deleted facebook/ all social networks early in break up

[fiat500]

...to prevent hearing / seeing his new dating endeavors

- don't even have enough friends to call it a circle

- live far away from ex

- don't go out much since break up

- hear about ex every time he gets a new girlfriend anyway

 

 

 

******* magic?

Edited June 2, 2011 by fiat500

[Exit]

Maybe I'm slow, but are you implying you're happy or upset that you did this?

 

Perhaps you didn't need to delete it all entirely, just block him and maintain the rest of it, but I realize that is still hard as information you don't want to see will still leak out. So getting rid of it all sometimes is for the best. Remember, at some point human beings functioned without all this "Social network" garbage anyway.

 

I deleted my Facebook to avoid more problems. Then I got rid of Instant Messenger, but reinstalled it. I was on there today, saw my ex on, I didn't initiate contact but I thought what the heck I'll stay signed on and see if she says anything. I checked a while later and she had simply signed off, and it didn't feel good. So lesson learned. Avoiding these things IS for the best until you're ready.

[Surf Rider]

Good call. I say do what makes you feel better. I say you made the right decision. I am in pretty much the same spot you are in. I don't want to see what's going on in my ex' s life and don't care at all. Good luck.

[fiat500]

i'm not upset because i got rid of my facebook. i'm upset because i keep f##king hearing about him.

[fiat500]

he's been through two more relationships since breaking up with me and all within a four month period.

 

seems like he's leap frogging from one woman to the next.

 

i don't even want to know this crap ( i got rid of messenger long ago too) but it still manages to find it's way to me.

Edited June 2, 2011 by fiat500

[Exit]

Ah ok I understand now. That is unfortunate. It would be one thing if you were trying to find out this information and then it ends up hurting you, I would say you have nobody to blame but yourself. But it does suck when information finds us despite our best efforts to avoid it.

 

The only thing you can try to do is keep working to make your life about you right now. Who cares about what this guy is doing, how many meaningless relationships he is getting himself in to, etc. If anything it should make you laugh to hear what a mess this person is. Obviously someone is very flawed and scared of who they are if they constantly need to be in a relationship to save them from themselves.

[fiat500]

Obviously someone is very flawed and scared of who they are if they constantly need to be in a relationship to save them from themselves.

 

!!!!

 

that's exactly what it is, isn't it? wow...

 

 

 

it's kind of like the wind got knocked out of me after reading that.

 

 

i guess i kind of feel bad now if that's the case. i mean, i don't wish anything bad on him. i don't want him to have a mental breakdown later on or anything. but it's really kind of sad if he can't survive without being in a relationship because it would force him to look at his flaws and realize he's not really the person he thinks he is.

 

 

not my problem.

[coltsfan1]

if you are still spending time with people and they won't leave your ex out of it, then they are part of the problem and not part of the solution!!! You must cut them out of your life!!! They will only continue to hold you back and bring you down. I cut ties with almost all my male friends because I do not believe that their wifes are stand up people. Just cold hard facts sometimes.