Livelovelearn Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 (edited) Hello all, I am confused. My ex who broke up with me a year ago contacted me about a week ago. I initiated no contact for three months and then he sends me a message saying hi and wanted to see what i was up to. His bday was around the corner and when i didnt text him right away he texted me saying not even a birthday wish . So i wished him happy birthday..and that same night he texted at 3 am asking me whats up, if i was awake and when i didnt respond cuz i was sleeping he msgd me to wake up. Now i thought he was regretting his decision or he missed me and still had feelings because he also sent me a text when he was at work to just say hi. I thought this was odd. Anyways yesterday i checked his fb page (we arent friends but his page is open) and he recently put a pic up of him and a girl. I texted him asking who she was , if it was his gf and he said yes, They been dating a month.... Now my question is if he was dating this lady for a month y did he contact me? I was doing fine without hearing from him and he decides to text me when he gets a gf? any advice or similar situations ??? im confused. he didnt mention her from the beginning and his messages to say hi and see what i was doing led me on. BUT i did text him and told him some things and i concluded i dont hate you but please do not contact me again. Edited May 31, 2011 by Livelovelearn Link to post Share on other sites
Exit Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 Don't worry about it. You asked him not to contact you again, that's what is important. If he's dating someone yet texting you, what kind of person does that make him? He may have just been fishing for attention, wanting an ego boost to see if you still miss him, to see if you would still reply right away. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Livelovelearn Posted May 31, 2011 Author Share Posted May 31, 2011 Thanks exit, yeah maybe thats what he wanted but something was telling me that it was more than that. i felt like he may have actually had feelings but then he did break up with me a year ago because he didnt feel the same anymoore...but he was seeing someone else. I also did not respond right away when he first texted me..all his follow up texts i did not respond quickly to either. i have also ignored the late night ones Link to post Share on other sites
Exit Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 Thanks exit, yeah maybe thats what he wanted but something was telling me that it was more than that. It's not up to you to "feel" or "read into" what he says to see if it really means something more. If he has something important to say, he better man up and say it, instead of sending you dinky little texts while he dates someone else. Take everything at face value, if you get a text that says "what's up" it means what's up, if you get a text saying "I'm with this girl but I miss you and I think we could have worked" then that means something more. It's not up to you to put the meaning behind his little texts, it's up to him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Livelovelearn Posted May 31, 2011 Author Share Posted May 31, 2011 Thank you Exit, I admit its true i guess i tend to analyze the small things when they are really nothing to analyze..well i learned i still have a bit of feelings for him and hearing he had a gf did hurt me...so yeah if he has something more in depth that he needs to say he should have said it... but now ive reach my breaking point i never want to hear from him again which is why i did say do not contact me and i dont regret it. In order to fully move on i need him fully removed from any thing in my life. But the thing is he will still pop up in my mind and i dont know how to get rid of that Link to post Share on other sites
Author Livelovelearn Posted June 1, 2011 Author Share Posted June 1, 2011 Well he just said himself that he knows im a good person and he thought we could be friends....so he went out got a gf and then waited to contact me????/ i just dont get it i wish he had never contacted me...now im back to the beginning feeling heart broken because he is flashing her all over his fb saying they are in a relationship and put a picture up of him and her on his main pic....i hate this Link to post Share on other sites
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