is it okay to give a friend a vibrator as a present?

[Pyrannaste]

My boyfriend ordered at an online sexy shops, among other things, a vibrator, since he and a guy friend of his wanted to give it as a birthday present to a female friend of theirs on her birthday party.

well, she didn't have a party so my bf still has got this toy at home.

They'll probably give it to her on another occasion.

Well, I thought I'd tell him, when that occasion occurs, that it is okay with me if he is giving it to her as a present from *both* him and any other common friend , but please not to give it to her as a personal present in case his guy friend changes his mind.

It would bother me if he gave her as a personal present an expensive vibrator( that is, the rabbit). I wouldn't have problems either with funny stuff from sex shops you give as present to have a laugh together. or with a cheap vibrator given as a joke.

 

There also is another female friend of his who asked him to order a vibrator for her next time he makes an order for himself. I guess that's okay -she could do it by herself, she lives alone, but she would have to pay for sending it via mail. sending stuff usually has a fixed price no matter how much stuff you order.

Well, I would like to ask him to have her pay the cost of the vibrator. That's what she'd probablly do anyway, but since it's a cheap vibrator I guess my boyfriend would not want the money from her and would give it to her as a present. I guess so because that's what I'd do with a female friend of mine, giving the stuff as a present.

Well, it would bother me -again- if he gives her a vibrator as a present.

I definitely dislike this girl because she once sent him a few sexy pics of her in a thin see-throu bikini -one of them was a pic of her chest , no face -just 'to show him how much weigh she lost. She also cheats on her bf.

 

well, I'd like some advice.

Am I being unreasonable, should I just not tell him anything?

I'm inclined to keep my mouth closed, since the whole thing sounds stupid. And he hasn't done anything yet. Altough I can't expect him to figure out I'd be bothered by certain things if I don't tell him, and if he gives the two toys as presents, then I can't complain because I didn't tell him.

I'd love to hear some points of views.

[Confused123]

ok, I see you dilemma. I have to admit I would not be coo, with my boyfriend giving any other women a vibator as a present. Also, I have to tell you, KEEP the rabbit for yourself. I have one and I LOVE it.....

 

BUt, if I were you I would explain to him, that you understand it is all in good fun, but tht you find it alittle uncomfortable that he would give a women such a personal gift, especially the Rabbit, that thing it QUITE the toy. And very pricy. Tell him if all these women need toys, there is a great website

 

http://www.tootimid.com

 

I order all my toys from here... Tell him instead of being the supplier to let these girl order their own.... Hope that helps....

[tac719]

I know I wouldn't be to cool with my wife buying a guy friend a Butt Plug... Especially a nice one.

[Pyrannaste]

Thanks confused123 and tac719 for your replies.

 

Originally posted by Confused123

ok, I see you dilemma. I have to admit I would not be coo, with my boyfriend giving any other women a vibator as a present. Also, I have to tell you, KEEP the rabbit for yourself. I have one and I LOVE it.....

 

I actually thought about asking him to buy the rabbit from him, same price he paid it. I have a few vibrators -they all are either presents from him or stuff I asked him to buy- but none is good (and expensive) as the rabbit.

 

(He and his guy friend could still buy it again for the girl next year on they birthday if they'll still want to give it to her as a present. )

 

What keeps me from asking is that he might guess the main reason why I'd want to buy it from him.

Would it sound like controlling to you or is it okay to ask?

[tac719]

Seriously, I would feel uncomfortable about a significant other buying sex toys for someone of the opposite sex. Somethings are a little more private than others. I consider myself pretty open, but that would definately make me uncomfortable.

 

Speaking from my wifes reactions, you definately need to get ahold of that Jack Rabbit! And have a couple spare batteries on hand, you'll need/want them!

[Confused123]

Tac719 - your wife is a wise women to own the Rabbit.. It is one of my favorite toy. Yes, and definately keeps spare batteries hanging around.. There is nothing worse then a dying rabbit....

 

So, back to the point.. I don't think yo would sound controlling at all. Tell him you want the rabbit and she needs to find her own boyfriend to buy it for her.. Well, amybe not that harsh, but I totally would not be cool with that... NO WAY!!! You have every right to demend that rabbit for your own.. Believe me, if he gets mad at you about it, you won't need him anyway =)