To SettleThe Issue

[Paulie]

To settle the issue about being emotional as a man, I think that "The Truth"'s post below is extremely insightful. It's below my post "Problem," thirty or so lines down. I wish The Truth would post more often!!!!

[The Truth]

I apprecite your comment Paulie. I'm glad you like what I wrote.

 

However, I'm kind of glad not a lot of people replied to that particular post. Those quotes I posted from Nietzsche could be misinterpreted. That is, I think Tony, (can you believe it!!!) was correct in his post in stating that one must proceed with caution when stereotyping any type of people.

 

I do believe that differences exist, and that generalities can be drawn, however, it is important not pre-judge anyone based on preconceived notions of what they 'should' be like.

 

I've heard various people mention evolution in their posts. Thinking along these terms, that of man as animal, it really shouldn't be surprising that in GENERAL women prefer a guy who is strong. The logic, if you will, here is that women, over thousands of years, have adopted a reproductive stratedgy that makes them most attracted to those of the opposite sex that will give their offspring the best genes. The strongest genes pass on the best immune defenses, physical ability and the like......and therefore giving them the highest chance of survival.

 

Men, on the other hand, have adopted an entirely different approach to reproduction.....which many have theorized to be the root of widespread male promiscuity throughout the world. For a man, who theoretically has the ability to father thousands of children, genes don't matter much. For a man, the best way to ensure survival of his genes, his children, is to simply to have as many as possible.

 

In most parts of the world, monogamous relations are the exception.....not the rule.

 

The world is changing faster than ever before. It is changing most in these very United States. Cultures are breaking down and we are entering a new phase in human history. It is a very exciting.....but difficult period to live in.

 

Love is a cultural thing. Older generations had specific roles that they were expected to play. It was clear what was expected of a MAN and of a WOMAN. Today, as our culture continues to morph, sex relations are undergoing a storm and stress period where there are no norms, no precedents, and this attests to the extremely high divorce rate in this country. I've heard that the average maffiage today lasts a mere 26 months! Can you bekieve that!

 

Wow, I got I little carried away there......sorry about that!

 

Anyway Paulie, I'm sorry about what happened with your relationship. I wish I knew something better to say about that

[Deejette]

It is sad that in many cultures of the world polygamy is tolerated or condoned but polyandry (women having more than one husband or mate) is frowned upon. I can understand that it is important for a child to know who is father is, while he will always know who his mother is. But people like me, with more than one Mate, live on the fringe of society and hardly dare confess about their lifestyle because we would be condemned.

I apprecite your comment Paulie. I'm glad you like what I wrote. However, I'm kind of glad not a lot of people replied to that particular post. Those quotes I posted from Nietzsche could be misinterpreted. That is, I think Tony, (can you believe it!!!) was correct in his post in stating that one must proceed with caution when stereotyping any type of people. I do believe that differences exist, and that generalities can be drawn, however, it is important not pre-judge anyone based on preconceived notions of what they 'should' be like. I've heard various people mention evolution in their posts. Thinking along these terms, that of man as animal, it really shouldn't be surprising that in GENERAL women prefer a guy who is strong. The logic, if you will, here is that women, over thousands of years, have adopted a reproductive stratedgy that makes them most attracted to those of the opposite sex that will give their offspring the best genes. The strongest genes pass on the best immune defenses, physical ability and the like......and therefore giving them the highest chance of survival. Men, on the other hand, have adopted an entirely different approach to reproduction.....which many have theorized to be the root of widespread male promiscuity throughout the world. For a man, who theoretically has the ability to father thousands of children, genes don't matter much. For a man, the best way to ensure survival of his genes, his children, is to simply to have as many as possible. In most parts of the world, monogamous relations are the exception.....not the rule. The world is changing faster than ever before. It is changing most in these very United States. Cultures are breaking down and we are entering a new phase in human history. It is a very exciting.....but difficult period to live in. Love is a cultural thing. Older generations had specific roles that they were expected to play. It was clear what was expected of a MAN and of a WOMAN. Today, as our culture continues to morph, sex relations are undergoing a storm and stress period where there are no norms, no precedents, and this attests to the extremely high divorce rate in this country. I've heard that the average maffiage today lasts a mere 26 months! Can you bekieve that! Wow, I got I little carried away there......sorry about that! Anyway Paulie, I'm sorry about what happened with your relationship. I wish I knew something better to say about that

[Paulie]

I don't mean to be insensitive...but maybe I'm missing something...But what does this have to do (at all) with my original post?????????????

[Taressa]

Paulie,

 

Forgive me Father for I have butted into the middle of your conversation

 

Right; the post didn't quite apply to your original post but I believe Dejette's post picked up on The Truth's reply which included a statement re. the decline of monogamous relationships around the world... she used the word "polygamy" instead of using the proper term "two-timing snake-faced jerk" for one who cheats on his/her partner, (I THINK that's the term).

[Paulie]

Fair enough...I didn't mean to get mean or defensive, I was just wondering, I guess. Thanks for your reply!

[Taressa]

Hey Paulie,

 

You didn't come across mean or defensive... I failed to see the relevancy too the 1st time I read her post. I only caught it because I went back to re-read The Truths post, thinking it was the one with the two quotes from his philosopher (it wasn't).

 

Anyway, I only wrote hoping to help clear up the confusion, not to pass judgment - - there's too much of that around as it is.

[Deejette]

Hi Paulie & Taressa,

 

I was responding to The Truth's posting about male psychology and the need for more than one partner and I was just saying that many cultures will wink at the man having many partners and even admire it, but will universally condemn women for doing the same. I am not hurt by your comment and can see how it could have been confusing. Thanks for clarifying it, Taressa.

Hey Paulie, You didn't come across mean or defensive... I failed to see the relevancy too the 1st time I read her post. I only caught it because I went back to re-read The Truths post, thinking it was the one with the two quotes from his philosopher (it wasn't). Anyway, I only wrote hoping to help clear up the confusion, not to pass judgment - - there's too much of that around as it is.