What to do?

[Joe22]

Gang,

 

I wasn't sure where to place this post exactly, so I figured if nothing else that this was the best section to throw this under. Anyways it was a couple of months ago, I'd estimate maybe 2-3 months ago, a girl I work with and I started talking and before you know it - we began dating. Even though at first it seemed to go good, the problem is she feel way to fast for me and she became way to clingy (sp?), that is she always thought every second of my life had to be spent with her.

 

I posted about her before on here, she was the one that got upset the day her and I had planned on going to one of my best friends house and then at the last minute she suddenly remembered she planned to go to a bar with her sister. She ended up putting me in the position of having to chose and since we had planned all day to go over to my friends house, that's what I was sticking to.. well she got all depressed and cried about it and was trying to guilt me into not going.

 

Anyways at the end the newness wore off and I realized that I wasn't in love with her, plain and simple. The problem is, within a week she was claiming that she was madly in love with me - seriously she was talking about long term commitments not even a week after we started dating and wanting to be together forever and blah blah blah.

 

So of course, I wasn't going to sit on it and lead her on making her think I was in love with her when I wasn't. But I waited a week, why? Because I wanted to be sure of how I felt, and that breaking up with her is what I wanted. So for a week I thought and weighed my options, what I wanted, what was best for me. But in the long run, breaking up with her was the only option.

 

So I told her. Ever since then she keeps mentioning to my co-workers, who are also good friends of mine, that she thinks I'm depressed because we aren't together, she tells me that I'm an alcoholic because I drink every now and then on the weekends, she talks about taking prozack and all this crap and she just exaggerates - I'm guessing to try making me feel bad and coming back.

 

We both work in the same company, my job is maintaining computers and troubleshooting them. Well, the other day I went down to look at a computer that one of my friends work at who also talks to my ex.. and the first thing I see on the screen is a MSN message regarding me, written by the girl I just broken up with.. she was asking my friend to help her plan something to make me jealous, to make me think "God, why did I break up with her?"... that just totally, I don't know.

 

She seems to have this gleam of hope that I'm in love with her, she seems to forget that *I* broke up with her, so there is no reason for me to be depressed.

 

What shoudl I do?

[moimeme]

Just continue as you are. Eventually she'll calm down.