nicetomeetyou Posted June 2, 2011 Share Posted June 2, 2011 I have absolutely no problem talking to girls, i have a active social life and good friends and family but i cant seem to be able to get a girlfriend. I remember when i was a lot younger (i am now 30) when hormones were racing and the objective to just 'get laid' over powered the doubts and fears which have seemed to have materialised over the past few years. I do not know where this 'fear' of asking girls out/relationships have come from? I developed a attitude which has made asking girls out seem more difficult then it actually is. I think loosing my job effected my self esteem (i am now employed) then i actually realised. I think i started to look in the mirror and began to doubt myself. The funny thing is that girls have noted how much more i have matured and settled i have become but my passion has gone and i do not know how to get it back. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperMatt Posted June 4, 2011 Share Posted June 4, 2011 You get it back the same way you get back on a bike...Training wheels... Right? (not a good example) But what I am saying is maybe you feel off the bike so many times you just have to start over. My suggestion is this. take it or leave it... But start talking with People in general. If your too shy to do that then practice going to the mall and just doing a simple task of asking cute girls what time it is. Yes it sounds cheezy but you will learn that cute girls arent a threat and there not going to attack you when you talk to them. Just see if you can start there then work your way to asking girls out. First Learn to talk with them. Self confidence goes a HUUUGE WAY! Look yourself in the mirror and say I look awesome, I am great, I can do this and smile. Get a haircut and cleaned up! I am 99.9% positive you wont get slapped Link to post Share on other sites
thehead Posted June 4, 2011 Share Posted June 4, 2011 I have absolutely no problem talking to girls, i have a active social life and good friends and family but i cant seem to be able to get a girlfriend. I remember when i was a lot younger (i am now 30) when hormones were racing and the objective to just 'get laid' over powered the doubts and fears which have seemed to have materialised over the past few years. I do not know where this 'fear' of asking girls out/relationships have come from? I developed a attitude which has made asking girls out seem more difficult then it actually is. I think loosing my job effected my self esteem (i am now employed) then i actually realised. I think i started to look in the mirror and began to doubt myself. The funny thing is that girls have noted how much more i have matured and settled i have become but my passion has gone and i do not know how to get it back. There will be more thoughtful replies coming so here's mine off the cuff: Stop jerking off. I mean it. Stop masturbating and get that Eye of the Tiger feeling back, that hunting instinct, that edge. Chicks can feel sexuality coming off a guy and as long as you've channeled it into being charming with a hint of sexuality, rather than creepy desperation, it may help. And it will help their perception of you. Too much jerking off can make you complacent, soft (no pun intended). Holding off will help put some fire back into you. Link to post Share on other sites
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