MyHeartHurtsOuch Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 I was driving to the gym and I saw his car and I ended up next to him and I saw theres a girl with him. I honked and he didn't turn and so I honked again and the girl turned to look at me (I was on his side not hers) and then i yelled "hey" and he turned and was like "OHHH HEYYY!!!" and then the light turned green so I took off. The next light we were next to each other again and he just looked at me for a second and then made a "sorry you had to see this" face. And the last light he didnt even turn to look at me and he turned into his apt complex. So here I am. In pain. Now I know he's with someone. And he took her to his place. She's a tall skinny blonde who I'm sure he met through volleyball so he's happy. I don't know how he can do this. I couldnt even think of going on a date and this seems like she's his g.f I mean going to his apt? How am I supposed to get rid of that image? This hurts so bad. I never wanted to see that. I guess this will help me get out of denial. I wanted to text him and say "don't EVER contact me again" last i heard from him was two weeks ago when he emailed me to ask if we could please open up a line of communication and that he so "selfishly wants and wishes so much"...now I know that he means he wants to be able to talk to me while he has a girl. Im so hurt. I wonder if he thinks i am gonna text him? I shouldn't text him right? I hope he feels like crap right now. Link to post Share on other sites
fofiffs Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 Sorry to hear that you had to see him with someone else. But if I were you I wouldn't text him at all. Don't be an option to him. Link to post Share on other sites
Lilmisus Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 Don't text him. Especially don't text him to never contact you again..since it's not like he rubbed it in your face that he was with her..it was just an accidental siting. One that you probably would have been better off without seeing. And at least though he gave you a "sorry you saw this" look rather than a huge smirk that screamed "In your face, ho!" But also, don't jump to just assume that he was seeing her two weeks ago when he messaged you that. He could have met her a week ago..or sooner or later. May have known her..may not have. You don't know, and that's the point. Don't drive yourself crazy by making assumptions that you're not sure about. It just makes both you and him look worse than you actually are. Take this though, as a way to try to close the door on any hope of him, and to fully allow yourself to move on from what y'all had. That's the best you can do now, even though it will probably take some more time. Link to post Share on other sites
fetish Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 hell no don't text him. it would make you look a little desperate and like you still care. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MyHeartHurtsOuch Posted June 9, 2011 Author Share Posted June 9, 2011 I want to send him an email...telling him how now i know why he didn't reply to my text a month ago about us starting fresh Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 To hell with that guy! Don't give him the satisfaction of knowing that this hurt you! Convey the attitude that is no different than water off a ducks ass! He's her problem now! He's just a guy and they are a dime a dozen! (accept for me, I think I'm a damn good 50 cent piece! ) Hold your head up high! You are gonna get through this. There is a guy out there for you and compliments you in everyway possible. He's looking for you right now. Enjoy your life, be happy; because, one day this guy is gonna find you. And then this guy is gonna be a distant memory! Link to post Share on other sites
usabup Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 I was driving to the gym and I saw his car and I ended up next to him and I saw theres a girl with him. I honked and he didn't turn and so I honked again and the girl turned to look at me (I was on his side not hers) and then i yelled "hey" and he turned and was like "OHHH HEYYY!!!" and then the light turned green so I took off. The next light we were next to each other again and he just looked at me for a second and then made a "sorry you had to see this" face. And the last light he didnt even turn to look at me and he turned into his apt complex. So here I am. In pain. Now I know he's with someone. And he took her to his place. She's a tall skinny blonde who I'm sure he met through volleyball so he's happy. I don't know how he can do this. I couldnt even think of going on a date and this seems like she's his g.f I mean going to his apt? How am I supposed to get rid of that image? This hurts so bad. I never wanted to see that. I guess this will help me get out of denial. I wanted to text him and say "don't EVER contact me again" last i heard from him was two weeks ago when he emailed me to ask if we could please open up a line of communication and that he so "selfishly wants and wishes so much"...now I know that he means he wants to be able to talk to me while he has a girl. Im so hurt. I wonder if he thinks i am gonna text him? I shouldn't text him right? I hope he feels like crap right now. Seriously, this is the BEST thing that could of happened. I always say this and people think I'm crazy. But let me explain why... When your ex dumps you, your biggest fear is always that they will end up with someone else. You know that when the time comes and you find out about it, its going to be pain like you could never imagine. And that's true. But you see the thing is, once it happens, that's when you hit rock bottom. And the reason that is such a good thing is because from now on, you can only feel better! It can't get any worse. Although it hurts now, you know you will survive this. Everyday you will start to feel a little better, without the wondering about what he is doing and whether he is with someone else. You know he is now, so there is no more wondering for you. That's a great thing. Because now you KNOW that you have to move on. Now you KNOW there is no way back. That makes things so much easier. I know you feel awful now, but just keep telling yourself, it can only get better from this moment on. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 +1 on USAbup's post! Link to post Share on other sites
Author MyHeartHurtsOuch Posted June 9, 2011 Author Share Posted June 9, 2011 I hope so cause right now i just feel terrible. I feel guilty for the mistakes i made in the relationship and the way i treated him (controlling, needy) and then I imagine her treating him way better. All my exes marry the girl they are with after me. It's like i help make them into an awesome guy and when they are with the next girl they dont make any of the mistakes they made with me. I wanted to email him and be like I freaking cried for 3 months straight thinking okay we have to have this separation so we can work on ourselves and all the while you just up and moved on to a new girl. you're right the best worst news is that I already saw him now and now I no longer have to let myself wonder if maybe he is just working on himself and focusing on work. Nope he's with a new girl. That's just what he does. And he did it again. I hope this helps me. For now its killing me Link to post Share on other sites
Author MyHeartHurtsOuch Posted June 9, 2011 Author Share Posted June 9, 2011 To hell with that guy! Don't give him the satisfaction of knowing that this hurt you! Convey the attitude that is no different than water off a ducks ass! He's her problem now! He's just a guy and they are a dime a dozen! (accept for me, I think I'm a damn good 50 cent piece! ) Hold your head up high! You are gonna get through this. There is a guy out there for you and compliments you in everyway possible. He's looking for you right now. Enjoy your life, be happy; because, one day this guy is gonna find you. And then this guy is gonna be a distant memory! Dont you think he knows. I mean he did give me that look. he knows. He's known this whole time that I'm just sitting there waiting for him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MyHeartHurtsOuch Posted June 9, 2011 Author Share Posted June 9, 2011 I feel like going NC was what allowed him to move on. It didn't help me. It helped him. Link to post Share on other sites
ItsRainingAgain Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 Do not text him! NC! I can't even imagine how you feel right now...this is my biggest fear...seeing my ex bf with another girl. I don't know how I will be able to deal with it. Stay strong! Link to post Share on other sites
inandouttalove Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 Oh Im so sorry that has to be the worst feelingI hope in time you heal and find someone who is deserving of you. I had to read this twice cause this also happens to me I dont know I thought I was the only 1 that happened to you said and I quote ::::: (All my exes marry the girl they are with after me. It's like i help make them into an awesome guy and when they are with the next girl they dont make any of the mistakes they made with me) I have that feeling in my stomach now my ex and I havent spoken for over 2 wks his choice no explanation just up and vanished he has never gone this long without talking to me and I believe he is with another he has neither confimed nor denied this but I dont know im just sorry that it happened to you, I feel for you I really do in time all pain will pass be strong find the love you deserve for we all need that Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 Dont you think he knows. I mean he did give me that look. he knows. He's known this whole time that I'm just sitting there waiting for him. Wrong guy. The guy I'm talking about is someone you haven't met yet! Link to post Share on other sites
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