BenThereDunThat Posted June 4, 2011 Share Posted June 4, 2011 And who says that the emotional bond and commitment isn't part of the cake, or cake itself? It really depends on the needs of the MP. Some are sexual, some are emotional. And the EA is still something the BS won't put up with. I'd rather have the whole package, and enjoy it rather than be frustrated by it. Wait a minute. What's the whole package? As far as you are concerned, that is. Link to post Share on other sites
BenThereDunThat Posted June 4, 2011 Share Posted June 4, 2011 An OW who calls other OW sluts??? Now that's rich. Tee hee. Yeah....she did just that. Go ahead, go look. Called women who sleep with their MMs SLUTS. Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted June 4, 2011 Share Posted June 4, 2011 Wait a minute. What's the whole package? As far as you are concerned, that is.The whole package is something that meets MY needs. Good communication, emotional involvement, hot sex. To me that is the whole package. Would I rather be M to him? Sure, but I'm doing just fine without the paper. Yeah....she did just that. Go ahead, go look. Called women who sleep with their MMs SLUTS.You know what? It doesn't hurt as much as it makes me laugh my arse off. :p:p Link to post Share on other sites
BenThereDunThat Posted June 4, 2011 Share Posted June 4, 2011 The whole package is something that meets MY needs. Good communication, emotional involvement, hot sex. To me that is the whole package. Would I rather be M to him? Sure, but I'm doing just fine without the paper. You know what? It doesn't hurt as much as it makes me laugh my arse off. :p:p Awesome. If that's your whole package, then rock on. Live like you wanna live, I always say. But just know that there are people who DO have the "whole package" who can't understand where you're coming from. And honestly? That "whole package" involves burps, farts, skid marks and every other gross thing that men do. Because, well, they're just gross. Full disclosure: I am a perpetually single woman because I have a low tolerance for any of the above. Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted June 4, 2011 Share Posted June 4, 2011 Awesome. If that's your whole package, then rock on. Live like you wanna live, I always say. But just know that there are people who DO have the "whole package" who can't understand where you're coming from. And honestly? That "whole package" involves burps, farts, skid marks and every other gross thing that men do. Because, well, they're just gross. Full disclosure: I am a perpetually single woman because I have a low tolerance for any of the above.Ah, I like your way of thinking BTDT! I had 'the whole package' when I was M for 25 years. Burps, farts, bad breath, a log on the couch, etc, etc, and I still loved him until the last few years--and he did everything in his power to kill that love. And I'm quite aware that many posters can't understand where I'm coming from, maybe they just haven't lived as long as me, or lived as much as me if they're older. I'm ok with defending my beliefs. And I find that living alone AND having the whole package suits me pretty well at the moment. Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted June 4, 2011 Share Posted June 4, 2011 The whole package is something that meets MY needs. Good communication, emotional involvement, hot sex. To me that is the whole package. Would I rather be M to him? Sure, but I'm doing just fine without the paper. You know what? It doesn't hurt as much as it makes me laugh my arse off. :p:p Yup I usually laugh too when kids do something that is amusing. Let's laugh together. Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 4, 2011 Share Posted June 4, 2011 Shuddup, you guys. She's on a boat. Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted June 4, 2011 Share Posted June 4, 2011 Yup I usually laugh too when kids do something that is amusing. Let's laugh together. Ha ha ha ha ha...I heart you Bent! Shuddup, you guys. She's on a boat. Mme. Chaucer, you're the best. Thanks for the laughs. I gave the boat away in my D after he signed it over to me. I was happy to do it. Link to post Share on other sites
crazycatlady Posted June 4, 2011 Share Posted June 4, 2011 You have no idea...he's at work I'm going for a boat ride and you will be shut up inside all day on the computer. Enjoy Why yes I am inside, are you peeking in my window? Did you see what happened last night, if you are? It wasn't vanilla that's for sure . I am enjoying the fact that I have A/C with the temp edging up to 100 degrees outside. Also since I'm fair skinned, have a family history of skin cancer, and am not stupid, spending the heat of the day indoors is always a wise idea. But that's wisdom... which might not be something you understand. Shuddup, you guys. She's on a boat. HAHAHA. Good one. But if she is on a boat....can she be swimming freely? Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted June 4, 2011 Share Posted June 4, 2011 Why yes I am inside, are you peeking in my window? Did you see what happened last night, if you are? It wasn't vanilla that's for sure . I am enjoying the fact that I have A/C with the temp edging up to 100 degrees outside. Also since I'm fair skinned, have a family history of skin cancer, and am not stupid, spending the heat of the day indoors is always a wise idea. But that's wisdom... which might not be something you understand. HAHAHA. Good one. But if she is on a boat....can she be swimming freely? Sure, if she anchors the boat. Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 4, 2011 Share Posted June 4, 2011 But if she is on a boat....can she be swimming freely? I think perhaps it's her head that's often swimming ... freely. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 4, 2011 Share Posted June 4, 2011 You know what? It doesn't hurt as much as it makes me laugh my arse off. :p:p I think everybody is getting a good laugh at this thread, as well as some of the comments made. Link to post Share on other sites
SidLyon Posted June 4, 2011 Share Posted June 4, 2011 I think everybody is getting a good laugh at this thread, as well as some of the comments made. The original of that post is now gone but it's been quoted in later posts so we can still see it. I think the mod has been quite busy in the last couple of days. Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted June 5, 2011 Share Posted June 5, 2011 Is this twitter? Link to post Share on other sites
crazycatlady Posted June 5, 2011 Share Posted June 5, 2011 Is this twitter? Nope no #, must be facebook instead. Link to post Share on other sites
FieldFlower Posted June 5, 2011 Share Posted June 5, 2011 How deep was this conversation? Why coyote never catches roadrunner, or the complete overview of the operating systems of the flux capacitor? vwebbingfreely, you do realize that your drama just takes the focus off people who sincerely want to use their brain and find a solution to REAL problems? Not some bizarro, online, salami spankin to the tune of "oh yeah bayyyyybeeee me mouse sooo sticky, me LOL you long time. Sluts? Sexually frustrated are we? Now tell us how you really feel. I know I said I was done on the "He is the greatest thing in the whole wide web, and I ) about it", but I figured since you called OW sluts, then my little fun wouldn't bother a big ole intelligent girl like you. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 5, 2011 Share Posted June 5, 2011 Friendship above all !! That is why they will stay married long after you are out of the picture. There is a comfortable intimacy in marriage or LTR's (living with someone on a daily basis, sharing meals, a bed, vacationing together, sharing a bathroom, seeing each other at vulnerable emotional states that no one ever gets to share in, going to extended family events together, and so on). This is an intertwined life that is separate from his evident need to cheat. Just because he has you, doesn't mean he wants you full time regardless of how much he enjoys that part time or sex (when you end up having it) he shares with you. I had plenty of flings in various LTR's - and nearly all of them shared one thing in common: they all had an expiration date. Most affairs do if you enter into an affair with someone who isn't doing it because they want to divorce (and what you posted about him sounds like he didn't have divorce in mind). If you want to get the most out of your affair with a MM who doesn't plan to divorce, ironically you have to learn to expect the least. The second you start scheming to get him unmarried, or pushing in that direction (even when he gives you the impression that he would rather be with you) - you will find him with a death grip on his marriage, and forced to hold on to one, you will be the one he lets go. Never, ever count on a divorce until it is said and done, and even then give it a while. Sometimes they go back. Sometimes it is necessary to push a MM to the brink of an ultimatum in order to see any progress. It may not be progress in the direction you want, but if you aren't happy with the status quo you may want to take that chance. It will either end or it won't. Either way you win: if it ends you still have the chance to find eventual happiness with someone else, if he divorces and ends up with you, then you have your man (though you may want to use caution there - in this particular case from what you have written about him he isn't any more likely to be faithful to you than he is to his wife now.) Link to post Share on other sites
BenThereDunThat Posted June 5, 2011 Share Posted June 5, 2011 Well, at the very least we can tell how long it takes for mods to react. I called her out for calling a BW a moron and her H a douche. And then the whole slut comment..... Link to post Share on other sites
FieldFlower Posted June 5, 2011 Share Posted June 5, 2011 HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! Thanks for the laugh.. I needed that! Your welcome, I actually cracked myself up. Been walking around all day telling everyone I know that me so happy, me LOL you long time...hehehehe I've been a member of several message boards, and I have never seen the trolls come out in droves like they do here. It's like walking through a fun house and all the crazy clowns are laughing, and twirling with their big red clown noses, and that crazy insane happy music is playing, and every once in a while you run into a real person who just doesn't understand WTF's going on either...lolol It's one thing to stick your head up your arse when you don't like what your hearing, it's completely something else when you resort to name calling, such as douche bag, sluts, or insult someone elses sex life as vanilla. I'm blown away that someone who's sex life is basically masturbating in front of a text window is somehow better then someones real life getting down with the real deed, and then have the nerve to call it vanilla. I dunno, IRL when people brag about their sexual prowess, and make fun of someone elses, in generally means they ain't gettin any. Yeah, and I'm talking about you vswebby, and I imagine that sooner or later the mods will figure out that the reincarnated trolls can't change a static IP address, and ban you for good. This thread alone is prime example of how trolls distract the support from other threads, and get their attention fix and keep it going by inflammatory remarks, and bizarre scenario's fitting of Jerry Springer. I'll get off my soapbox now, and go direct my coffee induced energy to something else. We need a clown emoticon. Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 What is that ?? Maybe you should read her story too, since you are home with pinkeye;) Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 You may not be but I'm 99.99% sure she is..He has told me extreme specifics, maybe he shouldn't off but he did.... No he shouldn't "of". The cad. Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 No he shouldn't "of". The cad. He possibly shouldn't 'have' SF, it shouldn't really matter to you. If you're not giving it to him and she's not either he'll have to work out for himself what to do now. Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 He possibly shouldn't 'have' SF, it shouldn't really matter to you. If you're not giving it to him and she's not either he'll have to work out for himself what to do now. Yeah I know. It was more fun the other way. Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 Yeah I know. It was more fun the other way. I kinda like 'off'! Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 Why shouldn't it . I want him to be happy in all aspects of his life ! Why stress about it? It's not like you can do anything. It's his stuff to work out. If you focus on your own stuff it helps to stop things getting too messy. Link to post Share on other sites
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