neghitzbrah Posted June 3, 2011 Share Posted June 3, 2011 We've been broken up for about half a year at this point. Went no contact following it for about 2 months. My life is going great... I'm dating.. meeting new people. Really coping very well and getting my life together. Then, I find out she's seeing someone. Her ex-boyfriend. Smart... it doesn't phase me though. I wish them well (in my head, not in person). She broke NC by calling me. I called her back and some family emergency came up and she needed someone to talk to. Being the sucker I am, I talk to her and make her feel better. So she tries to contact me again here and there and I usually don't respond. Recently she invited me to come to her birthday outing which I said I was busy and couldn't make it. I see pics on facebook (trust me I tried to avoid it as much as possible). So I see pics of her new guy (or old guy) there. I was kind of expecting it... but why would she invite me when her guy is there? We agreed not to do this if we ever became friends again. She persists on trying to get to me. Okay so at this point I make a mistake. I'm not gonna lie, she looked good in those pics. As stupid as I was I texted her saying she looked good. She liked it and gave me a call immediately. We caught up with each other for a few minutes then I wished her a happy bday. She said how much it means to her to hear from me and how she would have been upset if she hadn't. My intuition is saying that she wants to be with me again. I leave it at that. Lastnight I was out having a great time, talking to people, meeting some interesting women... out of nowhere I get a text "I really need to talk to you. Can I call you?" Props to my friend because he took my phone, deleted the text and her number. Unfortunately, after 5 years I remembered her number so that didn't do much. I wish I could forget it. I still have not responded but it's killing me with curiousity at why she wanted to call me. I think it's kind of obvious at this point that she wants me back.. probably because I don't show any signs of her new guy or any of her games phasing me. But to be honest, it is. It's frustrating me! I don't want to be rude, but if I need to then I will. So is it a good idea to not contact or respond to anything of hers from now on? Or is that just *********-ish? Link to post Share on other sites
Shadowburn Posted June 4, 2011 Share Posted June 4, 2011 Can you block her from your phone and on FB? If you're serious about not wanting any contact, then that's how it's done. She is with another guy. She wants you only because she can't have you. The second she'll suck you back into her pathetic drama, all of the sudden she'll become confused, not knowing what she's doing and what she wants, now knowing how she feels about you, etc. Good luck. Remember, not only she broke up with you, but she is with another guy. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted June 4, 2011 Share Posted June 4, 2011 ignore her attempts at contact. it's not nice of her to have a BF - then continue to contact you. it's energy she should be putting into her BF. she's keeping you on her line - feeding her ego - just so you don't go get happy with another gal. stop doing that for her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author neghitzbrah Posted June 4, 2011 Author Share Posted June 4, 2011 I've blocked her on FB but blocked her updates so I really don't know what's going on with her life unless my stupid brother mentions "Did you see her update status?" or one of my friends goes "Wow thats ****ed up about her pics on FB" It's not a big deal though. I really thought I would be upset about it, but it hasn't affected me in the slightest way. I think I'm over her. Trying to concentrate more on my life and getting my stuff together though. I'm hoping on getting this new job that pays a hella lot more and getting back into Insanity so I can start Insanity: Asylum a few months from now. Thanks for the advice guys. Link to post Share on other sites
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