calndn Posted June 6, 2011 Share Posted June 6, 2011 Im having a bad day (they are fewer and further between nowadays) but I just woke up thinking about my ex and have been all day now its driving me mad. He went on a date with a girl about 6 weeks ago (yes hes my ex its bound to happen) but im sure I can speak for many others when I say obv I wanted to know what she looked like/who she was etc I basically am pretty certain who it is due to a bit of fbook stalking (god I sound possessed but please say someone else has done this!!?) anyway ive now seen that my ex is friends with this girls sister and the sisters husband too, this was this morning I saw it. I hate facebook, Im not even friends with him but I still look. Shes 8 years older than him, yeah shes attractive, hes only 24 and a very very immature 24 at that. Hey why am I even saying all this its like im trying to justify it to myself but what im saying is im going mad, thinking oh god is she prettier than me when really it doesnt matter, I know that. And god I dont even know whats going on, it could be nothing....it could be something...who knows but whatever it is its driving me mad....absolutely mad. My ex has been lets say....a bastard, split up with me 7 months ago, played me around a few months after for about 2 months and now I havent heard/seen him in about 6 weeksish. He totally changed from a loving gentleman to a horrid bastard! And ive had a really tough time getting over it, some of you may have read posts by me in the past. Im seeing a counsellor etc, and gosh I feel better than I did and Im at the point where I dont want him back (because I realise he is now this horrid bastard and not the lovely guy I met and never will be that person again) and I know its over for good even though part of me believes that he was 'the one' and ill never find anyone else. Bit of an all round rant but what I need is help...how can i stop driving myself mad with thinking hes going out with this girl when really i dont know...im pretty sure something is happening, almost pretty certain. Either way.....how can I stop myself from getting so upset everytime i hear something/see something/jump to conclusions?? Im so much better than I was but whenever somehting like this happens it kind of makes me think gosh am i worse than i thought?? Just a bit of advice needed really before I turn into an even more crazy possessed person trying to stalk this poor girl. xx Link to post Share on other sites
radiodarcy Posted June 6, 2011 Share Posted June 6, 2011 i know how you feel. not long after my ex dumped me i tried being friends with him. it was going ok until i looked at his facebook and saw him flirting like mad with some girl. i said something to him about it - - he got upset and it resulted in a huge argument with me going NC soon after that. it was the best thing i could have done. i deleted him from facebook, stopped sending him texts/IMs/E-mails. the first several weeks were difficult but over time i started feeling much better. i started focusing on other interests and spending more time with friends and family. refraining from contacting my ex (which also included not finding out what he was up to by looking at his facebook or talking to mutual friends) freed me from the burden of having to worry about whether he was with someone else or not. besides, knowing that he's with someone isn't going to make a difference one way or another. if he's with someone else he's with someone else. and if he is there's not reason i need to know about it. ignorance really can be bliss at times! Link to post Share on other sites
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