longlegzs80 Posted April 16, 2004 Share Posted April 16, 2004 How many people on this site find themselves feeling as if they are missing something in their lives? I have felt like this for sometime but don't know what it is. Just curious as to if people find their lives to be incomplete in some way. And if you have, what do you do about it? Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted April 16, 2004 Share Posted April 16, 2004 Yes, a job, and a girl. Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted April 16, 2004 Share Posted April 16, 2004 i was missing some chemicals in my brain. life's allright otherwise, nothing _missing_ but lots i'd like to add! -yes Link to post Share on other sites
reasontosigh Posted April 16, 2004 Share Posted April 16, 2004 Anything I feel I am missing in life at this point generally requires more money than I can actually afford - at present, anyway. Since I know I can't have it both ways, and have a smaller cash flow to work with, I must work with an increased "struggle operating budget". I have faith all will work out eventually in the end, but I will also be smoothing out a few extra worry lines in the process. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted April 16, 2004 Share Posted April 16, 2004 I am saying this with all honesty.....I miss the spiritual connection I once had in my life before everything went terribly wrong. Instead of having what I needed to turn to....I blocked it all out. I am an idiot. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted April 16, 2004 Share Posted April 16, 2004 1 - a chunk more living space 2 - a fair bit more cash 3 - a good helping more of self-discipline Probably they would bring each other about if I started with #3 Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted April 16, 2004 Share Posted April 16, 2004 Absolutely nothing. I have everything that I need, and will find everything I am looking for. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted April 16, 2004 Share Posted April 16, 2004 Originally posted by dyermaker Absolutely nothing. I have everything that I need, and will find everything I am looking for. HAHA..easy to say when your whole life is ahead of you. Sometimes I really think I've already stomped down my most valuable ground. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted April 16, 2004 Share Posted April 16, 2004 I believe that everyone finds what they're looking for. Some are only looking for the delusional pursuit of what they think they're looking for. Link to post Share on other sites
Fedup&givingup Posted April 16, 2004 Share Posted April 16, 2004 MY COLLEGE DEGREE!!!!!! Oh, how I wish my MBA now Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted April 16, 2004 Share Posted April 16, 2004 It's natural for most people to feel this way at some points in their lives. There are some who feel they may be missing love, others who feel there is a special job out there for them but most who have this feeling can't put their hands right on what is missing. This situation is called an existential crisis. It's OK to feel this way, it does pass after a time unless it's induced by some sort of depression that needs tending to. Most people who have a good sense of themselves and who are happy don't often have this feeling even when things are going wrong. I think keeping an optimistic attitude and knowing whatever is missing will soon appear is the best way to stay out of this sort of funk. Hey, this is the only life you're gonna get. You can waste it all obsessing with BS that's missing or bad in your life or you can smile and get out there to make the best of it. It's a choice we all have to make. Link to post Share on other sites
hurtingandconfused Posted April 16, 2004 Share Posted April 16, 2004 And if you have, what do you do about it? Yes I have a huge gap/void/hole. You pursue you dreams. Do what your heart tells you. Complete you true destiny! Link to post Share on other sites
echocrush Posted April 16, 2004 Share Posted April 16, 2004 I think I am missing or I must be because I keep getting the urge to go on an old fashioned hippie journey to find myself... Link to post Share on other sites
Tkay Posted April 16, 2004 Share Posted April 16, 2004 getting affection from a girl, being loved (as in boy-girl, not son-parents.), being in someone's arms, .... argh, I'm getting all corny again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author longlegzs80 Posted April 17, 2004 Author Share Posted April 17, 2004 All I want out of life is very simple. Everyone knows I want to be happy, but I want to be loved. I want someeone who would truely care for me and love me unconditionally. I find myself attracting older men, but it seems like I want them to fill the viod or the whole that my father has left in my life. Another thing I want is to have at least one decent friend, someone I could consider a best friend. Hard to find people who I can get along with and have a very tight bond with. Link to post Share on other sites
Goatsbreath Posted April 17, 2004 Share Posted April 17, 2004 Hey longlegzs....I was wondering if you could explain a little to me about this attracting older men thing. You see, my recent X cheated on me with a older man....someone that is her fathers age. Anyway, long story short- she said she didn't know what would make her attracted to him. She felt some type father figure thing going on. Thing is, she has a father but I guess he was very verbally abusive. Anyway, I couldn't take all this mess anymore so I got out. Still, Im curious to know if you actually act on these older men or is it gross. I guess I dont get it and it messed me up. Link to post Share on other sites
Author longlegzs80 Posted April 17, 2004 Author Share Posted April 17, 2004 Very interesting Goatsbreath. I have never had a father figure in my life. My father used to abuse my mother both physically and verbally and emotionally and he just has no desire to be apart of my life. Anyways, I find that older men are the only ones attracted to me. And if I do develop feelings for them, it is kinda like filling the void of my father not being apart of my life. Not sure if this makes sense. I guess I go for older men not only to be attracted to some, but to get the love(not sex), caring that I have not recieved from my father. If that makes any sense. I look at it this way, I have never had my father around, and it has affected me big time as far as relationships go. I have never been loved by my father nor cared for, and that is what I get from these older men if I meet an older man. Sounds odd, but it kinda makes sense, it makes sense to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Goatsbreath Posted April 17, 2004 Share Posted April 17, 2004 Yeah, but isn't there a difference between wanting a romantic loving relationship/ someone to spend a life with and have kids and then just wanting some old guy to fill the place of your father. Link to post Share on other sites
MarKus Posted April 17, 2004 Share Posted April 17, 2004 Everything is great right now.....but theres 1 thing missing.....not being around the only one girl i care about most I love you sam Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted April 17, 2004 Share Posted April 17, 2004 Having a real man near me, not a baby... A bit more will... I need to get angrier, I'm being to much of a wus Gonna get there with the last two. Soon I hope. Link to post Share on other sites
Samson Posted April 18, 2004 Share Posted April 18, 2004 Its a toss up between being blueballed with my pants around my ankles and someone knawing me like a hunk of cheese or giving me a hand job that would makes a dairy farmer blush. Link to post Share on other sites
Author longlegzs80 Posted April 18, 2004 Author Share Posted April 18, 2004 I know it don't make much sense. But if your the type of person who has never had a father figure in your life, you are always urning for that. Yeah, I want a loving romantic relationship with someone, but it just so happens that if I do meet a man, they are always older and they are there for me as far as cares for me and loves me then my father ever has. I know it don't make sense, but it is hard to explain. Originally posted by Goatsbreath Yeah, but isn't there a difference between wanting a romantic loving relationship/ someone to spend a life with and have kids and then just wanting some old guy to fill the place of your father. Link to post Share on other sites
average guy Posted April 18, 2004 Share Posted April 18, 2004 I want more of everything! Link to post Share on other sites
Author longlegzs80 Posted April 18, 2004 Author Share Posted April 18, 2004 I want to be loved and cared for, and be intimate with someone who can hold me and caress me and where we enjoy eachothers company. Link to post Share on other sites
gypsygem Posted April 18, 2004 Share Posted April 18, 2004 I guess I go for older men not only to be attracted to some, but to get the love(not sex), caring that I have not recieved from my father. If that makes any sense. Makes total sense to me...My mom and dad divorced when I was 6 months old, and I was raised by a stepfather who never accepted or loved me because I wasn't his child. Furthermore, I was raised with his 3 biological children, whom he favored, and loved very much. I always go for the older men too. They make me feel safe and warm. having been abandoned by my father has left me with a fear of instability and of being abandoned by men I love. I never go for the "player" type of guys, because I know if I fell in love with one, and he played me, it would be very painful. I have gone through therapy for this, and am now secure with myself (much more than before), but some feelings, especially ones you have lived with your entire life, from the time you were just a baby, will always haunt you, no matter how secure you have learned to become with yourself. Now, I just try to pursue those who want me the way I am, insecurities and all, and I try very hard to be upfront about myself when I meet a guy that I like, so he can choose if he wants to be with me and my insecurities. There is someone out there for everyone, and none of us are completely secure, or we wouldn't be human. Gypsy Link to post Share on other sites
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