Author Fedor Posted June 10, 2011 Author Share Posted June 10, 2011 Its like watching a soap opera with a bad ending. keep us posted friend. Indeed lol but tonight felt like a break through. She told me that she sees in look in my eye that she has never seen before. A look that she says that I lost throughout the relationship. I see good things to come. But nothing is ever sure. I'm not putting my eggs in one basket. She needs to make the effort and I give her credit for trying to reach out. Lets see how this goes. Just got to take it day by day. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fedor Posted June 10, 2011 Author Share Posted June 10, 2011 I'm thinking to myself if I'm setting myself up for disaster. Cant second guess my decisions now. I'm happy for now but at the same time I'm thinking about the negatives. Link to post Share on other sites
timchambo Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 She didn't leave you for something you did. She made thar clear when she said she is young and wants to be single. She tells you things like "that look in your eye is back" to keep you hooked. Makes you think you can do something to get her back. Truth is she wouldn't release you to the wild if she wanted you in the future. What's to say you won't run off with someone else? Would you let someone free you wanted in the future? She keeps you hooked because it feels good to be wanted. We all want to be wanted. Speaking from experience here. You can ignore her and the calls and texts may slow down, but that hasn't ended them in my case. You need to end contact before the replacement shows up in the picture. She is obviously looking for him, regardless of what she says. Just look at her actions. Once the pain is gone you will most likely be hit with this wave of motivation...I was. Just surround yourself with good people and use this time in your life to catapult your life into someplace you always dreamed of being. You don't want to be looking back 6 months from now from the same, or worse, position you are in now...somebody else's backup plan. Go be the man, your standards will change and most likely you will look at her as someone you'd probably not date had you met then. Best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fedor Posted June 11, 2011 Author Share Posted June 11, 2011 She didn't leave you for something you did. She made thar clear when she said she is young and wants to be single. She tells you things like "that look in your eye is back" to keep you hooked. Makes you think you can do something to get her back. Truth is she wouldn't release you to the wild if she wanted you in the future. What's to say you won't run off with someone else? Would you let someone free you wanted in the future? She keeps you hooked because it feels good to be wanted. We all want to be wanted. Speaking from experience here. You can ignore her and the calls and texts may slow down, but that hasn't ended them in my case. You need to end contact before the replacement shows up in the picture. She is obviously looking for him, regardless of what she says. Just look at her actions. Once the pain is gone you will most likely be hit with this wave of motivation...I was. Just surround yourself with good people and use this time in your life to catapult your life into someplace you always dreamed of being. You don't want to be looking back 6 months from now from the same, or worse, position you are in now...somebody else's backup plan. Go be the man, your standards will change and most likely you will look at her as someone you'd probably not date had you met then. Best of luck. Well, these past few days have been good with her. We have just been having fun. She tells me that she loves me and stuff and that if we try again that it has to be different. But I do see where your coming from. I dont think she is capable of finding a replacement like that. Then again, I didnt know she was capable of this. Decisions decisions. Link to post Share on other sites
Nohbody Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 Then again, I didnt know she was capable of this. Decisions decisions. You'll be surprised what people are capable of, even if you love them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fedor Posted June 11, 2011 Author Share Posted June 11, 2011 You'll be surprised what people are capable of, even if you love them. True that. She has a hotel room with her friend this weekend and invited me to come down for a little tomorrow. I dont know if I should. She could be doing anything with anybody right now in that room. Link to post Share on other sites
fetish Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 fedor hate to be pessimistic to your situation. But your girl is holding on because she doesn't want to let you go completely. Meaning she's confused and you're a backup plan. I believe timchambo was right. If she was willing to risk losing you, you are not really in her longterm plans. Be careful bro. That's all i'm sayin. Get your swirve on wit other girls while she's making up her mind. Don't wait on her. My ex still texts me trying to meet up but i've found that its all games and basically trying to make sure that i don't forget her. It's all about herself and not her love for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fedor Posted June 11, 2011 Author Share Posted June 11, 2011 fedor hate to be pessimistic to your situation. But your girl is holding on because she doesn't want to let you go completely. Meaning she's confused and you're a backup plan. I believe timchambo was right. If she was willing to risk losing you, you are not really in her longterm plans. Be careful bro. That's all i'm sayin. Get your swirve on wit other girls while she's making up her mind. Don't wait on her. My ex still texts me trying to meet up but i've found that its all games and basically trying to make sure that i don't forget her. It's all about herself and not her love for me. I understand your point of view. I'm trying to look at it from angles. I just love this girl but at the same time I have a bad feeling in the back of my mind. She told me she was drinking last night and that is not like her at all. She was always against that stuff. I just want my old gf back. Link to post Share on other sites
fetish Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 I understand your point of view. I'm trying to look at it from angles. I just love this girl but at the same time I have a bad feeling in the back of my mind. She told me she was drinking last night and that is not like her at all. She was always against that stuff. I just want my old gf back. That's where we get tripped up, thinking that just because they're the same physical person means that they're the same person they were when we met them. I'm still struggling with this. The real fact of the matter is that people change. It really has nothing to do with you. People have told me this, so i'm going to repeat it on here: Don't focus on the way things used to be, focus on the way they are now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fedor Posted June 12, 2011 Author Share Posted June 12, 2011 Had a good day with her today. I want to talk more about our feelings though. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fedor Posted June 12, 2011 Author Share Posted June 12, 2011 She told me that she wants to be back with me last night. It's surprising. Trying to figure out what kind of pace to take. I know she has changed through this process so I dont know, maybe I dont even want to be with this "new" girl that she is. I still feel so much for her when were together so I hope things will work out. Link to post Share on other sites
fetish Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 well good look to you bro. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fedor Posted June 13, 2011 Author Share Posted June 13, 2011 well good look to you bro. Thank you. I plan on taking it slow this time. Were not officially back together but were getting close. Will keep updating. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fedor Posted June 14, 2011 Author Share Posted June 14, 2011 Letting everyone know we got back together tonight It feels good. I want to thank everyone for there help and support! It helped me alot through this. Hopefully things work out for the best. Link to post Share on other sites
sun_moon Posted June 14, 2011 Share Posted June 14, 2011 all the best and good luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
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