DeadVicious Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 I need serious answers please and thank you. About back in January, my ex boyfriend that lived 2 hours away dumped me because of the distance and the drive to where I lived. We we're together for 3 months, we were so amazing for each other, we had the best of times, and it ended on good terms. I don't hate him and I have nothing against him and respect his wishes. Not too long ago, this past Memorial day weekend, I went to a con and he was also attending it. We made plans to hit each other up and hang out. Not just alone, but with friends too. I missed him so much..it had been 4 months since I saw him and since we really last talked in person. We we're partying and hanging out the 4 days of the con, and we we're drunk/buzzing, but both remember everything. We kissed, we hugged, we talked about things between us and of our relationship and we also got intimate and things just happened. He's the best friend that I have ever had and have known each other since May of last year. We met at the same convention center and I fell so hard instantly and he did too. I told him I still wanted to be with him, and that I wasn't interested in anyone who even lived in the same town as me. I feel so good when I'm with him, he makes me happy, even though we aren't together anymore. We are never awkward around each other and we're both crazy for each other. He told me he's still attracted to me, likes me, misses me, and wishes things could be different and that I lived closer. I was happy to hear that from him, but that's not all. As much as he said all those things, he also told me that he loves being single too, and he said he wasn't interested in anyone else at all and doesn't just want to have sex with girls and isn't looking for anyone better than me either. He just doesn't want a relationship because he doesn't want to have to worry about so much, and being so committed. He's 22 and I'm 20. I know we're still young, and have a lot ahead of ourselves in our lives and in the future, but I feel so alone without him, I feel like he belongs in my life and as much as it hurts to know he can't commit, I still want him no matter what. He knows this, and I'm sure it hurts him too. I'm fine being friends, but I always think about him. He's just so great to me, I am so happy to have him in my life even if it's not through a romantic relationship. Before we started dating I had not been with anyone for 2 in a half years. I was used to being single too and I did love it. The only thing I'm trying to do is love being single too and get back on my feet to where I used to be, but also still have a place for him in my heart and keep him as a friend and keep everything cool. We never had any arguments, we never had a bad time around each other, we got intimate fast, but it felt so right. Maybe I am in love? Him and I aren't the type to really say that so much like other couples do, it's another thing I like about us, but is this what love is even if I don't have to say those 3 words all the time? They say that once a girl/guy has broken up with you, that that's the end of it. I don't believe that, and all I can hope for is to try and get myself together, and hopefully move closer to him. I plan and have been planning on moving before we met to a city that's about an hour away for school and for more better job opportunities, but I wonder if that will make much of a difference. I cried a little during the con alone in my room, and before posting this. I don't know what to do about the way I feel. I hate being so far away from him. I want to be with him so much. I never tried this hard for a guy before. It feels good, but also hurts. </3 <3 </3 <3 Link to post Share on other sites
TMichaels Posted June 3, 2011 Share Posted June 3, 2011 I never tried this hard for a guy before It takes two to tango; quit throwing yourself at his feet. If you don't have respect for yourself, don't expect any one else to either. Ask yourself this: Do you want some to love you because they feel sorry for you? Not too many people are looking for a relationship with someone whom has more respect for them than themselves. Best, TMichaels Link to post Share on other sites
mezmrz Posted June 6, 2011 Share Posted June 6, 2011 I need serious answers please and thank you. About back in January, my ex boyfriend that lived 2 hours away dumped me because of the distance and the drive to where I lived. Sorry, but no-one dumps someone because of the distance that each other lives away from. Link to post Share on other sites
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