Karma ~ Just Desserts??

[Misadventure]

I bet when he is an adult... gets some distance and matures he will see things different (the son...lol).

[trippi1432]

True MisA - (and yeah, knew you weren't referring to the exH...haha.) I recall I used to tell my daughter when she complained how unfair life was that when she was 30, she'd understand. Glad to say, she's actually found out sooner than that.

 

And Yas - you are right. I still don't like the idea of him in this house (even though it's been four years). I feel like it's an invasion of my personal space I guess. But yes, wasn't our son's fault and why I just buttoned my lip and walked away.

 

I need to be the one that gets over the lie, that's always been the hard part. Not my son, my exH and the lie he would have our son believe. I think that a part of me is worried that he will follow in his father's footsteps one day (just like his father did). I think that is the biggest reason I refuse to accept the lie, I have seen the hurt on his own mother's face for years when she has to be put in the situation of family BBQ's and get together's with her ExH and the woman he had an affair with and married ...and these are grown kids with their own children now, but the lie.....that's the hard one to forget. :o

 

What I regret, is that I knew what I was dealing with when it came to the ExH and this silly little glimmer of hope sat in there hoping that one day he would wake up and realize how horribly he treated all of us. I even thought, maybe, when our son turns 18, something will "snap"....yeah, don't count on that right? But I would be lying to myself if I didn't admit that I probably would have ended the marriage when our son turned 18 due to the lack of respect, care and love in our relationship.

 

My ex-Sis-in-Law posted this tonight on FB. She's married to my ExH's current wife's first ExH.....yeah, I know...twisted (and they are from the North and always laughed about inbreeding in the South!!). :lmao: Wish I had come across it a long time ago.

 

"Stop trying to change someone who doesn't want to change. Stop giving chances to someone who abuses your forgiveness. Stop walking back to the place where your heart ran from. Stop trusting their words, and ignoring their actions. Stop giving your all to a person who gives you nothing. Stop fighting for a relationship when you're standing in the ring alone. Stop breaking your own heart."