hearttopieces Posted June 5, 2011 Share Posted June 5, 2011 I have never had nightmares in my life, and now they suddenly started (I am 10 days post break-up and also NC). About 5 days ago I dreamed that my ex was a drug dealer and I became a drug addict, but finally I just turned him in... It was horrible and I woke up crying. A day later I dreamed that he took my passport and locked me in his house and said I will have to stay there for the rest of my life. And so on. Every day I wake up crying. It is pretty bad because I really work hard, doing a lot of overtime and whenever I am free I just try to work out, and that's it... I am exhausted literally, and I should be sleeping like a baby at nights, but instead I have to deal with these horrible dreams too. Link to post Share on other sites
Arikel Posted June 5, 2011 Share Posted June 5, 2011 Firstly, please accept my sympathies. Those are horrible dreams to be having. However, I think your subconscious is trying to work something out, so maybe if you can figure out what the dreams represent to your waking life/thoughts, that could give you some peace My thoughts would be that you feel trapped in that relationship, and that you had no control over it. Now that youre broken up, I guess you may need to acknowledge that fact, and also acknowledge that you have now taken the power back from your ex (turning the drug dealer in, being NC). Of course its not easy, which is why you were sad and crying. Second dream seems like a repetition of the first (you are creative btw!) and its dealing with the feeling of being trapped and helpless. Was that all there was to the dream? I'd suggest thinking about those dreams, and how they made you feel. Also realize how you feel about the relationship you had. Usually the realization of what you were trying to work out will give you peace of mind, and strength to move on. All the best to you! Link to post Share on other sites
victoriaaa Posted June 5, 2011 Share Posted June 5, 2011 i am 4 weeks post break up and the nightmares started a couple of days ago. think its just after i started to accept it was over. i had dreams we were still together, now they are that he has met someone else. and when i am awake i now get these horrible mental images of him with other women. i hope they pass quickly i really do. im sure yours will pass in time too. obv its on your mind all the time at the moment so is bound to be in your dreams. Link to post Share on other sites
Ghosst Posted June 5, 2011 Share Posted June 5, 2011 I had dreams of him both nightmares and normal dreams every day for the first month. Now I am happy for the mornings when he does not haunt my dreams or be on my mind when I first wake. Every day I get a little bit stronger and the thoughts of him fade. Your dreams will fade as you move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Nohbody Posted June 5, 2011 Share Posted June 5, 2011 Yes. Bad ones, too. Link to post Share on other sites
Duckduckgoose Posted June 5, 2011 Share Posted June 5, 2011 I did for a while... not nightmares but dreams where the exH was the main character and they never ended well. In one of them he was driving us in his truck on a mountain and driving so bad that we ended up going over the terrace and dying. He was nasty as hell to me in most of them. Thankfully those dreams have stopped. But when I would wake up from them my heart would be pounding, I would feel horrible, etc. I still get some slightly disturbing dreams even 6 months later, but they don't involve him. Last night I had a dream about re-kindling the flame with an ex-bf I had back in 2003. It was pretty interesting. I know that when an ex talks to you in a dream to listen to them... so I have been trying to recall everything he was saying to me so I can figure out what it means. Link to post Share on other sites
giuliano-3 Posted June 5, 2011 Share Posted June 5, 2011 One year later, still have nightmarish dreams occasionaly. I'd say once a week or so. They aren't nightmares as much as adventure dreams which end very badly with her disappearing on me. I can do lucid dreaming so when a Cambodian special forces guy puts an automatic rifle to my face I can back away and turn it into something else. I still wake up feeling disoriented and angry that she turned up in my dreams again though. Link to post Share on other sites
RuinedLife Posted June 5, 2011 Share Posted June 5, 2011 Yes I've had horrible nightmares pretty much every night and wake up in a panic several times during the night and after every time I drift off to sleep. Last night I had a dream where I went to visit my ex so we could talk and try and work things out, but he'd already moved on and disappeared before I had chance to say goodbye even And then I was lost all alone in the middle of this city and I was panicking because I wanted to ring my ex so he'd come and help me but at the same time I knew that he wanted nothing more to do with me. Link to post Share on other sites
reimeivn Posted June 6, 2011 Share Posted June 6, 2011 Yes. In my dream he yelled at me and made me cry like he did all the times. He also said that I am not pretty therefore he leaves me. It is either your bad memories, or your insecurities. Doesnt mean anything, cry out, and be glad that it is just a dream. They cant hurt you anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Bateman Posted June 6, 2011 Share Posted June 6, 2011 The first night after I had my breakdown about the breakup, I had the worst nightmare ever. She wasn't in it, but it was like a horror movie. It was the most gory, vile, disgusting, psychotic, haunting thing I had ever even thought of. I seriously didn't know I could imagine such horrible things like the stuff I dreamt about. I will not go into detail, trust me, you don't want to know. haha. But yeh since then, I have had dreams about her. Mainly ones of us together. Kind of like a tease. They are getting less frequent now though. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted June 6, 2011 Share Posted June 6, 2011 Yeah I also used to have bad dreams, for a while after the breakup. They were usually the same. I would go after my ex and shoot him with a gun repeatidly over and over again. They were violent, like a horror movie. Of coarse I would never do this in real life. And I would also dream that I was at his funeral and he would be either in a coffin or a grave. And I would be the widow dressed all in black and crying on his grave/coffin. I dreamt about death alot at the time. They do stop though eventually though and you dream about other things instead. Link to post Share on other sites
Arikel Posted June 6, 2011 Share Posted June 6, 2011 Strange how no one seems to take their dreams seriously? (like understanding the meanings, or the emotions in them, stuff like that). Maybe its just me Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted June 6, 2011 Share Posted June 6, 2011 Strange how no one seems to take their dreams seriously? (like understanding the meanings, or the emotions in them, stuff like that). Maybe its just me I own a book called Dictionary of Dreams: Understanding dreams and their messages. Link to post Share on other sites
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