Owl Posted June 8, 2011 Share Posted June 8, 2011 So now I'm waiting to see if he's going to post about last night. Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted June 8, 2011 Share Posted June 8, 2011 Could be because he sees it can easily be construed as infidelity in the making (this thread clearly points that out). But remember, just because something can be interpretted a certain way doesnt necessarily make it so. Over think things much? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 8, 2011 Share Posted June 8, 2011 So now I'm waiting to see if he's going to post about last night. I really hope he gave it a lot of thought and decided not to go to meet this other woman from his past. If he did, he just opened pandora's box. Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted June 8, 2011 Share Posted June 8, 2011 I don't know that it matters if he went or not. He's already to the stage where he's concealing his interactions with her from his wife. Its already further along than he realizes. Meeting in person is just the "next step". Link to post Share on other sites
StoneCold Posted June 8, 2011 Share Posted June 8, 2011 Over think things much? No thats just common sense Link to post Share on other sites
StoneCold Posted June 8, 2011 Share Posted June 8, 2011 By the way, this woman is separated and presumably getting a divorce. She has nothing to lose by meeting you in a bar, possibly having a ONS or more. You do. You need to think about that. What does he have to lose if hes done nothing? Link to post Share on other sites
Author networkingman Posted June 8, 2011 Author Share Posted June 8, 2011 Ok I saw her last night..talked about old times and we made out in the parking lot. She said she's been thinking about me all this time and what could've been. Needless to say, I'm knee deep in it. Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted June 8, 2011 Share Posted June 8, 2011 Are you proud of yourself now? Link to post Share on other sites
superpunk Posted June 8, 2011 Share Posted June 8, 2011 I think what you're doing is wrong and stupid, but you already know that. I just want to point out something you may not realize. You mentioned that she is separating from her husband. You also described your previous relationship and it seemed that romantically at least, it was pretty one-sided. Every time you pushed too far, she shut it down. Well guess what dude - you're the rebound. She needs someone to break her fall from her failing marriage, she knows she had you wrapped around her finger before and she's ready to use you again - consequences to your own family be damned. So whatever you decide to do, just understand that's what this is. You're the safety net. The fallback plan. If she had really wanted to be with you she would have. Link to post Share on other sites
martini-mae Posted June 8, 2011 Share Posted June 8, 2011 Ok I saw her last night..talked about old times and we made out in the parking lot. She said she's been thinking about me all this time and what could've been. Needless to say, I'm knee deep in it. What a surprise Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted June 8, 2011 Share Posted June 8, 2011 Ok I saw her last night..talked about old times and we made out in the parking lot. She said she's been thinking about me all this time and what could've been. Needless to say, I'm knee deep in it. hmmmm, seems so many here told you what it would look like. so tell your wife. tell her that her jealousy is warranted. your thread from 2007 looks the same as this one... seems YOU have developed a pattern that COULD be the reason YOUR wife gets jealous. how YOU participate is key- you chose to see this OW (yes, she is now your OW) you spend time, energy and attention on her that could be spent on your wife. that's cheating your wife out of all those things that you could be investing into her/your M. people here warned you - yet you went anyway. and kissed her with passion... tell your wife. on the back side... looks like your W is looking for some attention elsewhere... hmmmm, seems when you don't pay attention to her - she goes searching on her own as well. interesting... lies, secrets and cover ups - do not make for a healthy relationship. you opened this can of worms - you've been here before - you know you COLD have shut it down - yet you grew this pile of $hit bigger... it's gonna take you down if you don't wake up to the reality of what you have now created. Link to post Share on other sites
PortuguesePrincess80 Posted June 8, 2011 Share Posted June 8, 2011 Sure hope this slut is worth risking your insanely jealous wife and 3 kids for! Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted June 8, 2011 Share Posted June 8, 2011 Sure hope this slut is worth risking your insanely jealous wife and 3 kids for! oh it is - because i'm not doing anything wrong by keeping it all a secret from my wife and kids... meanwhile feeding my enormous ego and lying to myself by justifying all the lies i keep telling to myself and others... risk? no risk... my wife won't find out... and she has no reason to be jealous the way she is... i give her no reasons to be jealous and suspicious! :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes: :sick::sick::sick::sick::sick::sick: stop lying to yourself and others! you are a cheater and a liar... who tells himself lies to feel that you aren't the man you show you are. your actions show what you are - your words now mean nothing... except that you lie. Link to post Share on other sites
What_Next Posted June 8, 2011 Share Posted June 8, 2011 Sure hope this slut is worth risking your insanely jealous wife and 3 kids for! Amen, amen. I suspect this thread will come to an end soon because "we don't understand". "their feelings are real". "his wife doesn't understand him like she does". and so on, all a COMPLETE and utter load of ______. Selfish, selfish, selfish. If you had any ba__s whatsoever you'd have left your wife before starting this affair. Sadly you don't, you are a coward and your 'friend' is a tramp. Plain and simple. Go enjoy some selfish sex with her in some cheap motel room. What a crock of :sick: Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 8, 2011 Share Posted June 8, 2011 Ok I saw her last night..talked about old times and we made out in the parking lot. She said she's been thinking about me all this time and what could've been. Needless to say, I'm knee deep in it. Can't say I'm not surprised... So, what now? What do you want to happen next? Yep, you're in it knee deep but you CAN make a decision to not let it happen again and you can end things with her. Sadly, I don't think you will, you're going to go for it and have a full on affair. Link to post Share on other sites
Steadfast Posted June 8, 2011 Share Posted June 8, 2011 Sure hope this slut is worth risking your insanely jealous wife and 3 kids for! Nope, ,you've got it wrong PP; he did the right thing. Absolutely. He's been seeking outside action for awhile now. It'll probably hurt the children, but in the long run the family will be better off. Hopefully, she'll soon replace him with the kind of strong, selfless leader this family needs and deserves. Ahh...I just love a happy ending! =) Link to post Share on other sites
Steadfast Posted June 8, 2011 Share Posted June 8, 2011 (edited) ...Otherwise this is a pointless, learn nothing thread that wastes bandwidth with the OP's desire for attention and drama. How far gone is he? Even when his lie was exposed he rattled on, unfazed and unashamed. Is this cat the exception, or rule? Really, the given his history and post content, the whole thing could be a fabrication. Edited June 8, 2011 by Steadfast Link to post Share on other sites
OldOnTheInside Posted June 8, 2011 Share Posted June 8, 2011 You know OP...I can't tell if you are trolling (I've been suspecting this since the start) or just comically stubborn. Either way, you have over ten pages of people slamming their skulls into a brick wall. Amazing. There's nothing else to say, except to talk to your "insanely jealous" wifey about all of your marital problems and endure the upcoming sh*t storm. Enjoy the sh*t. Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted June 8, 2011 Share Posted June 8, 2011 It was interesting to see these two posts come consecutively, just 40 minutes apart: What does he have to lose if hes done nothing? Ok I saw her last night..talked about old times and we made out in the parking lot. She said she's been thinking about me all this time and what could've been. Needless to say, I'm knee deep in it. Stone - I never claimed I could absolutely predict the future with 100% certainty, but I did think that given all the setup and all the evidence, it seemed to me that he was putting himself into a high risk situation. On the other hand, he was clearly looking for any excuse to minimize the importance and justify the meeting as "no big deal", and you did that same denial/justification argument right along with him. Yes, if you're particularly stubborn you could still argue that we had no way of knowing for sure in advance, but when the evidence is heavily weighted in a direction that experience has shown is risky, how much sense does it make to close your eyes and say "...but there is still a chance that it could possibly be nothing, so I'm going to base my behavior on that assumption..." What are you going to say: "up to the point where he did something, he had done nothing, so I was absolutely right, up to that point..." Yeah sure, OK, you win... Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted June 8, 2011 Share Posted June 8, 2011 Ok I saw her last night..talked about old times and we made out in the parking lot. She said she's been thinking about me all this time and what could've been. Needless to say, I'm knee deep in it. I expect you will find yourself deeper than your knees pretty soon. You are an interesting study - on one hand you welcome the criticisms (even the harsh ones) and sounded like you were listening, but on the other hand, you remained, as OldOnTheInside put it, "comically stubborn" about NOT really changing the path you were on. So do you actually have any facility for self-examination? In looking back over your process that got you to this point, do you think you were always headed for this, and just denying the reality, or did you really (is it even possible for you to be honest here?) innocently think this was no big deal, and you then got "bewitched" right there in real time? How do you describe what brought you to this point? Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted June 8, 2011 Share Posted June 8, 2011 Ok I saw her last night..talked about old times and we made out in the parking lot. She said she's been thinking about me all this time and what could've been. Needless to say, I'm knee deep in it. Really?? Who goes from "never cheated, not interested" to "knee deep" in a matter of hours? Knee deep in something, methinks 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ladydesigner Posted June 8, 2011 Share Posted June 8, 2011 It was interesting to see these two posts come consecutively, just 40 minutes apart: Stone - I never claimed I could absolutely predict the future with 100% certainty, but I did think that given all the setup and all the evidence, it seemed to me that he was putting himself into a high risk situation. On the other hand, he was clearly looking for any excuse to minimize the importance and justify the meeting as "no big deal", and you did that same denial/justification argument right along with him. Yes, if you're particularly stubborn you could still argue that we had no way of knowing for sure in advance, but when the evidence is heavily weighted in a direction that experience has shown is risky, how much sense does it make to close your eyes and say "...but there is still a chance that it could possibly be nothing, so I'm going to base my behavior on that assumption..." What are you going to say: "up to the point where he did something, he had done nothing, so I was absolutely right, up to that point..." Yeah sure, OK, you win... Haha:lmao: I was thinking the same exact thing. Although now reading through this thread I think he was dead set on this date going forward with hopes that this would be the outcome. Too bad. There was a lot of great advice on this thread, advice that if I had come to LS before having my revenge best served cold I most likely would have thought twice or three times about what I was about to do. I feel sorry for you networkingman, if you thought you were confused before you have a whole lot of confusion now. You have just complicated your life in a way that could have been avoided completely and will most likely have a fallout that will cost you and your family dearly. Link to post Share on other sites
YellowShark Posted June 8, 2011 Share Posted June 8, 2011 Ok I saw her last night..talked about old times and we made out in the parking lot. She said she's been thinking about me all this time and what could've been. Needless to say, I'm knee deep in it. uhhhh... aren't you married dude? You now are officially taking passion and emotion from your marriage and investing those emotions into another woman. Bummer. Sadly the first step in this dangerous unhealthy path you have chosen networkingman was being able to find an old flame from 17 years ago with a few quick mouse clicks on Facebook. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted June 8, 2011 Share Posted June 8, 2011 uhhhh... aren't you married dude? You now are taking passion and emotion from your marriage and investing it into another woman. Bummer. Sadly the first step in this dangerous unhealthy path you have chosen networkingman was being able to find an old flame from 17 years ago with a few quick mouse clicks on Facebook. he's been here a while - and has this same pattern in his past... read his old thread. Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 8, 2011 Share Posted June 8, 2011 2Sunny, doesn't this remind you a bit of "Foggy" and his foggy fantasy? Oh ... excuse me, I mean "research project"? Link to post Share on other sites
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