster. Link to post Share on other sites
Author daisy love Posted June 1, 2011 Author Share Posted June 1, 2011 Was this really necessary? I was trying to be helpful and nice but once again you proved to me that you just cannot be nice or friendly to anyone on here. The chip on your shoulder is getting bigger. Forget it, don't read the link. I doubt you'd even consider respect, let alone understand what Anna was posting. Sorry! You post on every thread and never say anything different. Your posts are as off putting to me as mine are to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author daisy love Posted June 1, 2011 Author Share Posted June 1, 2011 Exactly. I'm usually one to congratulate someone when they post the news that the first post has. But, I'm really not in the mood with this poster. But you posted anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
BenThereDunThat Posted June 1, 2011 Share Posted June 1, 2011 Was this really necessary? I was trying to be helpful and nice but once again you proved to me that you just cannot be nice or friendly to anyone on here. The chip on your shoulder is getting bigger. Forget it, don't read the link. I doubt you'd even consider respect, let alone understand what Anna was posting. Ya know, WWIU, you have consistenly been the kindest, most level-headed poster here at LS. Always. You give the benefit of the doubt way more than just about anyone here. You don't sugar coat, but you also don't belittle. You just give advice. Which, really, isn't that what people post to forums for? I know that's what I expected from my very first post. Same with my IRL friends. I expect that they will tell me what they think, whether I like it or not. Otherwise, I wouldn't open my mouth about anything. So when a newbie comes along and gets snippy with you, of all people - constantly? That's when I know this person is no longer worthy of our input - positive or negative. Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted June 1, 2011 Share Posted June 1, 2011 It is way past dinner time you know. Link to post Share on other sites
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