sara04 Posted April 16, 2004 Share Posted April 16, 2004 My bf broke up with me a little over 3 months ago... Since that time, I felt I have moved on and finally realized that this was all for the better. I went on my first date last night since the break-up and all I could do was compare him to my ex-bf. That night, after the date, I went home and cried myself to sleep. I realize that I should not be dating at all. I need to work on myself and my career and making myself happy before I date anyone or even consider jumping into another relationship... Anyway, I just feel really sad today. Last night I took out a picture of my ex-bf and I. Maybe I should have thrown it away. I looked at it for a long time and everything came flooding back... It's still hard sometimes. Then my friend told me that my old college roommate is engaged. For some reason, rather than being happy for her, I felt depressed. I felt that at this time I could have been engaged too, since my ex-bf and I had been talking about it. Most of all, I think I am jealous.. That she found someone to share her life with who was willing to commit. Sometimes I feel guilt. Sometimes I feel anger towards my ex. I feel a range of emotions, which I know is normal. I really, really felt that I was over him. I was thinking of him less and less each day. Yesterday, it just came all back. I felt so much pain again. Why did I look at our picture again? I hate this. I hate what happened. I hate that I am jealous. I want to know how to get over this.. completely. Maybe I won't completely get over it. I don't know. I just wanted to get this out... Link to post Share on other sites
reggio Posted April 16, 2004 Share Posted April 16, 2004 Give yourself time to heal. Try to occupy your time with doing things for yourself. Stay focused on what is more important now, You! I'm sure you'll do just fine. Peace Link to post Share on other sites
YssaBoo Posted April 16, 2004 Share Posted April 16, 2004 Is there any chance that you two will get back together? More details would help us help you. I believe in second chances,that is what my ex and I are trying to do. Link to post Share on other sites
sara04 Posted April 16, 2004 Share Posted April 16, 2004 actually, there is no chance we will. it was a really horrible break-up. two days before he came over and told me it was over, he said that he loved me and wanted to marry me someday, that if we ever broke up that it wouldn't happen and that he would be chasing me everyday until i came back.... THEN two days later he comes over and says we need to split up, there is no changing his mind, and that i should never contact him ever again because he will ignore me. it was gutwrenchingly awful. he was the sweetest, most kind man i had ever met up until that point.. when he broke up with me. i really doubt there will be any reconciliation, since what he did to me hurt me so much. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted April 16, 2004 Share Posted April 16, 2004 What happened to you is that during yout date you realised you've definetely lost your ex. Going out with someone new after a too shorter period of time has this effect. Maybe you forced yourself to have a date and wasn't completely emotionally healed. It does get tough at time and it does take a lot of time. Be indulgent to yourself, accept and learn from your mistakes and move on. It is good, you'll feel better next time, maybe even get to enjoy the date if you're lucky - not too funny, I know! I for someone who tried a second time, am saying it's not gonna work. You loose time and you're not getting over it. You've came very far, don't go back, it's only gonna hurt more. Different can mean better at times, you know Link to post Share on other sites
sara04 Posted April 16, 2004 Share Posted April 16, 2004 thank you for your kind words and advice... it's funny how you think you are completely over it, and then these feelings come crashing back into your life.. i know i will move on and get over this. Link to post Share on other sites
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