rockthered88 Posted June 2, 2011 Share Posted June 2, 2011 My boyfriend and I have been together a year and 2 months and up until recently things have been fine. We have had our ups and downs like all couples but we've always worked it out. Well we had had an issue a few weeks ago where I found out he was texting his female friends very inappropriate things. I thought we resolved it; he said he wouldn't do it again, he was sorry it hurt me; he meant nothing by it, etc. Things went back to being better than they were before. He went back to texting me more, etc. Well a few days ago I learned he's been contacting people off craigslist for hookups and even posted an ad on craigslist for a hookup. He's been acting very distant (we live an hr apart) for example not texting/ calling as much when we are apart. But the weird part is I stayed over his house Friday-Tuesday and it was perfect. No fighting, things were great. But then Tuesday after I left apparently he was right back to trying to find a hookup. I love him so much and I am so hurt by this. What should I do? Is there any way this relationship can be saved? Link to post Share on other sites
thatone Posted June 3, 2011 Share Posted June 3, 2011 I love him so much and I am so hurt by this. What should I do? Is there any way this relationship can be saved? nope, not really. Link to post Share on other sites
Kinder-Horror Posted June 3, 2011 Share Posted June 3, 2011 I hate to say "no," because there are always exceptions, however it sounds like a "fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me" scenario. He said he was sorry for hurting you, so he decided to one up and start contacting strangers inappropriately in addition to female friends? Have you told him you know about the craigslist ads? Link to post Share on other sites
FrostFire Posted June 3, 2011 Share Posted June 3, 2011 (edited) nope, not really. x2 Nope he's already moving onto the next victim. Unless you can deal with the fact that he's bored and is looking for something to "spice" things up. Only for him it's the "grass is greener syndrome." Seems like he got bored long time ago and I'm willing to bet because you reacted very emotionally to some things he had done. He's a guy he's got a high sex drive. He can't control it. He's immature. Plain and simple. He's acting on sexual impulse, high sex drive, and that's about it. Yeah just sex. Wham Bam Thank you Ma'am... NEXT Just leave him. It's over he's moved on obviously. Not worth another talk as he'll tell you what you want to hear and round and round you go all over again... Edited June 3, 2011 by FrostFire Link to post Share on other sites
Author rockthered88 Posted June 3, 2011 Author Share Posted June 3, 2011 I hate to say "no," because there are always exceptions, however it sounds like a "fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me" scenario. He said he was sorry for hurting you, so he decided to one up and start contacting strangers inappropriately in addition to female friends? Have you told him you know about the craigslist ads? I haven't told him I know about that yet. Was going to show him the ad first and see if he would confess about it. He was supposed to come up tonight but bailed and wants to do lunch tomorrow. Link to post Share on other sites
thatone Posted June 3, 2011 Share Posted June 3, 2011 I haven't told him I know about that yet. Was going to show him the ad first and see if he would confess about it. He was supposed to come up tonight but bailed and wants to do lunch tomorrow. bailed because he got some craigslist responses, in all likelihood. even if he didn't, that's what you'll be thinking. that's why even if he says all the right things, you gotta move on. Link to post Share on other sites
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