DreamerGirl27 Posted June 1, 2011 Share Posted June 1, 2011 and I go back and forth on this, but I really don't want a boyfriend. A friend, yes, but a boyfriend, no. Guys=sex and I don't want sex...yet. I need to get a lot of other things about my life sorted out before I get into a relationship. I also need to get stronger in the fact that I will not sleep with a guy before marriage. For spiritual and practical reasons. Sex=babies and we all know condoms and birth control are 100% . Not to mention, STD's and all sorts of other risks that I shouldn't have to be concerned with until I am in a committed relationship with someone I know, love and trust that doesn't have those things. It's just not practical to have sex outside of a marriage. Regardless of your religious beliefs. I should be on birth control, I should be financially set (we both should be) and I shouldn't have to worry about showering with a rain coat on (having latex up my crotch). It just makes so much more sense to wait til you're married. It's just irresponsible any other way. Plus, the guy shouldn't have the option to "walk away" if I did happen to get pregnant because we're not married. He should have to make a commitment to me first. Anyway, that aside. I want it to be another few years before I get married or enter a relationship. Right now, I really am enjoying being single. Like I said, I do go back and forth on this, but for now, I'm okay with my life. Link to post Share on other sites
pilotDXB Posted June 1, 2011 Share Posted June 1, 2011 I personally disagree with your reasoning - i feel that sex is an important part of any relationship. But, you know yourself best and if you feel that you can manage this, then kudos. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 2, 2011 Author Share Posted June 2, 2011 Waiting til marriage to have sex doesn't make it unimportant. I never said it did. You're twisting my words around. Link to post Share on other sites
Blood Posted June 2, 2011 Share Posted June 2, 2011 Women who have difficulty attracting men must demand commitment. Otherwise they could be raising a child alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 2, 2011 Author Share Posted June 2, 2011 No, women who put their foot down on sex have difficulty attracting men, because men are shallow pigs who are only out for one thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Blood Posted June 2, 2011 Share Posted June 2, 2011 I have never known a pretty woman to be ignored or avoided whether she would have sex or not and whether she was interested in finding someone or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 2, 2011 Author Share Posted June 2, 2011 Neither have I and I don't get ignored. Link to post Share on other sites
Blood Posted June 2, 2011 Share Posted June 2, 2011 Neither have I and I don't get ignored. That's not what you have said in your other posts. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 2, 2011 Author Share Posted June 2, 2011 But you have no friends on facebook, you can't get laid, and you have no female friends... All of this info comes from you... I think you do get ignored, because you are beyond crazy. I have 85 friends on facebook, I can't get a guy to commit to a serious relationship with me, I'm not looking for sex, and all I have is female friends. Reading comprehension fail. Link to post Share on other sites
Blood Posted June 2, 2011 Share Posted June 2, 2011 I'm not competing. You need to break yourself of this idea that your facebook "friends" are real friends and come to terms with who your real friends are. If that means no one then accept it. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Many here are in a similar boat. Don't count that girl half a world away you wish was next door. Your real friends are the ones you get to see a couple times a week who are apart of your life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 2, 2011 Author Share Posted June 2, 2011 Blood, you derailed my thread and I have nothing to prove to you. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted June 2, 2011 Share Posted June 2, 2011 Plus, the guy shouldn't have the option to "walk away" if I did happen to get pregnant because we're not married. He should have to make a commitment to me first. Even if you get married, that cannot prevent a guy from just walking away. 50% of marriages end in divorce. Using a condom and the pill at the same time is basically a 0% chance of getting pregnant. Your reasons for not wanting to have premarital sex are religious and there is nothing wrong with that. Are they practical? No. There are billions of people out there having premarital sex. If you are enjoying being single, you sure do make a lot of threads where you seem to trying to prove that to yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 2, 2011 Author Share Posted June 2, 2011 Even if you get married, that cannot prevent a guy from just walking away. 50% of marriages end in divorce. Using a condom and the pill at the same time is basically a 0% chance of getting pregnant. Your reasons for not wanting to have premarital sex are religious and there is nothing wrong with that. Are they practical? No. There are billions of people out there having premarital sex. If you are enjoying being single, you sure do make a lot of threads where you seem to trying to prove that to yourself. No, using a condom and birth control is not a 0% chance of getting pregnant and please don't inform me of what my reasons are, after I've already stated them. You are trying to insight an argument. Besides, I have no interest in using condoms. I shouldn't have to. I should be in a committed, loving relationship, where I am on birth control and he doesn't have to use a condom. I have no desire to ever use condoms. It doesn't seem pleasurable to me, hence, the other reason for wanting to wait til I am in a marriage. If I lost it tomorrow to a guy wearing a condom, I'd still consider myself a virgin. More often than not, people consider girls like me a prude. Well, I'm such a prude, that I wanna feel my man for what he is, not what's covering his crotch. Sorry if that was too much info, but I have no problem sharing how I feel about things. Link to post Share on other sites
Blood Posted June 2, 2011 Share Posted June 2, 2011 You should still stick with multiple methods of contraception in a marriage if you aren't planning for children. Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted June 2, 2011 Share Posted June 2, 2011 I believe in having sex before marriage just as strong as some people believe in waiting. I would not marry a girl I had never had sex with. I would not date her more then a few months with out sex… maybe if other things were happening I’d make it a year. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 2, 2011 Author Share Posted June 2, 2011 I have made myself clear, arguing with me is getting this thread nowhere. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 2, 2011 Author Share Posted June 2, 2011 I believe in having sex before marriage just as strong as some people believe in waiting. I would not marry a girl I had never had sex with. I would not date her more then a few months with out sex… maybe if other things were happening I’d make it a year. Well, then you can consider any girl who dates you and sleeps with you, sleeping with you out of fear of you leaving her. I don't play that game. Never have, never will. Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted June 2, 2011 Share Posted June 2, 2011 Well, then you can consider any girl who dates you and sleeps with you, sleeping with you out of fear of you leaving her. I don't play that game. Never have, never will. It’s not a fear its reality. Lots of people believe in sex before marriage. Are you a virgin? By the way I don’t use condoms with my gf. We’ve been together for almost 3 years and she hasn’t got pregnant. I realize it could happen but to me its so worth the risk. Link to post Share on other sites
rafallus Posted June 2, 2011 Share Posted June 2, 2011 Well, then you can consider any girl who dates you and sleeps with you, sleeping with you out of fear of you leaving her. I don't play that game. Never have, never will.Nah, she sleeps with me/us, because she got aroused earlier and wants to let off "steam". Why are people so often looking for another meaning of things when there is none? Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted June 2, 2011 Share Posted June 2, 2011 With protection the risks of getting an STD or becoming pregnant are really small. So it doesn't seem like it's worth waiting until finding 'the one' and being married until having sex, unless you really don't care about sex that much. Doing this will also make it so much more harder for you to find a relationship, since most guys wont want to wait until marriage. The benefits of not waiting certainly outweigh the risks IMO. Link to post Share on other sites
ProjekctionMan Posted June 2, 2011 Share Posted June 2, 2011 Facebook friends are definitely not real friends. To be a real friend, you have to take it offline. Also, birth control pills and condoms help out very well in preventing pregnancy. All healthy relationships should involve sex. It's not healthy to wait until marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
Ms. Joolie Posted June 2, 2011 Share Posted June 2, 2011 So, finally you have come to this conclusion: guys=sex sex=babies ?!?!?! agh! DG! What are we going to do with you? Link to post Share on other sites
Blood Posted June 2, 2011 Share Posted June 2, 2011 Not everyone gets sex ed 101. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 2, 2011 Author Share Posted June 2, 2011 It is my decision. Bashing me for it is doing us no good. And whoever assumed I don't have friends. I said I don't have many MALE friends. Big difference. Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted June 3, 2011 Share Posted June 3, 2011 It is my decision. Bashing me for it is doing us no good. And whoever assumed I don't have friends. I said I don't have many MALE friends. Big difference. Just a question do, you plan to get engaged and married very quick just to have sex? Like do you see yourself going past a year dating some one before you are married? I only ask because by withholding from all forms of sex for say a 2 year relationship and then a 1 year engagement that would be 3 years of no sex. So you kind of put a rush on getting married. Like getting engaged at the 6 month mark and then being married by a year. I just want to make clear I’m not bashing your view I just strongly believe in having sex before marriage. I honestly can’t ever see myself marrying some one I’ve never had sex with. Seems like a recipe for disaster. Link to post Share on other sites
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