Rozyo20 Posted June 6, 2011 Share Posted June 6, 2011 So my husband left... he was emotionally abusive to me and thanks to that i am going to therapy ... so i got the divorce papers where states that he wants full coustedy cause i am psycologically unfit to take care of them wait what? all i have is mild depression! can he take my babies based on that? Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted June 6, 2011 Share Posted June 6, 2011 Sweetie- I suffer from depression so I understand. I doubt very seriously that he can take your kids based on that. Here is what you need to do though. Go see and attorney now and file yourself for custody and divorce. Be prepared to open up your records or to submit for a psych exam if requested. If it's only mild depression that shouldn't be an issue. Start keeping a log to of things. Just informal. Things like- took so and so to the dr today. Picked the kids up from school. That stuff. Don't make it real detailed because if so the court may see through that. This will show whether or not he's spending time with the kids etc. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Mauschen Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 Not likely - if your depression is treated and under control, and you haven't done anything rash (like a suicide attempt), then I don't think your ex is likely to get full custody. I agree about the log - make a log and keep a journal of what times are spent with the kids, who takes them to the doctor, attends school functions, etc. If you can prove you are the primary parent to the children, I think you'll fare ok. Do get a lawyer! Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 It's very rare to have custody removed from a mother entirely. I've personally seen mothers retain custody even when they're confirmed (tested by the court) drug users and their living conditions aren't fit for children. Judges have seen everything and they know how to get to the truth. As mentioned, file a response and, if necessary, tell your story to a judge if your stbx isn't cooperative. Unless he's got a bankroll, this will all get worked out. That said, I'd suggest keeping a low profile. No questionable activities, no men sleeping over. You never know who's watching and taking notes/pictures/etc. One day at a time. Hope the depression improves. Divorce is tough anytime, but especially with children. Hang in there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rozyo20 Posted June 7, 2011 Author Share Posted June 7, 2011 thank u and yes i been with my attorney but this is crazy u know! i am staring to do that Link to post Share on other sites
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