RachelleB8080 Posted June 6, 2011 Share Posted June 6, 2011 I am 23 and newly married. Me and my husband have a great sex life. We are crazy about each other and crazy about pleasing each other. But we are in the military and I just got relocated, I have been away for about 3 weeks and it's gonna be a while before we see eachother. This whole no sex thing is horrible for both of us. And we are looking for ways to remain intimate and into each other sexually. Last thing I want is an affair on either side. I'm worried with me not around he will start to be interested in other women, or porn or idk just not me I guess. He already confessed a couple days ago that he masturbates to pictures of other women occasionally. I guess it's normal idk. But it was very hurtful and I don't really want this to become a trend or get worse. My question is what can I do from a far to keep my man still interested in me. And not let him get bored to the point where he feels the need to turn to other things or people??? Is this a normal thing for men or should I be worried???????????? Link to post Share on other sites
MichiganDutch Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 I think this depends on the man that you're with. Some men will take the distance as an opportunity to feel neglected and go seek out other venues to please themselves. Different men will find that the distance only makes the yearning for their partner even stronger. Most women eventually face up to the fact that men just masturbate. It's just something men do. What makes it wrong, in my opinion, is when this behavior begins to replace a healthy sexual relationship with their partner. I think you'll get a feeling for what is normal and what you find to be acceptable over time. As a man, I can only say that from my viewpoint, this sort of behavior while he is away can only show that he is sexually healthy. I'd be more concerned if he was lying to you about it or if he didn't do anything at all, since the latter could be signs of health problems. I was in the military and spent extended periods of time away from my significant other. There was no infidelity on my part. When we were back together after a long period, it was like the flood gates opened and we were dating all over again, and then things would settle into a normal pattern after a time. I think what kept us together and focused on our relationship was meaningful communication. This can be overdone, though. Feelings of paranoia should not induce a reaction to smother the other with constant check-ins. Find a communication pattern that you can both live with. I wish you luck. I hope your guy is one of the good ones. Link to post Share on other sites
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