Married in the military. Not used to the distance :(

[RachelleB8080]

I am new to this whole forum situation but I thought it would be a good way to release some feelings. I'm 23 newly married less than six months. Me and my husband lived on the same base our entire relationship and it has been really great. We make each other very happy. I got restationed and now we never see each other. I knew it was gonna be hard but maybe didn't realize how hard.

 

We never used to fight at all and now I feel like we fight every day about stupid little things. He is still with all his friends doing his normal thing. And I am in a new location where I don't know many people and I feel lonely quite often. I feel like he isn't interested in talking very much, and I dont wanna be that nagging wife that gets on his nerves. I just really miss him and sometimes feel like he hardly misses me at all??? Idk I'm so lost. All I care about is that I do everything I can to make sure it lasts and we remain in love the way we were in the beginning.

 

We recently decided to start sending each other cards once a week or so any other suggestions?? We skype once a week?! Idk we are trying. Lol I'm just always worried.

[madjac74]

I would say call them any chance you get. My girlfriend and I dont skype but it seems unnatural to me because you're stuck on a computer. When you call them you are both going about your daily routine and it just seems more special and when I talk to my girlfriend and hear her voice even if its just an hour every few days, it rejuvenates me so much.

 

And text them any chance you get even if you have nothing to say and its just some random thought. It lets them know you are thinking about them and even the most absurd thought has led us into a text convo that could last all day while we are going about our seperate lives.

 

Plus I know exactly what its like when the other person is more busy than you. It is so hard and a million things can cross your mind wondering what they are doing. Try to find things to keep yourself busy and no matter what dont jump to conclusions when you havent heard from them in awhile. Whether you are right or wrong it does you no good to live off assumptions. Stay positive!