Lentil Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 We had a nice weekend last week. He asked me out for lunch and we had a really nice time. Talked about the fact that we still loved each other and how we both wanted to make it work again. This was a surprise -- he just blurted it out. (We've been married for more than a decade. We have been separated but living in the same house for a few months). It felt real. But I was wary. He's hurt me so much. He said he wanted to go to couples counselling to work on our issues. But then on Sunday came the tears....we got to taking about upcoming plans....and.... He told me he had plans next weekend -- his birthday no less (the weekend that just passed with the OW). I blew up. He said the plans were already made and the tickets paid for. He said, "we were broken up when the plans we made, how did I know we'd be having this talk". Then he rattled off 20 other excuses and rationalizations....Not wanting to disappoint her. She bough an outfit...it was like listening to a person I don't even know. A very strange and irrational person. He says he loves me but he needs time. Can I please be patient. He said he loves me and he loves her too but he's trying to break away from her. He says she does not love him back. Blah, blah, ...it's so hard. I am so confused.... He just got home. I was in the den so I did not have to see him. He came in and said hello. Looking like he wanted to talk (there was no reason to come to the den really). I said hello back and turned away. Childish? Maybe. I am so upset. He went away with her on his birthday. I feel like chopped liver. I feel like I mean nothing. What kind of man says he wants to get back together one day and the next says he's going on a trip? I feel that if he really meant it he would have cancelled the trip. But he did not. I am so angry and hurt. Next weekend he said they also have plans that are booked and does not want to disappoint her. What about me, his wife who's been there for him? I am stupid. If he goes away again next weekend what more proof do I need that it has to be over. That were done. Actions speak louder than words, why can't I get that through my head? Link to post Share on other sites
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