jacksonBrown Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 my ex GF and i broke up 5 weeks ago it was a mutual thing we both agreed then a week went past and i started to miss her we were together 3 years so i asked her back and she said no.. then i did a little begging and pleading and trying to reason with her why we should get back together.. and no she isn't coming back she needs to live on her own for a while she said. I have my good days and my bad since the split but the last week has been bad we are officially 1 week NC and iam more depressed than ever, it doesn't help me that a week after the split i came off my motor bike and broke my leg so i'm in a cast for the next 2 weeks and have been for the last 4, so I cant work, i'm unable to get out and excersise to clear my head im pretty much stuck at home 24/7 This last week especially i go to bed thinking about her and wake up thinking about her also i wake up everymorning feeling sick to my stomach thinking about her its hell i hate it i miss her alot, and just want to work things out.. i know once i can get out of the house and my leg is better and i get back to work things will get better i hope but thats still a good 3 to 4 weeks away, does anyone have any advice on feeling better any thing to read that will lift my spirits or keep my mind off my ex? thanks alot Link to post Share on other sites
Nohbody Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 Have you seen a movie called "Rear Window" with James Stewart? I wouldn't recommend going that route. What kinds of exercises can you do in the house with a cast? Push ups, sit ups or crunches, pull ups if you have the equipment, etc. Develop a routine that taxes you physically and mentally. Watch movies, read books, all the things I'm not doing that I should be Link to post Share on other sites
Sassygirl2 Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 How about reading some self help books? Ask a friend or relative to pick them up for you at the store or order on amazon. I can recommend some good ones if you like. It sucks being home stuck like that when you're hurting. I had a breakup 2 years ago and it happened 2 days before I came down with pneumonia. I ended up having to stay home ALONE for 3 weeks and it was hell. I slept a lot which was the only thing that helped at that time. Anyway, you will need to find some things to keep you busy - movies, reading, online research, drawing, painting, exercising what you can, talking to friends on the phone. It will get better. Take time to heal both mentally and physically. It's only been 5 weeks which is still early for you but it will start to get better soon! It took me about 6 weeks to start waking up without thinking of him. Post here - offer people advice if you can - we are all here for each other. Link to post Share on other sites
ECuellar Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 I have a similar story to yours. Me and my gf broke up its been over a month since we seen each other. While she's out there partying and having fun. While im home doing nothing but thinking. It sucks yes its hard to get over when there's nothing to get your mind off her. I started working and it helps because im out all day but when im home I just fall back into the same routine. I want her back but at the same time i dont because she isnt good for me. It hurts to know what she's doing while she's out there living it up. Only thing i recommend that has been working some what for me is to start talking to old friends or just friends in general hang out don't be stuck home. Your just stuck in your own misery im having to learn it the hard way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jacksonBrown Posted June 7, 2011 Author Share Posted June 7, 2011 hey nobody no i havn't seen rear window whats it about? yeh i do push ups and pull ups everyday and also eat very well ive got myself in good shape since the split i let my self go in the realashionship and put on 10 kilos and now i've lost it all evan with a broken leg hi sassy girl yes i have been reading self help books they are good and i enjoy reading them they do help with my motivation but at the same time i'm still stuck at home so i cant really put them to good use i have become way more pro active since the split but it seems to come and go in waves i'm good one day then super depressed the next but more up days than bad since the NC over the last week i've been pretty down i keep writing her letters then reading them ova and ova then deleting them. i dunno i'm in abit of a mess over her i evan was with another girl on the weekend just a one night stand it did nothing for helping me get over her Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 does anyone have any advice on feeling better any thing to read that will lift my spirits or keep my mind off my ex? thanks alot Go skydiving. Seriously Link to post Share on other sites
Author jacksonBrown Posted June 7, 2011 Author Share Posted June 7, 2011 Go skydiving. Seriously haha yer maybe when my leg heals up i'l do that Link to post Share on other sites
casual Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 One thing I learned about girls are that the don't like guys who chase, beg, plead, cry after them. My ex and I just broke up and we've been together for 7 years. Yeah it hurts so much, but hey I gotta learn how to deal with my mistakes and improve myself without her being there. Maybe one day you'll end up together again, maybe not. As long as she's not gone from the face of the Earth, I think I'll be alright. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jacksonBrown Posted June 7, 2011 Author Share Posted June 7, 2011 One thing I learned about girls are that the don't like guys who chase, beg, plead, cry after them. My ex and I just broke up and we've been together for 7 years. Yeah it hurts so much, but hey I gotta learn how to deal with my mistakes and improve myself without her being there. Maybe one day you'll end up together again, maybe not. As long as she's not gone from the face of the Earth, I think I'll be alright. your completely right.. but why is it so hard to get over someone she was my first real girlfriend we were together for 3 years but before that i was single for 17 years and was just fine.. the crasy thing was i was the one who iniciated the break up coz i wasnlt happy and we werent evan that itimate anymore but now that she's truly gone it crushes me that we cant try and work things out... deadly cycle Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 You're sad and lonely, and no wonder - a major source of your happiness and company has gone. I suggest you take this opportunity, this freedom, free time and calm period to ... do what you want to! Think of all the things you ever imagined yourself doing, but haven't got around to yet. Want to learn guitar? Buy a guitar, go to youtube, and learn. Want to lose some weight? Start doing some exercise and eating healthier. Keep a diet diary and see how changes to what you eat affects your weight and how you feel. Want company? Join a club, go to yoga lessons, learn a martial art, do some charity work. Want to feel good? Get a haircut with a proper wet shave, have a massage, buy some new clothes. Want to get rid of acne? Try out some new skin care products. Wash your hands regularly. Catch up with some old friends. And learn to enjoy everything you do, be it brush your teeth, staring out the window, going for a run, saying hello to the old dear next door, doing a bit of gardening. You're in a very interesting and exciting time in your life. It doesn't feel like it, but it really is. You can grow and learn and become better, just a bit, every day. And some days you will feel down, the melancholy clouds will cover the sun, but they will pass, just like real clouds, and you'll be back to your normal self in no time. You're a handsome, decent, caring, strong, flexible and unique man. You're the champion, the best friend you ever had. You're the man. You're unstoppable. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jacksonBrown Posted June 7, 2011 Author Share Posted June 7, 2011 You're sad and lonely, and no wonder - a major source of your happiness and company has gone. I suggest you take this opportunity, this freedom, free time and calm period to ... do what you want to! Think of all the things you ever imagined yourself doing, but haven't got around to yet. Want to learn guitar? Buy a guitar, go to youtube, and learn. Want to lose some weight? Start doing some exercise and eating healthier. Keep a diet diary and see how changes to what you eat affects your weight and how you feel. Want company? Join a club, go to yoga lessons, learn a martial art, do some charity work. Want to feel good? Get a haircut with a proper wet shave, have a massage, buy some new clothes. Want to get rid of acne? Try out some new skin care products. Wash your hands regularly. Catch up with some old friends. And learn to enjoy everything you do, be it brush your teeth, staring out the window, going for a run, saying hello to the old dear next door, doing a bit of gardening. You're in a very interesting and exciting time in your life. It doesn't feel like it, but it really is. You can grow and learn and become better, just a bit, every day. And some days you will feel down, the melancholy clouds will cover the sun, but they will pass, just like real clouds, and you'll be back to your normal self in no time. You're a handsome, decent, caring, strong, flexible and unique man. You're the champion, the best friend you ever had. You're the man. You're unstoppable. thanks for the kind words 'better deal' your completely right too positive thinking is the key and i have got back into my hobbies i've also lost 10 kilos and enrolled back in school so i've made positive changes in my life its just this heartbreak is way worse than my current broken leg i swear heartbreak is one of the most painfull emotions out there i really wouldn't wish this on anybody its like having the life sucked out of you and being left with nothingness and pining for her back.. its ruff... but yes it will pass in time... Link to post Share on other sites
Renard99 Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 hey nobody no i havn't seen rear window whats it about? It's about a guy who has an accident and breaks his leg, and, like you is house bound as he recovers. Whilst bored he spends time staring out of the window watching the people in the apartments opposite. Whilst doing so he suspects that he's witnessed a murder. The police aren't interested unless he has proof but being house bound he can't get any. He ropes in the woman who comes in an looks after him to investigate whilst he watches and directs her from his window vantage point. It's a very good film! It's an old black and white film but it was remade a few years back with Christopher Reeve Link to post Share on other sites
kcahs Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 Nothing will help only the passage of time. It's the only thing. In the mean time just hang in there. Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 thanks for the kind words 'better deal' your completely right too positive thinking is the key and i have got back into my hobbies i've also lost 10 kilos and enrolled back in school so i've made positive changes in my life its just this heartbreak is way worse than my current broken leg i swear heartbreak is one of the most painfull emotions out there i really wouldn't wish this on anybody its like having the life sucked out of you and being left with nothingness and pining for her back.. its ruff... but yes it will pass in time... You'll get there, man. It's not what you've lost but what you find that matters. Link to post Share on other sites
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