kris-26 Posted June 6, 2011 Share Posted June 6, 2011 ok so short version...been 90 days NC with my ex. He was very bad for me and to me. Had severe emotional issues and was emotionally cut off and compulsive liar. We finally said our "goodbyes" of sorts 90 days ago. Neither one of us has contacted each other. I did see him a month ago but I dont know for sure he saw me. I have been doing WAY better than i was and have gotten alot further than I had orginally thought. Recently I have been missing him alot. I know one part is b/c its summer and i keep remembering what we did last year. Everyone keeps telling me its b/c I am lonely and I am associating my loneliness withe last person I was in a relationship with. I know I do miss him. There was obv times we had that were amazing. and obv horrible times due to his issues. I am surprised he has not tried to contact me. I know in my heart thats a good thing and its the wrong validation me wanting him to contact me. even though I know I wouldnt answer. I really thought by now I would be at a point where he didnt matter at all anymore. I have had the urge to contact him but havent. He always said he was poison to me and I was better off w out him which is the truth. I have done everything that everyone says on here....make plans w friends, keep busy , going on trips. Has anyone has any luck after 3 mths NC where it really changed and you felt like they didnt matter at all?? Am I really still moving in the right direction?? Should I keep NC going? sigh!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Adi Posted June 6, 2011 Share Posted June 6, 2011 The thing is this, you will allways miss him and the good times till someone better comes along. Link to post Share on other sites
Shadowburn Posted June 6, 2011 Share Posted June 6, 2011 I actually felt worse at the end of three months of NC. I guess initial hurt and anger that propels you forward, wears off and you start missing all the good things about him and the relationship. I agree that until you'll meet someone better, you'll miss the company, the affection, the attention, etc. - not necessarily "him" as a person. Link to post Share on other sites
jacksonBrown Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 My ex and i have been broken up for 5 weeks and are now on 1 Week NC I was really doing good with the break up at first but this last week has been bad! i wake up every morning with a sick feeling in my stomach i go to sleep thinking about her and wake up thinking about her she's on my mind 24/7 its making me pretty miserable, i think i may feel like this untill i find someone else Link to post Share on other sites
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